Thursday 28 September 2006

... let's talk about marriage again ...

*Below is only my personal opinion, however in the event I offended anyone, please accept my sincere apology*

http://sg.news.yahoo.com/060926/5/singapore232460.html

More marriages, more divorces last year

More couples tied the knot last year but there were also more divorces.

A total of 22,992 marriages were registered last year, about 3.6% more than in 2004.

Though the marriage trend is on the upward swing these past few years, the rates were lower than the annual average of 24,800 registered during the 1990s.

The median age for first marriages and remarriages also increased - by two to five years - over the past two decades.

This means delaying marriage is becoming increasingly common.

The median age for first marriages among men last year was 30.2 for non-Muslims and 27.7 for Muslims, said the Department of Statistics.

Among women, the median age was 27.2 for non-Muslims and 24.7 for Muslims.

Grooms with primary or no education were the oldest.

The median ages at first marriage for these men were 39 for non-Muslims and 32 years for Muslims.

Among non-Muslims, brides with primary or no education were the oldest, with the median age at first marriage at 28 years.

But among Muslim brides, university graduates were the oldest, with the median age at first marriage at 27 years.

Even as more people are getting married, divorces have also been on the rise.

Last year, 8.16 percent more marriages ended in divorce compared to the year before. The number of divorces rose to 6,909 in 2005 from 6,388 a year ago.

Younger couples, aged between 20 and 24, registered the highest divorce rate last year.

This is also the largest increase in the past decade.

The divorce rates among older couples showed smaller increases between 1995 and 2005.

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It's saddening that young people (as reported) nowadays doesn't treat marriage seriously compare to olden days. If there's no love or feeling, they will just break this bond. Why our parents, grandparents' time could do it to make it last a lifetime but not now? We didn't heard much divorce cases decades ago but now it seems to become a trend.

Is it because women are more independent? They are more educated, at the same time working and earning their own salaries and thus need no financial backing from husband?

Or is it love has become so fragile that any human could be replaced anytime with a new promise? If that's the case, why get married in the first place and be hurt later? Shouldn't both parties try their best to make it worked initially to the end?

Tuesday 26 September 2006

... how rich Bill Gates is? ...

Do you know that...

  1. Bill Gates earns US$250 every SECOND, that's about US$20 Million a DAY and US$7.8 Billion a YEAR!
  2. If he drops a thousand dollar, he won't even bother to pick it up bcoz the 4 seconds he picks it, he would've already earned it back.
  3. The US national debt is about 5.62 trillion, if Bill Gates were to pay the debt by himself; he will finish it in less then 10 years.
  4. He can donate US$15 to everyone on earth but still be left with US$5 Million for his pocket money.
  5. Michael Jordan is the highest paid athlete in US. If he doesn't drink and eat, and keeps up his annual income i.e. US$30 Million, he'll have to wait for 277 years to become as rich as Bill Gates is now.
  6. If Bill Gates was a country, he would be the 37th richest country on earth.
  7. If you change all of Bill Gate's money to US$1 notes, you can make a road from the earth to moon, 14 times back and forth. But you have to make that road non-stop for 1,400 years, and use a total of 713 BOEING 747 planes to transport all the money.
  8. Bill Gates is 40 this year. If we assume that he will live for another 35 years, he has to spend US$6.78 Million per day to finish all his money before he dies.
  9. Last but not the least : My Favorite........!!! If Microsoft Windows' users can claim US$1 for every time their computers hang because of Microsoft Windows, Bill Gates will be bankrupt in 3 years!!!

Sunday 24 September 2006

... 愛情的監獄 ...

這是個令人憐惜的愛情故事。它本來可以很美好、幸福,但不知曾幾何時變成一個無期徒刑的刑罰。

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他認識她時,她已經有個很要好的男友了。可惜好景不長在,因爲某些原因,她和她的那個他分手了。她傷心了很久,而他卻一直默默守護在她身旁。

漸漸,她接受了他的愛情,讓他的愛替她受傷的心重新接受滋潤和灌溉,萌芽開花結果。就這樣他們也像其他的戀人一樣,嘗盡了酸甜苦辣的愛情。不知不覺地過了好幾年,他們也爲了他們的將來而努力奮鬥,也因如此見面的機會慢慢變少了。有時幾個月才見上一次面;爲此,她吵過哭過閙過,從開始的失望到後來的絕望。

牛郎與織女的愛情故事有誰不曉得?一年一次的相約只為了把握彼此相聚的時光,來交換下次的聚首。她和他的關係就好像監獄裏的囚犯被囚禁,盼望親人在指定的時間來探望她。不管時間長短、不管天晴雨天。只求那難得見面的相處。

一個無期徒刑,就把他倆分隔在世界的兩端。等待有天他為她找到證據而判無罪釋放。但要等上多久?一年,三年或十年?她開始累了,希望這個無期徒刑能變成死刑,這樣一了百了不用這般痛苦下去。至少,愛過、傷心過也痛過,而且曾經擁有又何嘗不是种幸福?

