... knowing myself better ...

Got this from kasic's blog which she got from angellot's blog... complicated rite? ;) anyway, thanks ladies..

The link: http://www.quizbox.com/personality/test82.aspx

Get to know yourself better

Your view on yourself:

You are down-to-earth and people like you because you are so straightforward. You are an efficient problem solver because you will listen to both sides of an argument before making a decision that usually appeals to both parties.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:

You like serious, smart and determined people. You don't judge a book by its cover, so good-looking people aren't necessarily your style. This makes you an attractive person in many people's eyes.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:

You are ready to commit as soon as you meet the right person. And you believe you will pretty much know as soon as you might that person.

The seriousness of your love: You are very serious about relationships and aren't interested in wasting time with people you don't really like. If you meet the right person, you will fall deeply and beautifully in love.

Your views on education:

Education is very important in life. You want to study hard and learn as much as you can.

The right job for you:

You're a practical person and will choose a secure job with a steady income. Knowing what you like to do is important. Find a regular job doing just that and you'll be set for life.

How do you view success:

You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don't succeed. Don't give up when you haven't yet even started! Be courageous.

What are you most afraid of:

You are afraid of having no one to rely on in times of trouble. You don't ever want to be unable to take care of yourself. Independence is important to you.

Who is your true self:

You are mature, reasonable, honest and give good advice. People ask for your comments on all sorts of different issues. Sometimes you might find yourself in a dilemma when trapped with a problem, which your heart rather than your head needs to solve.

Quite accurate though.. hehe.. found out some of the points quite similar to kasic.. once again, prove that we really sama sama lei.. haha..

... 兩個人在一起 ...

Got this email from my friend.. quite meaningful so decided to share with everyone..

兩個人在一起有三件事很重要

我覺得這篇文章寫的真好，兩個不同生長環境的人要在一起，已經是很困難的事了，而彼此能相互溝通、尊重與珍惜的人更是少之又少。

因為許多人往往都是自私地站在自己的立場去想、去做， 以為這就是對方所需要的，以致常常意氣用事，痛了自己也苦了別人。

所以愛一個人不是給她你要的，因為你要的她不一定要啊! 而是要給她「她要的」，這樣才是真正愛她。 所以，兩個人在一起有三件事很重要：溝通•尊重•珍惜

◆溝通

兩個人一定要會溝通，溝通可不是件容易的事喔~

就連我這個自認是「溝通大師」的都不一定會溝通呢！

我就說「炒蛋事件」好了!

我跟我老婆結婚才三個月的時候...就發現我不會溝通了!

就有一天，我心血來潮突然就跟她說：「我今晚作一道世界名菜給你吃!」

平常晚上，我家都是吃三菜一湯。

她一做完兩菜一湯就離開廚房，說要拭目看我作出什麼世界名菜來給她吃，讓她有個驚喜我就拿起三個蛋，打散，唰~下鍋，加蔥花...，再加醬油~?

這是最重要的!!

小時候不是都吃媽媽的醬油炒蛋嗎? 這可是含有濃濃的母愛的香味呢!好啦!? 起鍋~世界名菜---「醬油炒蛋」上桌!

她走出來，一看，「這是什麼?」「蛋啊! 炒蛋啊~」

她是外省人，所以她們從小吃的蛋都是加鹽巴的。

我是本省人，所以都是加醬油的。

「我不要吃!這不是炒蛋。」

這女人怎麼這麼硬啊?! 醬油炒蛋就不是蛋嗎？分別是少見多怪嘛!黑蛋當然也是蛋啊~

「不吃就不吃!」

她筷子一摔，還真的就不吃了。碰!還甩房門。

自此而後，只要我每次炒蛋，內心、腦袋就開始掙扎...「要加鹽巴?還是加醬油?我應該要讓她才對...不對?」!

哼！這一步不能讓!這可是攸關我大男人的面子， 尤其童年的回憶、媽媽的母愛、還有省籍意識在裡面的ㄋㄟ~怎麼能輕易就讓妳?!每次上桌的醬油炒蛋，她就當作沒看到那道菜。

我們就這樣過了五年。很不可思議吧！

為了個炒蛋吵了五年，但後來突然有一天福至心靈，我終於想通了!

我們跟小朋友玩不是都會讓他嗎! 因為他年紀小，不懂事嘛，所以我讓她!而有時老婆不懂事、幼稚的時候，我又何必認真呢！

有一天我就炒了加鹽巴的蛋上桌了。唷！我們家的黑蛋怎麼變白蛋啦? 就沒聽過黑人會變白人的，我們家的黑蛋竟然也會變白蛋呀!」

我這時啥也沒說，只嘿嘿乾笑了兩聲。可是，你知道嗎？過兩天，換我在桌上看見黑蛋了。她炒的。

所以，愛一個人不是要給她你要的，你要的她不一定要啊!而是要給她「她要的」!切記。要把對方的需要當作你的責任，這樣才是真正愛她。

◆尊重

男生在發展關係的同時能尊重對方的意願，能把主控權交給女生的才是好男生。艾斯德講的是「兩個人在一起要學會尊重彼此的任何決定」。意見不合可以溝通，因為無論從人權、人性來說，男女生都是站在平等地位上的。我告訴朋友---尊重，是最重要的!

