Sunday 10 December 2006

... 轉向思考 ...

這是一本我覺得值得一讀的好書。

你是否是有讀序的人? (i think should be Preface?)

我從來是個會跳過讀序的一位讀者。但是,最近再度在臺灣作家吳淡如小姐的《1分鐘生命思考》接觸,我另有所領悟。

她在書裏提到一些簡單的轉向思考的遊戲,蠻令人有深一層的自我反省的作用。以下就是那些問題:

問題一∶ 如果你家附近有一家餐廳,東西又貴又難吃,服務生很不客氣,桌上還爬著蟑螂,你會因爲它很方便,因而一而再、再而三的光顧嗎?

解答∶

應該不會吧。你一定會說,這是什麼爛問題,誰那麼笨,花錢找罪受啊?如果你是個美食家,必然覺得這種蠢行爲不可原諒。

不過,讓我們換個角度來想,就會明白,自己或許做過類似的蠢事。不少男女都會抱怨過他們的情人或另一半:好賭酗酒、品行不端、三心二意、不負責任,既讓自己虛耗青春,付出許多代價,又縂不能尊守承諾,明知道在一起沒什麼太好的結局,未來不會比現在更幸福,恨已經比愛還多,但是卻[不知道爲什麽]還要和他攪和下去,分不了手,説穿了,只是爲了不甘,爲了習慣,這也不和光臨爛餐廳一樣?

問題二∶ 如果你不小心丟掉一百塊錢,只知道它好像丟在某個你走過的地方,你會花兩百塊錢的車費去把那一百塊錢找回來嗎?

解答:

這也是一個超級蠢問題,對不對?可是,相似的事情卻在人生中不斷發生。

做錯了一件事,明知自己有問題,卻死也不肯認錯,反而花加倍的時間來找藉口,讓別人對自己的印象大打折扣。

被人罵了一句話,卻花了無數時間難過,道理相同。

爲了一件事發火,不惜損人不利己,不惜血本不惜時間,只為報復,不也一樣無聊? 失去一個人的感情,明知道一切亦無法挽回,卻還是那麽的傷心,一傷心就是好幾年,比談那個感情存續的時間還常一些,借酒消愁、行銷骨毀,一點用也沒有,只是損失更多。

問題三: 你會因爲打開報紙發現每天都有車禍,就不敢出門嗎?

解答:

當然不會,這叫因噎廢食。說得精確一點,應該説是別人噎到,自己就不敢吃飯。

然而,有不少人卻對我説:看到現在離婚率那麼高,我都不敢談戀愛了,說得還挺理所當然。也有不少女人看到有關外遇的諸多報道,就對自己的另一半憂心忡忡,不也是類似的反應?

所謂樂觀,就是得相信,雖然道路多艱險,我還是那個會平安過馬路的人;只要我小心一點,不必害怕過馬路。

問題四: 你相信,成功是很沒頭沒腦的,每個人隨便都可以成功立業嗎?

解答: 過分樂觀是一種蠢行,聰明的你必然會贊同,成功人士總是發現,每一次當有人要求給他一個建議,改變目前自己也不滿意的生活、別再一是無成,在聼完成功人士絞盡腦汁的How To 建議 (比如説,多讀書,多練習……) 之後,問了另外一個問題∶[那不是很難嗎?] 我們似乎都想三分鐘内學好英文,在五分鐘内解決所有難題。

難道,成功是那麽容易的嗎?改變當然都是難的。成功縂因不怕困難,所以才能出類拔萃。

成功不是隨便來,別人的錢也不好賺。深究起來,沒有人沒費過功夫,如果不是費過功夫,就是他的祖上曾經大費周章,都不是[不難]。我們實在不該抱怨困難。

問題五: 你認爲完全沒有打過籃球的人,可以當很好的籃球教練?

解答: 當然不可能,外行不可能領導内行。可是,有許多人,對某個行業完全不了解,只聽到那個行業好賺,就馬上開起業來了。穿著沒有品味,或根本不在乎穿著的人,夢想卻是開服裝店;從不知道電腦怎麽開機的人,就想在電子股上賺錢,結果道聽途説,賠了很多,卻從不反省自己是否是專業能力不足,只抱怨時不我予。

問題六: 相似但不相同的問題:你是否認為,籃球教練不上籃球場,閉者眼睛也可主導一場完美的勝利?

解答: 當然也不可能。可是不少人,完全沒時間管,卻也努力投資開咖啡館、開餐廳、開自己根本不懂的公司,急著把閑錢花掉,當合夥人。虧的比賺的多,卻也覺得自己運氣不好、交友不慎,不是想法不對。

問題七: 你寧可後悔,也不願意試一試自己是否能扭轉危機?

解答: 用這樣的語言邏輯問話,恐怕沒有人會說:[對,我就是這樣的歪种]吧。然而,我們卻常常在不該打退堂鼓時拼命的不該打退堂鼓,爲了恐懼失敗(萬一失敗了,別人會笑吧?我們總是這樣警告自己),而不敢嘗試成功,其實是划不來的。

問題八: 你有無限時間,長生不老,所以最想做的事,應該無限延期?

解答: 不,不,不!誰會說是呢?然而我們卻常說,或常聼說:等我老了,就要去環游世界;等我退休,就要去做我想做的事情;等孩子長大了,我就可以輕鬆了…… 我們都誤以為自己有無限時間與體力……

我們可以一步一步靠近夢想,不必等有空時再貼近它吧。現在如果就能一步一步靠近夢想與理想,我們就不會活了半天,成爲自己討厭的那種人……

Thursday 30 November 2006

... what happen?? and some updates lor...

Wondering what happen to me recently?? you bet huh..

Never been updating my moblog for a long long time.. well, just being plain lazy ba.. and my work is getting busier so no time to update.. hehe.. forgive me for that ok? furthermore, my youngest brother is back from his holidays.. so even less time to use the computer.. *sob sob*

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Well, I just returned from my trip to Sunway Lagoon. (well, its company trip) I must say its a nice place to enjoy if you love water.. and the hotel we stay is superb.. especially the bathroom! There's a bathtub and standing shower in one place!

Of course, I'm lousy when it comes to thrill rides as i puked after taking the 360 viking ship.. haiz.. if i had knew if was going at 360, give me a million dollars i wouldn't want to take it man! However, its still a enjoyable ride.. haha.. minus away my breakfast that is gone is minutes.. haha..

that's all for now folks! hope to do more blogging soon.. (when this computer is available and i'm in the mood ba.. hehe..)

again, this is cut & paste from moblog.. so its quite weird...

Tuesday 14 November 2006

... how to be a better couple ...

10 steps to enjoying each other better...

1. Be realistic about each other

Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give your gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you're gonna have to do with what your guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.

2. Always talk things out

Now guys, I know this is not your favourite pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what you're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.

3. Do stuff together

Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in some shared activities; something both of you enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road . Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If you're spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's a warning sign that you're drifting apart!!!

4. Meet each other halfway

If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The Rock" print, you shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy... There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.

5.Show your love

Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if you have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.

6. Respect each other

Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.

7. Bury the past

Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your guy, it would just make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your gal feel un-happy and she might think that you saying all this because you are gonna get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore.

8. Sit on your jealousy

All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you're gonna go through your partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, you know something is wrong - with you!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.

9. Keep your commitments to each other

If your partner is standing u up all the time and canceling dates and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you're in a relationship, make your partner your priority and don't disappoint them if you can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to you, you may just lose him/her.

10. Be honest

Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When you're hurt, say so, and when you're angry, tell him/her, without getting hysterical. If you can't be honest with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!

Friday 10 November 2006

... removing gallstones naturally ...

By Dr Lai Chiu-Nan

It has worked for many.

If it works for you please pass on the good news.

Chiu Nan is not charging for it, so we should make it free for everyone. Your reward is when someone, through your word of mouth, benefits from the regime. Gallstones may not be everyone's concern. But they should be because we all have them. Moreover, gallstones may lead to cancer."Canceris never the first illness," Chiu Nan points out. "Usually, there are a lot of other problems leading to cancer.

In my research in China, I came across some materials which say that people with cancer usually have stones. We all have gallstones. It's a matter of big or small, many or few.One of the symptoms of gallstones is a feeling of bloatedness after a heavy meal. You feel like you can't digest the food. If it gets more serious, you feel pain in the liver area." So if you think you have gallstones, Chiu Nan offers the following method to remove them naturally.The treatment is also good for those with a weak liver, because the liver and gall bladder are closely linked.

Regimen:

  1. For the first five days, take four glasses of apple juice every day.Oreat four or five apples, whichever you prefer. Apple juice softens thegallstones. During the five days, eat normally.
  2. On the sixth day, take no dinner.
  3. At 6 PM, take a teaspoon of Epsom salt (magnesium sulphate) with aglassof warm water.
  4. At 8 PM, repeat the same. Magnesium sulphate opens the gallbladderducts.
  5. 5. At 10 PM, take half cup olive oil (or sesame oil) with half cup freshlemon juice. Mix it well and drink it. The oil lubricates the stones toeasetheir passage.