Friday 22 September 2006

... knowing myself better ...

Got this from kasic's blog which she got from angellot's blog... complicated rite? ;) anyway, thanks ladies..

The link: http://www.quizbox.com/personality/test82.aspx

Get to know yourself better

Your view on yourself:

You are down-to-earth and people like you because you are so straightforward. You are an efficient problem solver because you will listen to both sides of an argument before making a decision that usually appeals to both parties.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:

You like serious, smart and determined people. You don't judge a book by its cover, so good-looking people aren't necessarily your style. This makes you an attractive person in many people's eyes.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:

You are ready to commit as soon as you meet the right person. And you believe you will pretty much know as soon as you might that person.

The seriousness of your love: You are very serious about relationships and aren't interested in wasting time with people you don't really like. If you meet the right person, you will fall deeply and beautifully in love.

Your views on education:

Education is very important in life. You want to study hard and learn as much as you can.

The right job for you:

You're a practical person and will choose a secure job with a steady income. Knowing what you like to do is important. Find a regular job doing just that and you'll be set for life.

How do you view success:

You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don't succeed. Don't give up when you haven't yet even started! Be courageous.

What are you most afraid of:

You are afraid of having no one to rely on in times of trouble. You don't ever want to be unable to take care of yourself. Independence is important to you.

Who is your true self:

You are mature, reasonable, honest and give good advice. People ask for your comments on all sorts of different issues. Sometimes you might find yourself in a dilemma when trapped with a problem, which your heart rather than your head needs to solve.

Quite accurate though.. hehe.. found out some of the points quite similar to kasic.. once again, prove that we really sama sama lei.. haha..

Thursday 21 September 2006

... 兩個人在一起 ...

Got this email from my friend.. quite meaningful so decided to share with everyone..

兩個人在一起有三件事很重要

我覺得這篇文章寫的真好兩個不同生長環境的人要在一起,已經是很困難的事了,而彼此能相互溝通、尊重與珍惜的人更是少之又少

因為許多人往往都是自私地站在自己的立場去想、去做, 以為這就是對方所需要的,以致常常意氣用事,痛了自己也苦了別人。

所以愛一個人不是給她你要的,因為你要的她不一定要啊! 而是要給她「她要的」,這樣才是真正愛她。 所以,兩個人在一起有三件事很重要:溝通•尊重•珍惜

◆溝通

兩個人一定要會溝通,溝通可不是件容易的事喔~

就連我這個自認是「溝通大師」的都不一定會溝通呢!

我就說「炒蛋事件」好了!

我跟我老婆結婚才三個月的時候...就發現我不會溝通了!

就有一天,我心血來潮突然就跟她說:「我今晚作一道世界名菜給你吃!」

平常晚上,我家都是吃三菜一湯。

她一做完兩菜一湯就離開廚房,說要拭目看我作出什麼世界名菜來給她吃,讓她有個驚喜我就拿起三個蛋,打散,唰~下鍋,加蔥花...,再加醬油~?

這是最重要的!!

小時候不是都吃媽媽的醬油炒蛋嗎? 這可是含有濃濃的母愛的香味呢!好啦!? 起鍋~世界名菜---「醬油炒蛋」上桌!

她走出來,一看,「這是什麼?」「蛋啊! 炒蛋啊~」

她是外省人,所以她們從小吃的蛋都是加鹽巴的。

我是本省人,所以都是加醬油的。

「我不要吃!這不是炒蛋。」

這女人怎麼這麼硬啊?! 醬油炒蛋就不是蛋嗎?分別是少見多怪嘛!黑蛋當然也是蛋啊~

「不吃就不吃!」

她筷子一摔,還真的就不吃了。碰!還甩房門。

自此而後,只要我每次炒蛋,內心、腦袋就開始掙扎...「要加鹽巴?還是加醬油?我應該要讓她才對...不對?」!

