... meaningful lines ...

• 不择手段的人，總是在贏得全世界之後，輸掉他自己。
• 人只有在最自然豁達、不卑不亢的情況下，才能演出正常，演出水準。
• 懂得生活之道的人，凡事但求盡心，而不強救擁有。
• 有些東西擁有不一定是幸福，失去也不一定是悲哀。
• 一個患得患失的人，永遠擺脫不掉得失的束縛。
• 顧忌太多的人， 往往會因爲自己那多慮的一念， 而失去本該及時掌握的機緣。
• 不計較個人得失的人， 才能在是非紛擾的生活中， 保留了皆大歡喜的空間。
• 不論我們對生活的態度是消極或是積極的， 我們都是歲月更迭、因緣聚散的旅客， 時間一到，便該下站，沒有人能賴著不走。
• 當你對一切得失都放下時，所有的煩惱才能船過水無痕。
• 智者知道人生如夢，故能來去瀟灑，無入而不自得。
• 修行就是修正自己的習性和行爲，進而學會放下一切，亦包括放下自己。
• 莫因擁用什麼而過於樂觀，也莫因失去什麼而過於悲觀，不管所擁有或失去的是什麼，它都如云煙一般，來去無蹤。
• 真正快樂的人，是能積極地追求自己的夢想，卻不會執著于得失。
• 勝敗乃兵家常事，每一個成功者的背後，都有無數次殘痛而可貴的經驗。
• 能安適自怡地享受[無事]的感覺，便是人間最大的清福。
• 人生的際遇不會全然美好，若能以平和的心境去面對一切衝擊，哪怕俯視不能自在。 真的平安來自于於一顆無愧的心。
• 得與失的距離，往往只有一步，就是在我們心念起伏的那一瞬間。
• 萬紫千紅總是春，各有因緣莫羡人。
• 人出生時，是握著一雙小拳頭；往生時，既是鬆開拳頭的。這一抓一放，正是繁華如夢，得失本空的最佳寫照。
• 有智慧的人，是不計一切的榮辱得失，順逆境對他而言，只是四季輪轉。
• 笑看繁華如朝露，隨緣放曠自在行。
• 放寬心懷，云淡風輕，人間處處盡是峰迴路轉。
• 對於生活中的得失榮辱無須掛懷，一切皆是因緣，不管是良緣、惡緣，皆是過客，猶如浮雲掠空，瞬息無蹤。
• 一個人在獨處時，仍無法放下一切，得到心境的平靜時，即使到了清幽如畫的桃花源，亦無法得到真正的寧靜。
• 許多人生活的愁容滿面，是因爲他們對某些該忘懷的事情[記憶猶新]，對某些該記住的事卻又[貴人多忘事]。
• 境界再美，亦如塵煙，飄渺難尋，智者靈台清明，自不會隨之起伏生念，妄增困擾。
• 今日的容顔老於昨日，今日的心情別於昨日，人想抓住永恒，不管是吹沙作飯，於無常中自添煩惱罷了。
• 人人俱是歲月如流中的過客，沿途的風光過眼即捨，徒增傷感。
• 一白遮百醜，一笑解千愁。
• 愛一個人，如果有了渴求回報的心，這份愛如同鋼刀，每一份用心都是苦，都是痛。
• 世事鏡中見，人情淡始長，只要心安理得，不必過於在意他人的肯定或否定。
• 所謂人比人，氣死人。聰明的人在面臨[比較] 的考驗時，當以平常心來應對，自能在不動肝火的情況下，消化別人的褒與貶。
• 首飾再美，只能裝飾外表，不能充實内涵。所以，與其花錢收藏裝飾品，不如花時間耕耘心田，讓自己多一份雋永的知識美。
• 愛一個人，要給對方自由，也給自己自由，這樣才不會愛得辛苦萬分。
• 抓不住的東西，強求無益，如何學習放下，放到無一切束縛掛罣時，身心自然柔軟，煩惱亦無由而生。

... 婚姻 ...