PS. 1 cup=250ml, half cup lemon juice=3 lemons (aprox.)

The next morning, you will find green stones in your stools. "Usually they float," Chiu Nan notes. "You might want to count them. I have had people who passes 40, 50 or up to 100 stones. Very many." "Even if you don't have any symptoms of gallstones, you still might have some. It's always good to give your gall bladder a clean-up now and then.

Wednesday 8 November 2006

... an life for an life ...

What's the world coming to? Killing 2 lives only sentenced to life imprisonment??

Shouldn't it be death?

All because the case that was heard, in that country doesn’t have death sentence?

殺人償命!

Anyway, its about the Sydney murder case.. one of the victim happens to be my dad friend's son.. though his uncle says its fair but personally I don't think so.. that accused should be hang.. and make sure he go hell man..

I still remember that night when we heard the news and I went down with my dad to his friend's house to check on my dad's friend.. the moment when he saw my dad, he broke down in tears.. imagine a father, lost his son overnight and his son is going to finish his studies soon! Then after the incident, its drinking session often.. haiz.. my poor dad..

Wonder how is my dad's friend taking it after knowing the charge? Hope uncle Tay is fine..

Sunday 29 October 2006

... meaningful lines ...

  • 不择手段的人,總是在贏得全世界之後,輸掉他自己。
  • 人只有在最自然豁達、不卑不亢的情況下,才能演出正常,演出水準。
  • 懂得生活之道的人,凡事但求盡心,而不強救擁有。
  • 有些東西擁有不一定是幸福,失去也不一定是悲哀。
  • 一個患得患失的人,永遠擺脫不掉得失的束縛。
  • 顧忌太多的人, 往往會因爲自己那多慮的一念, 而失去本該及時掌握的機緣。
  • 不計較個人得失的人, 才能在是非紛擾的生活中, 保留了皆大歡喜的空間。
  • 不論我們對生活的態度是消極或是積極的, 我們都是歲月更迭、因緣聚散的旅客, 時間一到,便該下站,沒有人能賴著不走。
  • 當你對一切得失都放下時,所有的煩惱才能船過水無痕。
  • 智者知道人生如夢,故能來去瀟灑,無入而不自得。
  • 修行就是修正自己的習性和行爲,進而學會放下一切,亦包括放下自己。
  • 莫因擁用什麼而過於樂觀,也莫因失去什麼而過於悲觀,不管所擁有或失去的是什麼,它都如云煙一般,來去無蹤。
  • 真正快樂的人,是能積極地追求自己的夢想,卻不會執著于得失。
  • 勝敗乃兵家常事,每一個成功者的背後,都有無數次殘痛而可貴的經驗。
  • 能安適自怡地享受[無事]的感覺,便是人間最大的清福。
  • 人生的際遇不會全然美好,若能以平和的心境去面對一切衝擊,哪怕俯視不能自在。 真的平安來自于於一顆無愧的心。
  • 得與失的距離,往往只有一步,就是在我們心念起伏的那一瞬間。
  • 萬紫千紅總是春,各有因緣莫羡人。
  • 人出生時,是握著一雙小拳頭;往生時,既是鬆開拳頭的。這一抓一放,正是繁華如夢,得失本空的最佳寫照。
  • 有智慧的人,是不計一切的榮辱得失,順逆境對他而言,只是四季輪轉。
  • 笑看繁華如朝露,隨緣放曠自在行。
  • 放寬心懷,云淡風輕,人間處處盡是峰迴路轉。
  • 對於生活中的得失榮辱無須掛懷,一切皆是因緣,不管是良緣、惡緣,皆是過客,猶如浮雲掠空,瞬息無蹤。
  • 一個人在獨處時,仍無法放下一切,得到心境的平靜時,即使到了清幽如畫的桃花源,亦無法得到真正的寧靜。
  • 許多人生活的愁容滿面,是因爲他們對某些該忘懷的事情[記憶猶新],對某些該記住的事卻又[貴人多忘事]。
  • 境界再美,亦如塵煙,飄渺難尋,智者靈台清明,自不會隨之起伏生念,妄增困擾。
  • 今日的容顔老於昨日,今日的心情別於昨日,人想抓住永恒,不管是吹沙作飯,於無常中自添煩惱罷了。
  • 人人俱是歲月如流中的過客,沿途的風光過眼即捨,徒增傷感。
  • 一白遮百醜,一笑解千愁。
  • 愛一個人,如果有了渴求回報的心,這份愛如同鋼刀,每一份用心都是苦,都是痛。
  • 世事鏡中見,人情淡始長,只要心安理得,不必過於在意他人的肯定或否定。
  • 所謂人比人,氣死人。聰明的人在面臨[比較] 的考驗時,當以平常心來應對,自能在不動肝火的情況下,消化別人的褒與貶。
  • 首飾再美,只能裝飾外表,不能充實内涵。所以,與其花錢收藏裝飾品,不如花時間耕耘心田,讓自己多一份雋永的知識美。
  • 愛一個人,要給對方自由,也給自己自由,這樣才不會愛得辛苦萬分。
  • 抓不住的東西,強求無益,如何學習放下,放到無一切束縛掛罣時,身心自然柔軟,煩惱亦無由而生。

Saturday 28 October 2006

... 婚姻 ...

什麽叫浪漫?明知那個女孩兒不愛他,還送給她999朵玫瑰;

什麽叫浪費?明知那個女孩兒愛他,還送給她999朵玫瑰。

某青年作家定義浪漫與浪費

每個女人都有兩個版本:精裝本和平裝本。精裝本是給別人看的,平裝本是給家人與丈夫看的。

婚姻中的丈夫只是看到妻子的平裝本和別的女人的精裝本—這就是婚外戀的動機。

男士對婚外戀的動機作如是分析,實在是妙喻。

人類如鳥,有雙翼,一翼是男,一翼是女。

除非兩翼健壯並以共同的力量來推動它,否則,這只鳥不能飛向天空。

哲學家巴哈歐拉

婚姻是愛情的墳墓,但是如果不結婚,愛情就死無葬身之地。

在清華大學的BBS上有這樣一句經典愛情宣言

男人從不擔心他的未來,直到他找到一個妻子;

女人從不擔心她的未來,直到她找到一個丈夫。

青年女作家南鶯看男女關係

在真正幸福的婚姻中,友誼必須與愛情融合在一起。

法國作家莫洛亞論幸福婚姻

情如魚水是夫妻雙方最高的追求,

但是我們都容易犯一個錯誤,即縂認爲自己是水,而對方是魚。

BBS經典語錄

吃胃能消化的食物,娶自己能養活的女人。

一個男人長壽的秘訣

夫妻倆過日子要像一雙筷子:一是誰也離不開誰;二是什麽酸甜苦辣都能在一起嘗。

這種筷子只能是經久耐磨的象牙筷,而不是一次性方便筷

男人掏錢是情人關係;

女人掏錢是夫妻關係;

男女搶着掏錢是朋友關係。

餐廳服務員經驗實錄

女人面對愛情時比較笨,喜歡被人哄,而男人示愛,則越不顧自尊,越動人。

男女對愛情的表達各不相同

婚姻不是1 + 1 = 2,而是0.5 + 0.5 = 1。

即:兩個人各削去自己的個性和缺點,然後湊合在一起。

青年作家張弘的婚姻公式

愛情是一種腦力勞動,婚姻是一種體力勞動。

愛情仿佛橋牌,全靠算計;婚姻仿佛打麻將,全靠運氣。

愛情和婚姻有本質的不同

最完美的產品在廣告裏,最完美的人在悼詞裏,

最完美的愛情在小説裏,最完美的婚姻在夢境裏。

人人都希望完美,但這只能追求而不能指望

令人不能自拔的,除了牙齒還有愛情。

臺灣歌星齊秦愛情感言

高難度的愛情,是月色、詩歌、三十六万五千朵玫瑰,加上永恒;

高難度的婚姻,是賬簿、證書、三十六万五千次爭吵,加上忍耐;

高難度的人生,是以上兩者皆無。

朱德庸妙言愛情、婚姻、人生

在愛情中,有人“視死如歸”;在婚姻中,有人“視歸如死”。

相親是“經銷”,戀愛是“直銷”,徵婚是“招標”。

人的“喜新”最多最久只有30天,所以新婚燕尓就叫密“月”;人的忍耐最多只有30天,所以工作以“月”薪為准。

青年作家蔚子如此詮釋婚姻

過去,我總是要熬到半夜他才離去;

現在,我總是要熬到半夜他才回家。

經典版語錄

Friday 27 October 2006

... say or don't say?? ...