哼!這一步不能讓!這可是攸關我大男人的面子, 尤其童年的回憶、媽媽的母愛、還有省籍意識在裡面的ㄋㄟ~怎麼能輕易就讓妳?!每次上桌的醬油炒蛋,她就當作沒看到那道菜。

我們就這樣過了五年。很不可思議吧!

為了個炒蛋吵了五年,但後來突然有一天福至心靈,我終於想通了!

我們跟小朋友玩不是都會讓他嗎! 因為他年紀小,不懂事嘛,所以我讓她!而有時老婆不懂事、幼稚的時候,我又何必認真呢!

有一天我就炒了加鹽巴的蛋上桌了。唷!我們家的黑蛋怎麼變白蛋啦? 就沒聽過黑人會變白人的,我們家的黑蛋竟然也會變白蛋呀!」

我這時啥也沒說,只嘿嘿乾笑了兩聲。可是,你知道嗎?過兩天,換我在桌上看見黑蛋了。她炒的。

所以,愛一個人不是要給她你要的,你要的她不一定要啊!而是要給她「她要的」!切記。要把對方的需要當作你的責任,這樣才是真正愛她。

◆尊重

男生在發展關係的同時能尊重對方的意願,能把主控權交給女生的才是好男生。艾斯德講的是「兩個人在一起要學會尊重彼此的任何決定」。意見不合可以溝通,因為無論從人權、人性來說,男女生都是站在平等地位上的。我告訴朋友---尊重,是最重要的!

如果他(她)會尊重你,意即什麼都好,都是能商量的。會把你放在平等地位上看待的這男生或女生就不會糟到哪裡去。

◆珍惜

我們要珍惜每一段關係。假設你還能活60年好了!等你60年後,快死之前,請你拿起一隻筆和一張紙,想一想,寫下你這一生中「真正愛過」的10個人。爸媽兄弟姊妹都可以,是真正愛過的喔!那種只愛三個禮拜的不算是真愛。能寫到超過是最好,不到10個也沒關係。我現在想,我就好像寫不來10個呢!我是不是真正愛我方爸媽都不太確定。因為你真正愛一個人會一年只見他三次面嗎? 不會吧!一定是巴不得每天都能看到他(她)的是吧!可是現在都有自己的家庭了,所以一年大概也只回去三次而已。

紙翻過來再寫,這一生中「真正愛過你」的10個人, 如果你真能寫到10個那你可真的很幸運很幸福了!!還有一個小故事!大意是說一個即將升職的男人,因為她老婆突然罹患老年癡呆症,朋友們都建議他把老婆送到醫院治療兼療養, 他考慮了一星期後遞出了辭呈。朋友們都很驚訝、錯愕,紛紛詢問他為什麼要放棄升遷的機會呢?他的人生就將要達到最高峰了啊!他說:[我只想到我曾在 神前面承諾過,不論她貧窮、疾病、變老、變醜、我要愛她、照顧她一輩子。]

Wednesday 20 September 2006

... I got 'CHEATED' !! ...

Guess some of you might hear about those time-share companies that existed since don’t know when… Well, I'm going to share with you my experience (promised to post it here too... hehe...) on the recent one that I have gone through… bad experience if you asked...

I received a call early last week informing me that for the last 6 months I may have joined some lucky draws in NTUC, Carrefour, etc. Yes, I told them I did and this guy was even so honest to tell me that these supermarkets actually consolidate those lucky draw participants database even though we didn’t win the first prize BUT we still win something...

(Now, you have to be careful from now on...)

The caller will tell you that you have won a free night stay at one of the 5 stars hotel (Sijori Sentosa Resort) and another free accommodation in Thailand (for my case) and the only condition is, you have to go down to the company to attend a presentation of about an hour prior to collecting your prize..

(Always wonder why the same old trick?? C'mon, just give us the 'dam' prize will you?!$%^&)

Initially, I refused but this guy was good in persuading and so I was thinking no harm going down (haha... got you... don't even be tempted by this!!) and see what kind of trick they could come out with… And they are also persistent, keep confirming you are going down, your details and particulars are correct, etc. On the day of the appointment, will remind you again… as if I will fly away or get lost!! Duh...