什麽叫浪漫？明知那個女孩兒不愛他，還送給她999朵玫瑰；

什麽叫浪費？明知那個女孩兒愛他，還送給她999朵玫瑰。

某青年作家定義浪漫與浪費

每個女人都有兩個版本：精裝本和平裝本。精裝本是給別人看的，平裝本是給家人與丈夫看的。

婚姻中的丈夫只是看到妻子的平裝本和別的女人的精裝本—這就是婚外戀的動機。

男士對婚外戀的動機作如是分析，實在是妙喻。

人類如鳥，有雙翼，一翼是男，一翼是女。

除非兩翼健壯並以共同的力量來推動它，否則，這只鳥不能飛向天空。

哲學家巴哈歐拉

婚姻是愛情的墳墓，但是如果不結婚，愛情就死無葬身之地。

在清華大學的BBS上有這樣一句經典愛情宣言

男人從不擔心他的未來，直到他找到一個妻子；

女人從不擔心她的未來，直到她找到一個丈夫。

青年女作家南鶯看男女關係

在真正幸福的婚姻中，友誼必須與愛情融合在一起。

法國作家莫洛亞論幸福婚姻

情如魚水是夫妻雙方最高的追求，

但是我們都容易犯一個錯誤，即縂認爲自己是水，而對方是魚。

BBS經典語錄

吃胃能消化的食物，娶自己能養活的女人。

一個男人長壽的秘訣

夫妻倆過日子要像一雙筷子：一是誰也離不開誰；二是什麽酸甜苦辣都能在一起嘗。

這種筷子只能是經久耐磨的象牙筷，而不是一次性方便筷

男人掏錢是情人關係；

女人掏錢是夫妻關係；

男女搶着掏錢是朋友關係。

餐廳服務員經驗實錄

女人面對愛情時比較笨，喜歡被人哄，而男人示愛，則越不顧自尊，越動人。

男女對愛情的表達各不相同

婚姻不是1 + 1 = 2，而是0.5 + 0.5 = 1。

即：兩個人各削去自己的個性和缺點，然後湊合在一起。

青年作家張弘的婚姻公式

愛情是一種腦力勞動，婚姻是一種體力勞動。

愛情仿佛橋牌，全靠算計；婚姻仿佛打麻將，全靠運氣。

愛情和婚姻有本質的不同

最完美的產品在廣告裏，最完美的人在悼詞裏，

最完美的愛情在小説裏，最完美的婚姻在夢境裏。

人人都希望完美，但這只能追求而不能指望

令人不能自拔的，除了牙齒還有愛情。

臺灣歌星齊秦愛情感言

高難度的愛情，是月色、詩歌、三十六万五千朵玫瑰，加上永恒；

高難度的婚姻，是賬簿、證書、三十六万五千次爭吵，加上忍耐；

高難度的人生，是以上兩者皆無。

朱德庸妙言愛情、婚姻、人生

在愛情中，有人“視死如歸”；在婚姻中，有人“視歸如死”。

相親是“經銷”，戀愛是“直銷”，徵婚是“招標”。

人的“喜新”最多最久只有30天，所以新婚燕尓就叫密“月”；人的忍耐最多只有30天，所以工作以“月”薪為准。

青年作家蔚子如此詮釋婚姻

過去，我總是要熬到半夜他才離去；

現在，我總是要熬到半夜他才回家。

經典版語錄

... say or don't say?? ...

Said Also Don't Listen Listen Also Don't Understand Don't Understand Also Don't Ask Ask Also Don't Do Do Also Do Wrong Wrong Also Don't Admit Admit Also Don't Correct Correct Also Not Happy Not Happy Also Don't Say

說了又不聼 聼了又不懂 不懂又不問 問了又不做 做了又做錯 錯了又不認 認了又不改 改了又不服 不服又不說

Think about it.

Sometimes, the above phrases just fit so well into our daily life... any types of situations... be it quarrels among couples, work conflicts or maybe just ourselves.. So, do we Say or DON'T Say??

... 真相或謊言？...

我們這一生聼過多少謊言？而又如何分辨真實與虛構？可能你也有玩過這遊戲叫“真心話大冒險”吧！輸了的人得選擇要講真心話或者接受一些“可怕”的處罰，所謂的大冒險。

但，如果輸的人選擇真心話，就真的會陶開心胸說真心話嗎？他/她的真心話可靠嗎？能相信嗎？還是他/她會用另一個謊言掩飾這真心話或情願守口如瓶而接受處罰？

從我們學會開始説話的那一刻，句句都是實話，沒半句假的嗎？哈哈，未必吧！想起童年的我們，可能爲了玩耍而撒謊說功課作完了。爲了要買玩具卻説拿零用錢是爲了要買參考書。

後來，踏入社會，可能爲了爬到最高點，需要活在從一個小謊言變成另外一個大謊言的世界裏。

結婚后，爲了要與情人共度春宵而用美麗的謊言欺騙枕邊人。

老了，爲了不要讓關心你的人擔心，用善意的謊言來掩飾自己的痛楚。

唉！人類就是如此。常常需要活在謊言中卻不肯醒來。。

... bad day at work ...