Said Also Don't Listen Listen Also Don't Understand Don't Understand Also Don't Ask Ask Also Don't Do Do Also Do Wrong Wrong Also Don't Admit Admit Also Don't Correct Correct Also Not Happy Not Happy Also Don't Say

說了又不聼 聼了又不懂 不懂又不問 問了又不做 做了又做錯 錯了又不認 認了又不改 改了又不服 不服又不說

Think about it.

Sometimes, the above phrases just fit so well into our daily life... any types of situations... be it quarrels among couples, work conflicts or maybe just ourselves.. So, do we Say or DON'T Say??

Thursday 26 October 2006

... 真相或謊言?...

我們這一生聼過多少謊言?而又如何分辨真實與虛構?可能你也有玩過這遊戲叫“真心話大冒險”吧!輸了的人得選擇要講真心話或者接受一些“可怕”的處罰,所謂的大冒險。

但,如果輸的人選擇真心話,就真的會陶開心胸說真心話嗎?他/她的真心話可靠嗎?能相信嗎?還是他/她會用另一個謊言掩飾這真心話或情願守口如瓶而接受處罰?

從我們學會開始説話的那一刻,句句都是實話,沒半句假的嗎?哈哈,未必吧!想起童年的我們,可能爲了玩耍而撒謊說功課作完了。爲了要買玩具卻説拿零用錢是爲了要買參考書。

後來,踏入社會,可能爲了爬到最高點,需要活在從一個小謊言變成另外一個大謊言的世界裏。

結婚后,爲了要與情人共度春宵而用美麗的謊言欺騙枕邊人。

老了,爲了不要讓關心你的人擔心,用善意的謊言來掩飾自己的痛楚。

唉!人類就是如此。常常需要活在謊言中卻不肯醒來。。

Wednesday 18 October 2006

... bad day at work ...

What is happening to me recently? I have never bothered by anybody or anything. Recently it seems otherwise.

I supposed to book air ticket for my boss and his family but I missed him out, only booked for his family. In the end, me and my travel agent got reprimanded by him. In the first place, he never specify clearly mah.. and my travel agent thought he wanted to redeem his points for it..

Due to this, my whole morning was spoiled by him.. even though I know its partly my fault also.. I even wanted so much to take leave tomorrow just to relax myself..

Last time, I only listened and then it will flow to the back of my mind and stayed there.. Now, I couldn't do it anymore. I will start to ponder what is really wrong with me? Is it really my fault?? Arrrgggghhh!!! I really hate myself..

Monday 16 October 2006

... 給你的信 ...

为何事情又回到原点?当初你连解释都不愿给我。现在又是同样的情形。你口口聲聲說你會給我我要的,但我卻從來不曾感覺到。

這麽多年了,你難道就不想挽救這段感情嗎?我真的不曉得我們到底要如何走下去… 你讓我跌進愛情的旋渦,然後又眼睜睜地看我往下沉。我看不到你的援助,就連伸手的力氣也沒了嗎?

我該感謝你嗎?把我訓練成今天不聞不問,完全滿足你的我。我曉得愛情不該用天坪來衡量付出與回報,但我真的希望我的付出是值得的。

從今天起,你能給我你曾經許下的承諾嗎?別再讓我傷心失望好嗎?

Tuesday 10 October 2006

... haze haze go away! ...

Around this time every year, we have to tolerate this kind of hazy weather.. people get sick over it..

Why can't humans over there just be more considerate?? Think of the millions people surrounding suffering from coughs, soar throats, dried eyes because of their traditional farming method. Only reason why they are doing this? Earn money.. isn't there a better solution to solve this??

Selfishness can kill! Glad that their government is doing something finally.. And for us, hopefully we have cleaner air to breathe after that..

Sunday 8 October 2006

... mooncake festival ...

Once again, its the mooncake festival again.. well, this year i would say i'm quite fortunate as i get to sample different mooncakes from different places.. like goodwood park hotel lah (nah, not the durian wan), bengawan solo, prima deli and not forgetting my friend who made durian mooncake!

Eat till i got scared man! To add on to the list, my brother bought those traditional teochew style mooncake which is like a big 豆沙饼.. but it is delicious! Also another slightly black coloured wan which is make of red bean too.. heard that the teochews have a lot of these kind of cakes or kuehs..

So i guess they are the one who make kuehs famous?? hehe..

*sigh sigh* time to loose weight again..

Thursday 5 October 2006

... the story of 8 monkeys ...

(this is reportedly based on an actual experiment conducted in the UK )

Put eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room is a ladder, leading to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling.

Each time a monkey tries to climb the ladder, all the monkeys are sprayed with ice water, which makes them miserable. Soon enough, whenever a monkeyattempts to climb the ladder, all of the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and beat him up.

Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempts to climb the ladder.

One of the original monkeys is then removed, and a new monkey is put in the room. Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wonders why none of the other monkeys are doing the obvious. But undaunted, he immediately begins to climb the ladder.

All the other monkeys fall upon him and beat him silly. He has no idea why. However, he no longer attempts to climb the ladder.

A second original monkey is removed and replaced. The newcomer again attempts to climb the ladder, but all the other monkeys hammer the crap out of him.

This includes the previous new monkey, who, grateful that he's not on the receiving end this time, participates in the beating because all the other monkeys are doing it. However, he has no idea why he's attacking the new monkey.

One by one, all the original monkeys are replaced. Eight new monkeys are nowin the room. None of them have ever been sprayed by ice water. None of them attempt to climb the ladder. All of them will enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tries, without having any idea why.

*..................and that is how most companies' policies get established.*

Sometimes, it feels like this at the workplace. Employees just do certain procedures because others are doing the same.... without knowing why they do them and whether what they have been doing all along can be improved or changed. They say its the policy. At times, it feels it's just the standard practices that have been passed down from employee to employee. Nothing else.

Thursday 28 September 2006

... let's talk about marriage again ...

*Below is only my personal opinion, however in the event I offended anyone, please accept my sincere apology*

http://sg.news.yahoo.com/060926/5/singapore232460.html

More marriages, more divorces last year

More couples tied the knot last year but there were also more divorces.

A total of 22,992 marriages were registered last year, about 3.6% more than in 2004.

Though the marriage trend is on the upward swing these past few years, the rates were lower than the annual average of 24,800 registered during the 1990s.

The median age for first marriages and remarriages also increased - by two to five years - over the past two decades.

This means delaying marriage is becoming increasingly common.

The median age for first marriages among men last year was 30.2 for non-Muslims and 27.7 for Muslims, said the Department of Statistics.

Among women, the median age was 27.2 for non-Muslims and 24.7 for Muslims.

Grooms with primary or no education were the oldest.

The median ages at first marriage for these men were 39 for non-Muslims and 32 years for Muslims.

Among non-Muslims, brides with primary or no education were the oldest, with the median age at first marriage at 28 years.

But among Muslim brides, university graduates were the oldest, with the median age at first marriage at 27 years.

Even as more people are getting married, divorces have also been on the rise.

Last year, 8.16 percent more marriages ended in divorce compared to the year before. The number of divorces rose to 6,909 in 2005 from 6,388 a year ago.

Younger couples, aged between 20 and 24, registered the highest divorce rate last year.

This is also the largest increase in the past decade.

The divorce rates among older couples showed smaller increases between 1995 and 2005.

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It's saddening that young people (as reported) nowadays doesn't treat marriage seriously compare to olden days. If there's no love or feeling, they will just break this bond. Why our parents, grandparents' time could do it to make it last a lifetime but not now? We didn't heard much divorce cases decades ago but now it seems to become a trend.

Is it because women are more independent? They are more educated, at the same time working and earning their own salaries and thus need no financial backing from husband?

Or is it love has become so fragile that any human could be replaced anytime with a new promise? If that's the case, why get married in the first place and be hurt later? Shouldn't both parties try their best to make it worked initially to the end?

Tuesday 26 September 2006

... how rich Bill Gates is? ...

Do you know that...

  1. Bill Gates earns US$250 every SECOND, that's about US$20 Million a DAY and US$7.8 Billion a YEAR!
  2. If he drops a thousand dollar, he won't even bother to pick it up bcoz the 4 seconds he picks it, he would've already earned it back.
  3. The US national debt is about 5.62 trillion, if Bill Gates were to pay the debt by himself; he will finish it in less then 10 years.
  4. He can donate US$15 to everyone on earth but still be left with US$5 Million for his pocket money.
  5. Michael Jordan is the highest paid athlete in US. If he doesn't drink and eat, and keeps up his annual income i.e. US$30 Million, he'll have to wait for 277 years to become as rich as Bill Gates is now.
  6. If Bill Gates was a country, he would be the 37th richest country on earth.
  7. If you change all of Bill Gate's money to US$1 notes, you can make a road from the earth to moon, 14 times back and forth. But you have to make that road non-stop for 1,400 years, and use a total of 713 BOEING 747 planes to transport all the money.
  8. Bill Gates is 40 this year. If we assume that he will live for another 35 years, he has to spend US$6.78 Million per day to finish all his money before he dies.
  9. Last but not the least : My Favorite........!!! If Microsoft Windows' users can claim US$1 for every time their computers hang because of Microsoft Windows, Bill Gates will be bankrupt in 3 years!!!