And so, there I was in the posh office in Orchard Road. OK, if you want to know the company name, drop me a message, I will gladly provide you with the office name and address. I won't put it here... Well, I do have some 道德 ok?? ;) All I can say, it is Tong Building... hahaha... obvious liao rite?? :-)

(Always like that... nice office, people working after office hours (maybe to cater to 'easy-to-con' people like us and not sure why but there's always loud music, which I read in those forum)

Here comes the part, there will be this sales person who will start to break the ice, asking you about the travel habits, your daily life, etc. Then, he will proceed to explain the kind of product they selling… at the same time even guarantee that theirs is not those time-share company. (who on earth know what a time-share company is or how they operates??) During this time, you got to be very firm that you are not buying anything or else they will talk on and on... mind you, I was stuck there for the whole night which was almost 5 hours! (one trick is to show them you are impatient or not listening as I read in one of the forum...)

If the sales guy or lady can't handle you, they will get their supervisor to handle you, this supervisor is 'dam' good in 'psycholing' you… will offer you different types of proposal to suit your 'financial' and again, assured you that what you buy is value for money… all to get you nod your head and sign on the dotted line.

(usually their product is over $10k man! they will let you pay a min. deposit starting S$500.. the rest work out in installment wan.. they are real good right?? Haiz... I even tell them I got debts to pay, many commitments, they even say themselves also got a lot of commitments… bottom line is, whatever you say, they always know how to counter-attack back)

Later part, you realized that you get conned as it's the same trick like those time-share company and you decided to cancel it… PLEASE DO IT WITHIN 3 DAYS after you signed the agreement according to CASE's Fair Trading Agreement (FTA) which stated you have the right to cancel it.

Therefore, last night, I was at their office again, as usual, the sales guy asked me why I wanted to cancel it and same thing again, get the supervisor in… he/she will try means and ways and the usual counter attack strategy to make you changed your mind… Luckily, I was FIRM enough to cancel after half an hour... argghhh… and I can only get back my deposit after 2 months!!

Don't agree to attend any type of presentations and REJECT immediately after knowing their intention... don't worry, you can hang up their phone or just be harsh.. you have the right to as they are all sharing databases!!

The prize may be attractive but when you realized you have signed it and the product is actually not that good or you know you might not be using it, or whatsoever reasons… you will regret it... Then you decide to cancel it, do this within 3 days if not you will have no rights to cancel after 3 days already…

It will be their usual practice which they will try to persuade you to continue and 'sell' you another plan at a lower rate and even might asked you to discuss with your family… and you will notice this will be after the 3days time …

So, don't be like me and fall into this trap ok??

We are lucky as we are protected by the FTA rule... imagine those company which doesn't have? You will be stuck with the useless product for the rest of your life and paying it for nothing but not enjoying it… unless you are rich then what can i say??

Tuesday 19 September 2006

... my beloved brother ~ ah Kai ...

It's my youngest brother, Kai's birthday toady.. wow! so fast he's already 22 already.. nw studying in Brisbane..

We were talking on MSN on Sunday and didn't realised that he could be such loveable man.. how come no gals like him huh??

Me: Happy birthday to you bro!

Kai: Thanks thanks!

Me: So what you going to do tomorrow (slip my mind his birthday is on tue i.e today.. hehe)

Kai: It's on Tuesday lei..

Kai: Boo...

blah blah blah

Me: Btw, we have send you a package.. (got scolded by my sis over this as this meant to be a surprise.. hehe..)

Kai: Air-flown cake?

Isn't he cute?? So poor thing that nobody actually remember his birthday.. so he was telling me that's why he's advertising on MSN & knew what? His nick is "happy birthday".

Hey, brother, here's for you: (even though he didn't know i have blog.. haha..)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!

Thursday 14 September 2006

... memorable quotes from Indecent Proposal (2003) ...

"If you ever want something badly, let it go. If it comes back to you, then it's yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never yours to begin with."

After I watched this movie since 1993... umpteen times, whenever I wanted something repeatedly, I would remind myself about this phrase... not sure does it applied to everyone? At least it does to me personally...

Many years back, I have gone through some rough patches and always had this wish that this someone would come back to me eventually even though he had hurt me many times.. As years gone by, this feeling of wanting him back had slowly faded away…

Human being are such funny animal, upon losing something precious, then they realized to treasure the precious only AFTER. Why can't we just treasure the precious thing we have from day one? Why must it be only upon losing it?