What is happening to me recently? I have never bothered by anybody or anything. Recently it seems otherwise.

I supposed to book air ticket for my boss and his family but I missed him out, only booked for his family. In the end, me and my travel agent got reprimanded by him. In the first place, he never specify clearly mah.. and my travel agent thought he wanted to redeem his points for it..

Due to this, my whole morning was spoiled by him.. even though I know its partly my fault also.. I even wanted so much to take leave tomorrow just to relax myself..

Last time, I only listened and then it will flow to the back of my mind and stayed there.. Now, I couldn't do it anymore. I will start to ponder what is really wrong with me? Is it really my fault?? Arrrgggghhh!!! I really hate myself..

... 給你的信 ...

为何事情又回到原点？当初你连解释都不愿给我。现在又是同样的情形。你口口聲聲說你會給我我要的，但我卻從來不曾感覺到。

這麽多年了，你難道就不想挽救這段感情嗎？我真的不曉得我們到底要如何走下去… 你讓我跌進愛情的旋渦，然後又眼睜睜地看我往下沉。我看不到你的援助，就連伸手的力氣也沒了嗎？

我該感謝你嗎？把我訓練成今天不聞不問，完全滿足你的我。我曉得愛情不該用天坪來衡量付出與回報，但我真的希望我的付出是值得的。

從今天起，你能給我你曾經許下的承諾嗎？別再讓我傷心失望好嗎？

... haze haze go away! ...

Around this time every year, we have to tolerate this kind of hazy weather.. people get sick over it..

Why can't humans over there just be more considerate?? Think of the millions people surrounding suffering from coughs, soar throats, dried eyes because of their traditional farming method. Only reason why they are doing this? Earn money.. isn't there a better solution to solve this??

Selfishness can kill! Glad that their government is doing something finally.. And for us, hopefully we have cleaner air to breathe after that..

... mooncake festival ...

Once again, its the mooncake festival again.. well, this year i would say i'm quite fortunate as i get to sample different mooncakes from different places.. like goodwood park hotel lah (nah, not the durian wan), bengawan solo, prima deli and not forgetting my friend who made durian mooncake!

Eat till i got scared man! To add on to the list, my brother bought those traditional teochew style mooncake which is like a big 豆沙饼.. but it is delicious! Also another slightly black coloured wan which is make of red bean too.. heard that the teochews have a lot of these kind of cakes or kuehs..

So i guess they are the one who make kuehs famous?? hehe..

*sigh sigh* time to loose weight again..

... the story of 8 monkeys ...

(this is reportedly based on an actual experiment conducted in the UK )

Put eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room is a ladder, leading to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling.

Each time a monkey tries to climb the ladder, all the monkeys are sprayed with ice water, which makes them miserable. Soon enough, whenever a monkeyattempts to climb the ladder, all of the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and beat him up.

Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempts to climb the ladder.

One of the original monkeys is then removed, and a new monkey is put in the room. Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wonders why none of the other monkeys are doing the obvious. But undaunted, he immediately begins to climb the ladder.

All the other monkeys fall upon him and beat him silly. He has no idea why. However, he no longer attempts to climb the ladder.

A second original monkey is removed and replaced. The newcomer again attempts to climb the ladder, but all the other monkeys hammer the crap out of him.

This includes the previous new monkey, who, grateful that he's not on the receiving end this time, participates in the beating because all the other monkeys are doing it. However, he has no idea why he's attacking the new monkey.

One by one, all the original monkeys are replaced. Eight new monkeys are nowin the room. None of them have ever been sprayed by ice water. None of them attempt to climb the ladder. All of them will enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tries, without having any idea why.

*..................and that is how most companies' policies get established.*

Sometimes, it feels like this at the workplace. Employees just do certain procedures because others are doing the same.... without knowing why they do them and whether what they have been doing all along can be improved or changed. They say its the policy. At times, it feels it's just the standard practices that have been passed down from employee to employee. Nothing else.