Sunday 24 September 2006

... 愛情的監獄 ...

這是個令人憐惜的愛情故事。它本來可以很美好、幸福,但不知曾幾何時變成一個無期徒刑的刑罰。

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他認識她時,她已經有個很要好的男友了。可惜好景不長在,因爲某些原因,她和她的那個他分手了。她傷心了很久,而他卻一直默默守護在她身旁。

漸漸,她接受了他的愛情,讓他的愛替她受傷的心重新接受滋潤和灌溉,萌芽開花結果。就這樣他們也像其他的戀人一樣,嘗盡了酸甜苦辣的愛情。不知不覺地過了好幾年,他們也爲了他們的將來而努力奮鬥,也因如此見面的機會慢慢變少了。有時幾個月才見上一次面;爲此,她吵過哭過閙過,從開始的失望到後來的絕望。

牛郎與織女的愛情故事有誰不曉得?一年一次的相約只為了把握彼此相聚的時光,來交換下次的聚首。她和他的關係就好像監獄裏的囚犯被囚禁,盼望親人在指定的時間來探望她。不管時間長短、不管天晴雨天。只求那難得見面的相處。

一個無期徒刑,就把他倆分隔在世界的兩端。等待有天他為她找到證據而判無罪釋放。但要等上多久?一年,三年或十年?她開始累了,希望這個無期徒刑能變成死刑,這樣一了百了不用這般痛苦下去。至少,愛過、傷心過也痛過,而且曾經擁有又何嘗不是种幸福?

Friday 22 September 2006

... knowing myself better ...

Got this from kasic's blog which she got from angellot's blog... complicated rite? ;) anyway, thanks ladies..

The link: http://www.quizbox.com/personality/test82.aspx

Get to know yourself better

Your view on yourself:

You are down-to-earth and people like you because you are so straightforward. You are an efficient problem solver because you will listen to both sides of an argument before making a decision that usually appeals to both parties.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:

You like serious, smart and determined people. You don't judge a book by its cover, so good-looking people aren't necessarily your style. This makes you an attractive person in many people's eyes.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:

You are ready to commit as soon as you meet the right person. And you believe you will pretty much know as soon as you might that person.

The seriousness of your love: You are very serious about relationships and aren't interested in wasting time with people you don't really like. If you meet the right person, you will fall deeply and beautifully in love.

Your views on education:

Education is very important in life. You want to study hard and learn as much as you can.

The right job for you:

You're a practical person and will choose a secure job with a steady income. Knowing what you like to do is important. Find a regular job doing just that and you'll be set for life.

How do you view success:

You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don't succeed. Don't give up when you haven't yet even started! Be courageous.

What are you most afraid of:

You are afraid of having no one to rely on in times of trouble. You don't ever want to be unable to take care of yourself. Independence is important to you.

Who is your true self:

You are mature, reasonable, honest and give good advice. People ask for your comments on all sorts of different issues. Sometimes you might find yourself in a dilemma when trapped with a problem, which your heart rather than your head needs to solve.

Quite accurate though.. hehe.. found out some of the points quite similar to kasic.. once again, prove that we really sama sama lei.. haha..

Thursday 21 September 2006

... 兩個人在一起 ...

Got this email from my friend.. quite meaningful so decided to share with everyone..

兩個人在一起有三件事很重要

我覺得這篇文章寫的真好兩個不同生長環境的人要在一起,已經是很困難的事了,而彼此能相互溝通、尊重與珍惜的人更是少之又少

因為許多人往往都是自私地站在自己的立場去想、去做, 以為這就是對方所需要的,以致常常意氣用事,痛了自己也苦了別人。

所以愛一個人不是給她你要的,因為你要的她不一定要啊! 而是要給她「她要的」,這樣才是真正愛她。 所以,兩個人在一起有三件事很重要:溝通•尊重•珍惜

◆溝通

兩個人一定要會溝通,溝通可不是件容易的事喔~

就連我這個自認是「溝通大師」的都不一定會溝通呢!

我就說「炒蛋事件」好了!

我跟我老婆結婚才三個月的時候...就發現我不會溝通了!

就有一天,我心血來潮突然就跟她說:「我今晚作一道世界名菜給你吃!」

平常晚上,我家都是吃三菜一湯。

她一做完兩菜一湯就離開廚房,說要拭目看我作出什麼世界名菜來給她吃,讓她有個驚喜我就拿起三個蛋,打散,唰~下鍋,加蔥花...,再加醬油~?

這是最重要的!!

小時候不是都吃媽媽的醬油炒蛋嗎? 這可是含有濃濃的母愛的香味呢!好啦!? 起鍋~世界名菜---「醬油炒蛋」上桌!

她走出來,一看,「這是什麼?」「蛋啊! 炒蛋啊~」

她是外省人,所以她們從小吃的蛋都是加鹽巴的。

我是本省人,所以都是加醬油的。

「我不要吃!這不是炒蛋。」

這女人怎麼這麼硬啊?! 醬油炒蛋就不是蛋嗎?分別是少見多怪嘛!黑蛋當然也是蛋啊~

「不吃就不吃!」

她筷子一摔,還真的就不吃了。碰!還甩房門。

自此而後,只要我每次炒蛋,內心、腦袋就開始掙扎...「要加鹽巴?還是加醬油?我應該要讓她才對...不對?」!

哼!這一步不能讓!這可是攸關我大男人的面子, 尤其童年的回憶、媽媽的母愛、還有省籍意識在裡面的ㄋㄟ~怎麼能輕易就讓妳?!每次上桌的醬油炒蛋,她就當作沒看到那道菜。

我們就這樣過了五年。很不可思議吧!

為了個炒蛋吵了五年,但後來突然有一天福至心靈,我終於想通了!

我們跟小朋友玩不是都會讓他嗎! 因為他年紀小,不懂事嘛,所以我讓她!而有時老婆不懂事、幼稚的時候,我又何必認真呢!

有一天我就炒了加鹽巴的蛋上桌了。唷!我們家的黑蛋怎麼變白蛋啦? 就沒聽過黑人會變白人的,我們家的黑蛋竟然也會變白蛋呀!」

我這時啥也沒說,只嘿嘿乾笑了兩聲。可是,你知道嗎?過兩天,換我在桌上看見黑蛋了。她炒的。

所以,愛一個人不是要給她你要的,你要的她不一定要啊!而是要給她「她要的」!切記。要把對方的需要當作你的責任,這樣才是真正愛她。

◆尊重

男生在發展關係的同時能尊重對方的意願,能把主控權交給女生的才是好男生。艾斯德講的是「兩個人在一起要學會尊重彼此的任何決定」。意見不合可以溝通,因為無論從人權、人性來說,男女生都是站在平等地位上的。我告訴朋友---尊重,是最重要的!

如果他(她)會尊重你,意即什麼都好,都是能商量的。會把你放在平等地位上看待的這男生或女生就不會糟到哪裡去。

◆珍惜

我們要珍惜每一段關係。假設你還能活60年好了!等你60年後,快死之前,請你拿起一隻筆和一張紙,想一想,寫下你這一生中「真正愛過」的10個人。爸媽兄弟姊妹都可以,是真正愛過的喔!那種只愛三個禮拜的不算是真愛。能寫到超過是最好,不到10個也沒關係。我現在想,我就好像寫不來10個呢!我是不是真正愛我方爸媽都不太確定。因為你真正愛一個人會一年只見他三次面嗎? 不會吧!一定是巴不得每天都能看到他(她)的是吧!可是現在都有自己的家庭了,所以一年大概也只回去三次而已。

紙翻過來再寫,這一生中「真正愛過你」的10個人, 如果你真能寫到10個那你可真的很幸運很幸福了!!還有一個小故事!大意是說一個即將升職的男人,因為她老婆突然罹患老年癡呆症,朋友們都建議他把老婆送到醫院治療兼療養, 他考慮了一星期後遞出了辭呈。朋友們都很驚訝、錯愕,紛紛詢問他為什麼要放棄升遷的機會呢?他的人生就將要達到最高峰了啊!他說:[我只想到我曾在 神前面承諾過,不論她貧窮、疾病、變老、變醜、我要愛她、照顧她一輩子。]

Wednesday 20 September 2006

... I got 'CHEATED' !! ...

Guess some of you might hear about those time-share companies that existed since don’t know when… Well, I'm going to share with you my experience (promised to post it here too... hehe...) on the recent one that I have gone through… bad experience if you asked...