Why go through 失去了才懂得珍惜 such agony?

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When two people fall in love, it is always the nicest thing that happens on planet earth… both of you won't get tired of seeing each other everyday and never complains that you are sick and tired of hearing his/her voice even the calls are only 3 seconds long..

Sadly, all these will gradually disappears and what that's left are the little arguments which sometimes leads to quarrels or worse still, fights.

Is it because they have become 'a habit' to each other? Or is it we know our partner too well and thus lost that loving feeling already?

Unfortunately, one of them might start to search for better leaves or flowers on the roadside… as the trees/flowers are greener on the other side... they will start finding excuses not to get close to their partner, avoid talking to them; fearing it might lead to another argument.

So, why not take into consideration -

"I thought we were invincible. But now I know that the things that people in love do to each other, they remember. And if they stay together, it's not because they forget. It's because they forgive."

Shall we just forgive and forget and start anew??

Wednesday 13 September 2006

... 真心 ...

一直以來,我很喜歡這首歌。它的歌詞非常貼心。每次聽到這首歌我的心都有些傷感,百感交集。

歌名:真心

作曲:殷文琦

填詞:劉虞瑞

盼到了黎明 又怕讓自己清醒

有多少未知的莫名委屈 要讓我強忍著不能哭泣

我真的累了 累得想放棄逃避

逃回那不再有誰會在乎的過去

走過了風雨 在身上留下了痕跡

回想起這一切 百感交集 分不清該可悲還是歡喜

我真的累了 累得我無法繼續

有誰能看見我那顆平凡執著的心

為何我用真心做的夢愛的人說的話 沒有人願意相信

而一個小小的天地只屬於自己 卻如此遙不可及

我只想用真心做個夢愛個人說些話 安靜的面對命運

但這無奈的心情 我又能說給誰聽

Monday 11 September 2006

... my new blog ...

Dear friends!!

i guess all of you out there could have noticed i have not been updating my friendster's blog for a long long time..

Well, i have started another blog under Singtel's call Moblog which some of you might have one.. just go there and take a look when you free ba!!

http://tancyee.moblog.com.sg/

(this was copied and back dated.. so quite funny hor? anyway, this is the first move.. hee..)

... a good wife's guide ...

The good wife's guide (extracted ~ Housekeeping monthly 13 May 1955)

  • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
  • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
  • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
  • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
  • During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
  • Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
  • Be happy to see him.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
  • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
  • Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
  • Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
  • Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
  • A good wife always knows her place.

22/01/08: found this website on the internet by chance and the author even opposed it!! read it at http://www.snopes.com/language/document/goodwife.asp

Friday 1 September 2006

... life's truth ...

GREAT TRUTHS THAT LITTLE CHILDREN HAVE LEARNED:

1) No matter how hard you try, you can't baptise cats.

2) When your Mum is mad at your Dad, don't let her brush your hair.

3) If your sister hits you, don't hit her back. They always catch the second person.

4) Never ask your 3-year old brother to hold a tomato.

5) You can't trust dogs to watch your food.

6) Don't sneeze when someone is cutting your hair.

7) Never hold a Dust-Buster and a cat at the same time.

8) You can't hide a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk.

9) Don't wear polka-dot underwear under white shorts.

10) The best place to be when you're sad is Grandpa's lap.

GREAT TRUTHS THAT ADULTS HAVE LEARNED:

1) Raising teenagers is like nailing jelly to a tree.

2) Wrinkles don't hurt.

3) Families are like fudge...mostly sweet, with a few nuts.

4) Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground.

5) Laughing is good exercise. It's like jogging on the inside.

6) Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fibre, not the toy.

GREAT TRUTHS ABOUT GROWING OLD:

1) Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional.

2) Forget the health food. I need all the preservatives I can get.

3) When you fall down, you wonder what else you can do while you're down there.

4) You're getting old when you get the same sensation from a rocking chair that you once got from a roller coaster.

5) It's frustrating when you know all the answers but nobody bothers to ask you the questions.

6) Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.

7) Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone.

SUCCESS:

At age 4 success is . . . not piddling in your pants.

At age 12 success is . . . having friends.

At age 17 success is . . having a drivers licence.

At age 35 success is . . . having money.

At age 50 success is . . . having money.

At age 70 success is . . . having a drivers licence.

At age 75 success is . . . having friends.

At age 80 success is . . . not piddling in your pants.


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