I received a call early last week informing me that for the last 6 months I may have joined some lucky draws in NTUC, Carrefour, etc. Yes, I told them I did and this guy was even so honest to tell me that these supermarkets actually consolidate those lucky draw participants database even though we didn’t win the first prize BUT we still win something...

(Now, you have to be careful from now on...)

The caller will tell you that you have won a free night stay at one of the 5 stars hotel (Sijori Sentosa Resort) and another free accommodation in Thailand (for my case) and the only condition is, you have to go down to the company to attend a presentation of about an hour prior to collecting your prize..

(Always wonder why the same old trick?? C'mon, just give us the 'dam' prize will you?!$%^&)

Initially, I refused but this guy was good in persuading and so I was thinking no harm going down (haha... got you... don't even be tempted by this!!) and see what kind of trick they could come out with… And they are also persistent, keep confirming you are going down, your details and particulars are correct, etc. On the day of the appointment, will remind you again… as if I will fly away or get lost!! Duh...

And so, there I was in the posh office in Orchard Road. OK, if you want to know the company name, drop me a message, I will gladly provide you with the office name and address. I won't put it here... Well, I do have some 道德 ok?? ;) All I can say, it is Tong Building... hahaha... obvious liao rite?? :-)

(Always like that... nice office, people working after office hours (maybe to cater to 'easy-to-con' people like us and not sure why but there's always loud music, which I read in those forum)

Here comes the part, there will be this sales person who will start to break the ice, asking you about the travel habits, your daily life, etc. Then, he will proceed to explain the kind of product they selling… at the same time even guarantee that theirs is not those time-share company. (who on earth know what a time-share company is or how they operates??) During this time, you got to be very firm that you are not buying anything or else they will talk on and on... mind you, I was stuck there for the whole night which was almost 5 hours! (one trick is to show them you are impatient or not listening as I read in one of the forum...)

If the sales guy or lady can't handle you, they will get their supervisor to handle you, this supervisor is 'dam' good in 'psycholing' you… will offer you different types of proposal to suit your 'financial' and again, assured you that what you buy is value for money… all to get you nod your head and sign on the dotted line.

(usually their product is over $10k man! they will let you pay a min. deposit starting S$500.. the rest work out in installment wan.. they are real good right?? Haiz... I even tell them I got debts to pay, many commitments, they even say themselves also got a lot of commitments… bottom line is, whatever you say, they always know how to counter-attack back)

Later part, you realized that you get conned as it's the same trick like those time-share company and you decided to cancel it… PLEASE DO IT WITHIN 3 DAYS after you signed the agreement according to CASE's Fair Trading Agreement (FTA) which stated you have the right to cancel it.

Therefore, last night, I was at their office again, as usual, the sales guy asked me why I wanted to cancel it and same thing again, get the supervisor in… he/she will try means and ways and the usual counter attack strategy to make you changed your mind… Luckily, I was FIRM enough to cancel after half an hour... argghhh… and I can only get back my deposit after 2 months!!

Don't agree to attend any type of presentations and REJECT immediately after knowing their intention... don't worry, you can hang up their phone or just be harsh.. you have the right to as they are all sharing databases!!

The prize may be attractive but when you realized you have signed it and the product is actually not that good or you know you might not be using it, or whatsoever reasons… you will regret it... Then you decide to cancel it, do this within 3 days if not you will have no rights to cancel after 3 days already…

It will be their usual practice which they will try to persuade you to continue and 'sell' you another plan at a lower rate and even might asked you to discuss with your family… and you will notice this will be after the 3days time …

So, don't be like me and fall into this trap ok??

We are lucky as we are protected by the FTA rule... imagine those company which doesn't have? You will be stuck with the useless product for the rest of your life and paying it for nothing but not enjoying it… unless you are rich then what can i say??

Tuesday 19 September 2006

... my beloved brother ~ ah Kai ...

It's my youngest brother, Kai's birthday toady.. wow! so fast he's already 22 already.. nw studying in Brisbane..

We were talking on MSN on Sunday and didn't realised that he could be such loveable man.. how come no gals like him huh??

Me: Happy birthday to you bro!

Kai: Thanks thanks!

Me: So what you going to do tomorrow (slip my mind his birthday is on tue i.e today.. hehe)

Kai: It's on Tuesday lei..

Kai: Boo...

blah blah blah

Me: Btw, we have send you a package.. (got scolded by my sis over this as this meant to be a surprise.. hehe..)

Kai: Air-flown cake?

Isn't he cute?? So poor thing that nobody actually remember his birthday.. so he was telling me that's why he's advertising on MSN & knew what? His nick is "happy birthday".

Hey, brother, here's for you: (even though he didn't know i have blog.. haha..)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!

Thursday 14 September 2006

... memorable quotes from Indecent Proposal (2003) ...

"If you ever want something badly, let it go. If it comes back to you, then it's yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never yours to begin with."

After I watched this movie since 1993... umpteen times, whenever I wanted something repeatedly, I would remind myself about this phrase... not sure does it applied to everyone? At least it does to me personally...

Many years back, I have gone through some rough patches and always had this wish that this someone would come back to me eventually even though he had hurt me many times.. As years gone by, this feeling of wanting him back had slowly faded away…

Human being are such funny animal, upon losing something precious, then they realized to treasure the precious only AFTER. Why can't we just treasure the precious thing we have from day one? Why must it be only upon losing it?

Why go through 失去了才懂得珍惜 such agony?

~~~~~~~~~~ << >> ~~~~~~~~~~

When two people fall in love, it is always the nicest thing that happens on planet earth… both of you won't get tired of seeing each other everyday and never complains that you are sick and tired of hearing his/her voice even the calls are only 3 seconds long..

Sadly, all these will gradually disappears and what that's left are the little arguments which sometimes leads to quarrels or worse still, fights.

Is it because they have become 'a habit' to each other? Or is it we know our partner too well and thus lost that loving feeling already?

Unfortunately, one of them might start to search for better leaves or flowers on the roadside… as the trees/flowers are greener on the other side... they will start finding excuses not to get close to their partner, avoid talking to them; fearing it might lead to another argument.

So, why not take into consideration -

"I thought we were invincible. But now I know that the things that people in love do to each other, they remember. And if they stay together, it's not because they forget. It's because they forgive."

Shall we just forgive and forget and start anew??

Wednesday 13 September 2006

... 真心 ...

一直以來,我很喜歡這首歌。它的歌詞非常貼心。每次聽到這首歌我的心都有些傷感,百感交集。

歌名:真心

作曲:殷文琦

填詞:劉虞瑞

盼到了黎明 又怕讓自己清醒

有多少未知的莫名委屈 要讓我強忍著不能哭泣

我真的累了 累得想放棄逃避

逃回那不再有誰會在乎的過去

走過了風雨 在身上留下了痕跡

回想起這一切 百感交集 分不清該可悲還是歡喜

我真的累了 累得我無法繼續

有誰能看見我那顆平凡執著的心

為何我用真心做的夢愛的人說的話 沒有人願意相信

而一個小小的天地只屬於自己 卻如此遙不可及

我只想用真心做個夢愛個人說些話 安靜的面對命運

但這無奈的心情 我又能說給誰聽

Monday 11 September 2006

... my new blog ...

Dear friends!!

i guess all of you out there could have noticed i have not been updating my friendster's blog for a long long time..

Well, i have started another blog under Singtel's call Moblog which some of you might have one.. just go there and take a look when you free ba!!

http://tancyee.moblog.com.sg/

(this was copied and back dated.. so quite funny hor? anyway, this is the first move.. hee..)

... a good wife's guide ...

The good wife's guide (extracted ~ Housekeeping monthly 13 May 1955)

  • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
  • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
  • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
  • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
  • During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
  • Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
  • Be happy to see him.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
  • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
  • Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
  • Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
  • Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
  • A good wife always knows her place.

22/01/08: found this website on the internet by chance and the author even opposed it!! read it at http://www.snopes.com/language/document/goodwife.asp

Friday 1 September 2006

... life's truth ...

GREAT TRUTHS THAT LITTLE CHILDREN HAVE LEARNED:

1) No matter how hard you try, you can't baptise cats.

2) When your Mum is mad at your Dad, don't let her brush your hair.

3) If your sister hits you, don't hit her back. They always catch the second person.

4) Never ask your 3-year old brother to hold a tomato.

5) You can't trust dogs to watch your food.

6) Don't sneeze when someone is cutting your hair.

7) Never hold a Dust-Buster and a cat at the same time.

8) You can't hide a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk.

9) Don't wear polka-dot underwear under white shorts.

10) The best place to be when you're sad is Grandpa's lap.

GREAT TRUTHS THAT ADULTS HAVE LEARNED:

1) Raising teenagers is like nailing jelly to a tree.

2) Wrinkles don't hurt.

3) Families are like fudge...mostly sweet, with a few nuts.

4) Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground.

5) Laughing is good exercise. It's like jogging on the inside.

6) Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fibre, not the toy.

GREAT TRUTHS ABOUT GROWING OLD:

1) Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional.

2) Forget the health food. I need all the preservatives I can get.

3) When you fall down, you wonder what else you can do while you're down there.

4) You're getting old when you get the same sensation from a rocking chair that you once got from a roller coaster.

5) It's frustrating when you know all the answers but nobody bothers to ask you the questions.

6) Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.

7) Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone.

SUCCESS:

At age 4 success is . . . not piddling in your pants.

At age 12 success is . . . having friends.

At age 17 success is . . having a drivers licence.

At age 35 success is . . . having money.

At age 50 success is . . . having money.

At age 70 success is . . . having a drivers licence.

At age 75 success is . . . having friends.

At age 80 success is . . . not piddling in your pants.

Sunday 27 August 2006

... 情爲何物??...

這陣子發生了許多事情。。 分手,死亡,背叛,覺悟。每件事的發生都爲了一個理由-情。情真的會使我們不知所措。人也往往會因爲固執而一錯再錯。

我只是希望執迷不悟的人會覺悟, 傷心的人會振作。就這麽簡單何必把它複雜化呢?雖然我了解說的比做的來得容易。。

也許這一生我們就是這樣過的吧!

突然很想唱這首歌:

手放开

我把自己关起来只留下一个阳台

每当天黑推开城门对着夜幕发呆

看着往事 一幕一幕 再次演出你我的爱

我把电视机打开听着别人的对白

也许那些故事可以给我一个交代

你要的爱 我学不来 眼睁睁看情变坏

眼睁睁看情感慨

不能给你未来 我还你现在

安静结束也是另一种对待 当眼泪留下来

伤已超载 分开也是另一种明白

我给你最后的疼爱是手放开

不要一张双人床中间隔着一片海

感情的污点就留给时间慢慢漂白

把爱收进胸前左边口袋 最后的疼爱是手放开

不想用言语拉扯所以选择不责怪

感情就像候车月台 有人走有人来

我的心是一个站牌 写着等待

不能给你未来 我还你现在

安静结束也是另一种对待 当眼泪留下来

伤已超载 分开也是另一种明白

Saturday 26 August 2006

... appraisal & resignation ...

Taken from my friend who send me this.. guess it's quite true after all.. hehe..

A newly joined trainee engineer asks his boss "what is the meaning of appraisal?"

Boss: "Do you know the meaning of resignation?"

Trainee: "Yes I do" Boss:

"So let me make you understand what an appraisal is by comparing it with resignation"

Comparison study: Appraisal and Resignation

Appraisal

In an appraisal meeting they will speak only about your weakness, errors and failures.

During an appraisal you may need to cry and beg for even a 10% pay hike.

During an appraisal, they will deny promotion saying that you did not meet the expectation, you don't have leadership qualities, and that you had several drawbacks in reaching objective/goal.

There is a 90% chance of not getting any significant incentives after appraisal.

Resignation

In a resignation meeting they will speak only about your strengths, past achievements and success.

In a resignation meeting you can easily demand (or get more without asking) more than 50-60% hike!

During resignation, they'll say you are the core mbr of the team; you are the vision of the company & so "how can you go"; you have to take the project on your shoulders and lead your juniors to success.

There is a 90% chance of getting an immediate pay hike after you put in your resignation.

Trainee: "Yes boss enough, now I understood my future. For an appraisal I will have to resign

Wednesday 23 August 2006

... the 10 commandments of marriage ...

COMMANDMENT 1

Marriages are made in heaven. But so are thunder and lightning.

COMMANDMENT 2

If you want your wife to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say, talk in your sleep.

COMMANDMENT 3

Marriage is grand -- and divorce is at least 100 grand!

COMMANDMENT 4

Married life is very frustrating.In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.

In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.

In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

COMMANDMENT 5

When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing:

Either the car is new or the wife is.

COMMANDMENT 6

Marriage is when a man and woman become as one;

The trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

COMMANDMENT 7

Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you say.

After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish.

COMMANDMENT 8

Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook.

But the law allows only one wife.

COMMANDMENT 9

Marriage and love are purely matters of chemistry.

That is why wife treats husband like toxic waste.

COMMANDMENT 10

A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished..

Monday 21 August 2006

... 友情的心有灵犀一点通 ...

During our life path, we make many great friends... they come and go... those who stand by your side when you are in trouble... while others may slowly fade out from your circle. Those that stay may be what we call close or best friends. Or do you really know what are they thinking sometimes?

The amazing thing about our so-called 'best/close friends' is when this friend knows what to do or think without you saying it out… just by observing your action is good enough to plan the next course of action. This is the type of friends that you should really treasure.

I just 'witness' this among two of my friends today (actually not the first time already). One of my girl-friend was feeling down and I didn't even notice it during our last Saturday outing. This morning, our common guy-friend messaged and tells me we should go out more often with her more... So, I make arrangements... Didn't tell her who else I'm meeting but a while later, she 'warned' me that she knew me and this guy-friend ganged up! Also, don't give her any surprise can liao... Wow! 心有灵犀一点通 or should I call it the power of friendship!!

Sad to say, I'm a gal who is never sensitive to my friends' behaviors. Do I consider myself unmoving when it comes to friendship? Or should I call myself a failure in the name of friendship? hhmmm… guess it's time for some soul searching... Hey friend, though I don't know what's the problem you are facing or why are you sad... just remember, I'm always a good listening ear even though I may be insensitive... Just call me if you need someone to talk to ok? And hope you can cheer yourself up after tonight's arrangement!!

Sunday 20 August 2006

... pulau ubin expedition ...

Pulau Ubin changes tremendously since the last time I stepped foot there... eh, about 10 over years?!?! Those places I been to were more accessible by vehicles now... whether it’s on car, bicycle or foot... still, I guess foot is the best as you could really admire the scenery around you.

Last night was a bit humid and quiet.. the insects were screeching rhythmically sometime, making you feel like you are listening to a orchestra… could easily imagine in the daytime, this lovely little island would be much beautiful! This is one of the most enjoyable trips I’ve been to with SPI. We also explore some place which I didn’t know about! Like the little temple that the Ubin residents built for this German girl who passed away in WWI. It’s a sad story and till today nobody knows the identity of this pitiful girl.

There’s also a Chinese and Malay cemetery in this island too! And from the tombstones I saw, guess there’s mostly Cantonese living on the island.

Memories flow back to my camping days where the rubber plantation were one of the popular sites for campers as it overlook the beach.. Remember on our night walk, one of my instructor was sitting quietly at one spot on a slope like a “大伯公”. Trying to scare some of us huh?? However, that was one nice walks around the island. Thanks all the elites who have make this trip an enjoyable and fun one!!

Friday 18 August 2006

... my love story ...

There's an old email about love story which was circulating last time. A girl asked a guy to be her boyfriend for 100days. They have their great days together and on the 99days he met with an accident and unfortunately he died on the 100th day... it was kind of sad but prone me to wonder if this type of love story exist in our world... personally, I believe there is.

Love can happen anytime anywhere! Everyone has theirs; similarly, I had a 刻苦銘心 story too which I still remember it until today...

It happened in September 1995. I was supposed to meet a friend of mine for some drinking session. We supposed to meet outside the pub and as usual, I'm early.

Time tickles away and my friend was not in sight. Suddenly, I saw a similar face from afar. Shit! I secretly cursed myself for not able to avoid him as after I graduated, the last thing I want is to run into old schoolmates.

Well, since he spotted me standing there and has started to approach me, I have no choice but to say hi to him. Found out that the pub is one of his regular hangouts. He was so delighted to see me and insisted to give me a treat at a nearby Denny's restaurant.

After dinner, we actually walked home from Orchard to my place... that's how I started my 4hours walk the first time. It was a wonderful night, the stars were shining brightly and it was a cool night.

Since that day, we started to go out occasionally... Memories flow back to our school days when I had rejected him once... hehe.. Therefore, I was shocked and taken by surprise after 7yrs; his heart still beats for me... From then on, I think I'm the luckiest gal in the world.

He showers me with lots of love and there's always one thing I'll never forget, he understood me inside out... Without question asked, he will know what's my next action is... Of course, like some couples, we had our arguments too... it was very frequent... but that's how we grew closer after each fight...

Sadly, this relationship ended after 2years due to his betrayal... No, he didn't have another woman but it was another matter that a betrayal could harm me more...

Since then, I had been searching for another better man... Wishing that the next man I meet will be better than him if not at least the same... Ironically, I didn't meet any... is it true that once u pick a bad guy, the next one will be worse? I'm not sure but it seems so true to me... Or is it me afraid of getting hurt again??

Sunday 13 August 2006

... four all who reed (read) and right (write) ...

We'll begin with a box, and the plural is boxes; but the plural of ox became oxen not oxes. One fowl is a goose, but two are called geese, yet the plural of moose should never be meese.

You may find a lone mouse or a nest full of mice; yet the plural of house is houses, not hice. If the plural of man is always called men, why shouldn't the plural of pan be called pen? If I spoke of my foot and show you my feet, and I give you a boot, would a pair be called beet? If one is a tooth and a whole set are teeth, why shouldn't the plural of booth be called beeth?

Then one may be that, and three would be those, yet hat in the plural would never be hose, and the plural of cat is cats, not cose. We speak of a brother and also of brethren, but though we say mother, we never say methren. Then the masculine pronouns are he, his and him, but imagine the feminine, she, shis and shim.

Let's face it! - English is a crazy language.

There is no egg in eggplant nor ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple. English muffins weren't invented in England . We take English for granted.

But if we explore its paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.

And why is it that writers write but fingers don't fing, grocers don't groce and hammers don't ham?

Doesn't it seem crazy that you can make amends but not one amend?

If you have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what do you call it?

If teachers taught, why didn't preachers praught? If a vegetarian eats vegetables, what does a humanitarian eat? Sometimes I think all the folks who grew up speaking English should be committed to an asylum for the verbally insane.

In what other language do people recite at a play and play at a recital? Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell? How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and a wise guy are opposites?

You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which an alarm goes off by going on.

If Dad is Pop, how's come Mom isn't Mop?

AUTHOR UNKNOWN or is it KNOT KNOWN?

Saturday 12 August 2006

... a woman's prayer ...

Now i lay me down to sleep, I pry the Lord my shape to keep.

Please no wrinkes please no badg and please lift my butt before it sags.

Please no age spots please no gray and as for my belly, please take it away.

Please Please keep me healthy please keep me young.

And thank you Dear Lord, for all that you've done.

~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~

Five tips for a woman....

1. It is important that a man helps you around the house and has a job. 2. It is important that a man makes you laugh. 3. It is important to find a man you can count on and doesn't lie to you. 4. It is important that a man loves you and spoils you. 5. It is important that these four men don't know each other.

Friday 11 August 2006

... birthday with friends ...

I had not been celebrating my birthday since 21yrs old.. always feel that birthday is just another ordinary day. Not until last night, I realised that birthday can turn out to be a memorable one if you celebrate with the right person and/or people. Venue is not an issue, atmosphere is more important.. not necessary to be a grand dinner at a posh restaurant; you may be contended even at home with home cooked food.. if the right person/people is there..

For me, yesterday shall be a day which I will remember forever (if my memory didn't fail me then.. 8) ) I went for a SPI talk at Asian Civilization Museum at Empress Place. The talk ended at 8pm and we proceed to McDonald for our dinner.

Upon reaching there, I noticed some of them were behaving very strange & fishy (imagine a few of them keep insisting i sit back-facing the staircase) though i speculate a birthday cake will pop out from nowhere somehow.. but it was more than what i expected! My sister and her colleague had join in the celebration together with my SPI friends!

Most touching was, they bought me the Disney Chip and Dale! Of course, not forgetting a Hello Kitty mini cake.. and i manage to cut it into 11 pieces so everyone could have one bite.. (pardon me for the cutting skill, friends.. hehe.. though i know the cake look kind of gross in the end..) Also, the 'lovely' birthday card they give me.. (auntie liao rite??)

P/S: To All of you who attended the mini celebration - THANK YOU SO MUCH! All of you make my day!! you know who you are huh?? :)

... men ...

1. Men are like ..... Laxatives ..... They irritate the shIT out of you. 2. Men are like ..... Bananas ..... The older they get, the less firm they are. 3. Men are like ..... Weather ..... Nothing can be done to change them. 4. Men are like ..... Blenders ..... You need One, but you're not quite sure why. 5. Men are like ..... Chocolate Bars ..... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips. 6. Men are like ..... Commercials ..... You can't believe a word they say. 7. Men are like ..... Department Stores ..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off. 8. Men are like ..... Government Bonds ..... They take soooooooo long to mature. 9. Men are like ..... Mascara ..... They usually run at the first sign of emotion. 10. Men are like ..... Popcorn ..... They satisfy you, but only for a little while. 11. Men are like ..... Lava Lamps ..... Fun to look at, but not very bright. 12. Men are like .......Parking Spots ....... All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.

Thursday 3 August 2006

... friends ...

My best friend called me this morning and check about my flight tomorrow.. she asked me if I have informed any other people except her..

一言惊醒梦中人... how many real friends do I have? It seems like whenever I'm away, be it for holiday or business (so far only once lah.. hehe) I never have any friends to send me off at the airport.. Partly, I never wanted any 'teary' scene created.

How do we actually measure the basis of friendship? Do you take in consideration those friends that claim to be one but ran away when you're in trouble? Or those who promised to keep in touch but just keep your number conveniently into their handphone as though to fill up the phone memory?

As we walk down our life path slowly, people may switch from acquaintances to friends; we may also lost some and gain some friends but how many of them actually stand by your side when you really need to confide in them to overcome your worst problems?

So, start being a more spontaneous and supportive friend of your friend today!

Tuesday 1 August 2006

... ponder about ~~ CANCER ...

Got this article and it seems everyone of us may be at risk to this.. so, why not take a few moments and hope it could saves someone around you!

Useful Information on one of the deadliest diseases of our time: CANCER

1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.

2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person's lifetime.

3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumours.

4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor destruction.

9. When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.

10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.

11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.

CANCER CELLS FEED ON:

a. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc are made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in colour. Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.

b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soya milk cancer cells are being starved.

c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.

d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains, seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance growth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts)and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).

e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine. Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties. Water-best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.

12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrefied and leads to more toxic buildup.

13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body's killer cells to destroy the caner cells.

14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor-ssence,Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable the body's own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.

15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger, unforgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.

16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.

Friday 28 July 2006

... about me ...

Found this from http://www.superfate.com.tw some are quite interesting.. all about your chinese fate,etc. try it out!

◎您是七彩的白雲,有商業頭腦,可以創造富貴。才華出眾,喜歡有仁慈,守承諾的人。有點唯美,愛好文藝,有多方面的興趣與才華,但是缺乏執行力與行動力。◎

根據命理來分析您的個性,潛意識,以及行為模式,您是屬於「白雲命」,因此您天生具有白雲的特質,聰明有才華,學習能力強,觀察敏銳,喜歡探究事物背後的道理,思路清晰,有獨具一格的判斷與分析能力,但是缺乏執行力與行動力。白雲隨風飄流,一下飄到這邊,一下又飛到天邊,因此您的思路十分活躍,一下想做這個,一下想做那個,想像力豐富,但是缺乏持續力,容易流於空談。白雲變化萬千,所謂白雲蒼狗,因此您能夠以不同的角色來適應週遭的環境,不論多惡劣,您也能漸漸適應,進而改變環境。您對於環境的變動有很強的適應力,所以容易給人表裡不一的觀感,但其實是一般人不容易想像您的思維模式。白雲漂浮不定,不容易停下腳步,因此您思考能力強,但執行能力弱,您對週遭生活有很多的不滿與期待,也有能力改善,但就是不容易付諸行動。

此外,您喜歡平易近人,親切友善的人,不喜歡油嘴滑舌,虛情假意的人,而能讓您佩服的人,多半是成熟穩重,誠懇踏實的人。您的一生,像白雲一樣,無論飄向何方,也能保有赤子之心,但是白雲也會經歷考驗,有時會狂風暴雨,有時會烏雲蔽日,這些都是您一生中最大的磨練,只要您經得起外在的考驗,不怨天尤人,進而學習成長,一旦通過考驗,您的生活會更上一層樓,富貴綿長。

◎您本命五行水太旺,體質比較寒冷,所以身體比較弱,容易手腳冰冷,要注意婦科的保健。◎

根據命理分析,您天生腎水系統比較差,所以容易感覺疲倦,冬天常常手腳冰冷,體力似乎不如人,因此無法從事需要大量勞力的工作。在年輕的時候不會有太大的問題,但是如果您現在不照顧循環及泌尿系統,隨著年紀越來越大就很容易有血壓、貧血、心臟、婦科的問題,甚至容易導致失眠、憂鬱、腦神經衰弱、聽力異常、腎功能異常、膀胱炎、尿道炎、月事不順、或其他心血管功能疾病等問題。因此您不能過度勞累,要維持正常作息,早睡早起,才可以保護先天比較弱的腎水系統。此外,由於體質偏向心虛血弱,所以盡量不要喝冰的飲料,也要避免房事太頻繁,以免傷了元氣。

此外,所謂「病從口入」,人類大部分的疾病來源都跟飲食有關,根據中醫理論,食物可以分成金、木、水、火、土等五種五行。您可能偏好重鹹口味的食物,調味料也用很重,因此,您的細胞中,充滿太多「水」的五行,會導致健康,財運與事業的不圓滿,尤其重口味的食物吃多了會傷腎,建議您平時最好能飲食均衡,菜色均衡,養成清淡的口胃,調理食物的方式也要由多油炒改為多蒸煮,減少鹽分和油脂的攝取量,才有助於您陰陽五行調和,生活美滿幸福。

◎但是您八字缺金,呼吸系統機能也比較弱,容易呼吸不順,感冒咳嗽,或有氣喘等症狀。◎

根據命理分析,您天生呼吸系統功能比較差,在年輕的時候不會有太大的問題,頂多是容易鼻子過敏、流鼻水、咳嗽、感冒、胸悶、腹瀉或便秘,但隨著年紀越來越大,呼吸系統需要更多的照顧,不然很容易導致鼻竇炎、氣喘、肺炎、支氣管炎、大腸息肉、直腸炎等問題。因此您不能過度勞累,而且千萬不能抽菸,要維持正常作息,早睡早起,才可以保護先天比較弱的呼吸系統。

此外,您是屬於比較隨性的類型,凡事方便就好,因此不會很注重居住空間以及工作環境的品質。您做事情也比較心急,缺乏耐心,所以您與其他人相處的關係並不是那麼的融洽,也缺少貴人的提攜。如果您想改變這種現象,要開始練習腹式呼吸,此外,要保持週邊環境的空氣新鮮,通風順暢,尤其晚上睡覺的時候,臥房千萬不可緊閉門窗。只要您體內的氧氣充足,那您的命運將會有很大的改變,身體健康,財運順利,事業圓滿,家庭幸福。

◎簡易愛情分析,您會有一個條件好的先生。您的愛情稱得上是兩情相悅,而且他不是大男人主義者,凡事都很尊重您。您們的交往,不僅有愛情美好的一面,也兼顧到愛情現實的問題。◎ 您愛情的模式,根據命理分析,您對於心儀的異性,很容易心動,但對方常常沒有行動,您也不好意思倒過來追求,所以常常無疾而終。一般來說,異性對您的第一印象都不會太深,您是需要經過交往的階段,異性才會發現您的氣質,優點與內在美。換句話說,您很容易第一眼就喜歡上一個人,如果您剛開始不喜歡這個人,經過長時間相處也不會喜歡上他。相反地,您的戀愛對象不容易第一眼就喜歡上您,卻很可能經過長時間相處而喜歡上您。因此,如果您在等待美好的愛情,您可以試著把自己的內在美透過各種方式表現出來,多參加各種活動,多培養各種興趣,多接觸不同人群,如此您會在不知不覺中,讓您的內在美隨時展現,愛情才會更順利。

在人生的旅程中,您的戀愛或結婚對象很有可能是先經由親友介紹或相親而認識,因為您對於愛情比較不太有經驗,也不善於包裝自己、行銷自己,有時更怯於表達自己的感情,碰到喜歡的人也多半停留在欣賞的階段,不僅不容易給對方一點暗示,更不會表白或倒追,因此不僅錯失許多機會,更在心中產生既期待又怕受傷害的感覺,反而更不容易擦出愛的火花。您若是對象還沒有出現,不要心急,在您身邊確定有人正喜歡著您,只要您真心誠意給對方一點暗示,幸福就在您身邊。

◎簡易財運事業分析,您會賺錢,但不容易守財,也不容易經由儲蓄累積財富。您對於生命比較達觀,不會對自己或家人朋友太小氣。◎

根據命理分析,您會賺錢,但是不容易守財,也就是不容易經由儲蓄累積財富。您對於生命比較達觀,因此不會對自己,也不會對家人或朋友太小氣。在您手頭比較緊的時候,該花的錢您還是會花,不會一毛不拔;在您手頭比較寬裕的時候,您花錢會很大方,不會對自己、家人或朋友小氣,正因為如此,您當然不容易存錢。此外,您很容易因為朋友的介紹而做了某些投資,而且常常虧本。這是因為您的個性交遊廣闊,也認識很多人,所以當朋友來找您投資時,您不容易分辨風險,也不容易拒絕,所以當然很容易虧本。如果以一生的時間來衡量,您今生大部份的財富會被您拿來做自己想做的事情,您會認為您使用過的錢財才是您真正擁有的財富。之後,這些財富大半會遺留給子孫。

Thursday 27 July 2006

... moments in life ...

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much

that you just want to pick them from your dreams

and hug them for real!

When the door of happiness closes, another opens;

but often times we look so long at the closed door

that we don't see the one, which has been opened for us.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive.

Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.

Go for someone who makes you smile,because it takes only a smile to

make a dark day seem bright.Find the one that makes your heart smile.

Dream what you want to dream;

go where you want to go;

be what you want to be,

becuase you have only one life

and one chance to do all the things

you want to do.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,

enough trials to make you strong,

enough sorrow to keep you human

and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily

have the best of everything;

they just make the most of

everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always

be based on a forgotten past;

you can't go forward in life until

you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying

and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end,

you're the one who is smiling and everyone

around you is crying.

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take;

but by the moments that take our breath away!

Wednesday 26 July 2006

... 我的外婆 ...

生老病死是人类不可避免的一种环节。我们一生中一定会碰到。

她与病魔搏斗了两年多,她终于在今天凌晨12 点多与世长辞了。一向来都不喜欢在半夜听到电话响,因为接到坏消息的可能性很高。老妈跟我说时,预料中还以为她会崩溃但意外,她还蛮镇定的。

可能对大家来说是种解脱吧!怎么说外婆也84 岁了,对我来说算是很长命了。而听说老人家超过70岁去世是当红事来处理的。因为要算好日子,所以可能要等上一段日子才能有家祭。希望到时候我的眼泪可以受到控制。。虽然知道这是无所谓的。。

不晓得到了那边她会和他会面吗?一直想像着人是否会在那地方找到他们的另一半而延续他们来生的幸福。如果有的话,那么这两个人一定会幸福快乐的。因为今生在一起已经很不简单了。结合是种缘分,分离只是短暂的。

Tuesday 18 July 2006

... working with idiots can kill you! ...

Received this attachment email from one of my friend. (Due to the large file, and the difficulty to read clearly, i shall be kind to type it out.. :-) )

IDIOTS in the office are just as hazardous to your health as cigarettes, caffeine or greasy food, an eye-opening new study reveals.

In fact, those dopes can kill you! Stress is one of the top causes of heart attacks - and working with stupid people on a daily basis is one of the deadliest forms of stress, according to reseatchers at Sweden's Lindbergh University Medical Centre.

The author of the study, Dr Dagmar Andersson, says her team studied 500 heart attack patients, and were puzzled to find 62% had relatively few of the physical risk factors commonly blamed for heart attacks.

"Then we questioned them about lifestyle habits, and almost all of these low-risk patients told us they worked with people so stupid they can barely find their way from the parking lot to their office. And their heart attack came less than 12 hours after having a major confrontation with one of these oafs.

"One woman had to be rushed to the hospital after her assistant shredded important company tax documents instead of copying them. A man told us he collapsed right at his desk because the woman at the next cubicle kept asking him for correction fluid - for her computer monitor.

"You can cut back on smoking or improve your diet," Dr. Andersson says,"but most people have very poor coping skills when it comes to stupidity - they feel there's nothing they can do about it, so they just internalise their frustration until they finally explode."

Stupid co-workers can also double or triple someone's work load, she explains, "Many of our subjects feel sorry for the drooling idiots they work with, so they try to cover for them by fixing their mistakes. One poor woman spent a week rebuilding clients records because a clerk put them all in the 'recycle bin' of her computer and then emptied it - she thought it meant the records would be recycled and used again."

It's kind of depressing and helpless hearing these smart people who need to face those 'stupid people' everyday. However, if you are the 2nd category, how would you feel when people are calling you STUPID??

Friday 14 July 2006

... making more money??

A friend just introduce a new way of making more money.. kind of interesting as it is a program which tailors to your interest and refers friends to join by just reading emails. Sound interesting? Go to the below url for more information:

http://www.emailcashpro.com/?r=tancyee

Thursday 13 July 2006

... the world is changing ~ technologies changes too! ...

Got this picture from my friend today. Ponders me further..

Somehow, has this feeling that this world is changing slowly -towards a 'small small' world.. the clothes we wear are getting smaller or lesser (as an example above), things we use are getting smaller and smaller (like our handphones).

Are our hearts, soul and mind going into this direction too?

Is it the technologies' fault or should we blamed ourselves, the human brain for being so advanced? The abilities to developed all kinds of gadgets that makes our lives easier and better to live in.

Things changed for a reason and so is our world. As we moved towards a more ever changing world, it makes people more vunlerable to diseases, air we breathe or even relationships!

In the olden times, relationships stays.. people have jobs that could last till they retires. Air were more cleaner and fresher (at least no such thing as SARS)

So, given a choice, would you choose to live in the modern day or the olden times?


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