如果他(她)會尊重你，意即什麼都好，都是能商量的。會把你放在平等地位上看待的這男生或女生就不會糟到哪裡去。

◆珍惜

我們要珍惜每一段關係。假設你還能活60年好了!等你60年後，快死之前，請你拿起一隻筆和一張紙，想一想，寫下你這一生中「真正愛過」的10個人。爸媽兄弟姊妹都可以，是真正愛過的喔!那種只愛三個禮拜的不算是真愛。能寫到超過是最好，不到10個也沒關係。我現在想，我就好像寫不來10個呢！我是不是真正愛我方爸媽都不太確定。因為你真正愛一個人會一年只見他三次面嗎? 不會吧！一定是巴不得每天都能看到他(她)的是吧！可是現在都有自己的家庭了，所以一年大概也只回去三次而已。

紙翻過來再寫，這一生中「真正愛過你」的10個人， 如果你真能寫到10個那你可真的很幸運很幸福了!!還有一個小故事!大意是說一個即將升職的男人，因為她老婆突然罹患老年癡呆症，朋友們都建議他把老婆送到醫院治療兼療養, 他考慮了一星期後遞出了辭呈。朋友們都很驚訝、錯愕，紛紛詢問他為什麼要放棄升遷的機會呢?他的人生就將要達到最高峰了啊！他說：[我只想到我曾在 神前面承諾過，不論她貧窮、疾病、變老、變醜、我要愛她、照顧她一輩子。]

... I got 'CHEATED' !! ...

Guess some of you might hear about those time-share companies that existed since don’t know when… Well, I'm going to share with you my experience (promised to post it here too... hehe...) on the recent one that I have gone through… bad experience if you asked...

I received a call early last week informing me that for the last 6 months I may have joined some lucky draws in NTUC, Carrefour, etc. Yes, I told them I did and this guy was even so honest to tell me that these supermarkets actually consolidate those lucky draw participants database even though we didn’t win the first prize BUT we still win something...

(Now, you have to be careful from now on...)

The caller will tell you that you have won a free night stay at one of the 5 stars hotel (Sijori Sentosa Resort) and another free accommodation in Thailand (for my case) and the only condition is, you have to go down to the company to attend a presentation of about an hour prior to collecting your prize..

(Always wonder why the same old trick?? C'mon, just give us the 'dam' prize will you?!$%^&)

Initially, I refused but this guy was good in persuading and so I was thinking no harm going down (haha... got you... don't even be tempted by this!!) and see what kind of trick they could come out with… And they are also persistent, keep confirming you are going down, your details and particulars are correct, etc. On the day of the appointment, will remind you again… as if I will fly away or get lost!! Duh...

And so, there I was in the posh office in Orchard Road. OK, if you want to know the company name, drop me a message, I will gladly provide you with the office name and address. I won't put it here... Well, I do have some 道德 ok?? ;) All I can say, it is Tong Building... hahaha... obvious liao rite?? :-)

(Always like that... nice office, people working after office hours (maybe to cater to 'easy-to-con' people like us and not sure why but there's always loud music, which I read in those forum)

Here comes the part, there will be this sales person who will start to break the ice, asking you about the travel habits, your daily life, etc. Then, he will proceed to explain the kind of product they selling… at the same time even guarantee that theirs is not those time-share company. (who on earth know what a time-share company is or how they operates??) During this time, you got to be very firm that you are not buying anything or else they will talk on and on... mind you, I was stuck there for the whole night which was almost 5 hours! (one trick is to show them you are impatient or not listening as I read in one of the forum...)

If the sales guy or lady can't handle you, they will get their supervisor to handle you, this supervisor is 'dam' good in 'psycholing' you… will offer you different types of proposal to suit your 'financial' and again, assured you that what you buy is value for money… all to get you nod your head and sign on the dotted line.

(usually their product is over $10k man! they will let you pay a min. deposit starting S$500.. the rest work out in installment wan.. they are real good right?? Haiz... I even tell them I got debts to pay, many commitments, they even say themselves also got a lot of commitments… bottom line is, whatever you say, they always know how to counter-attack back)

Later part, you realized that you get conned as it's the same trick like those time-share company and you decided to cancel it… PLEASE DO IT WITHIN 3 DAYS after you signed the agreement according to CASE's Fair Trading Agreement (FTA) which stated you have the right to cancel it.

Therefore, last night, I was at their office again, as usual, the sales guy asked me why I wanted to cancel it and same thing again, get the supervisor in… he/she will try means and ways and the usual counter attack strategy to make you changed your mind… Luckily, I was FIRM enough to cancel after half an hour... argghhh… and I can only get back my deposit after 2 months!!

Don't agree to attend any type of presentations and REJECT immediately after knowing their intention... don't worry, you can hang up their phone or just be harsh.. you have the right to as they are all sharing databases!!

The prize may be attractive but when you realized you have signed it and the product is actually not that good or you know you might not be using it, or whatsoever reasons… you will regret it... Then you decide to cancel it, do this within 3 days if not you will have no rights to cancel after 3 days already…

It will be their usual practice which they will try to persuade you to continue and 'sell' you another plan at a lower rate and even might asked you to discuss with your family… and you will notice this will be after the 3days time …

So, don't be like me and fall into this trap ok??

We are lucky as we are protected by the FTA rule... imagine those company which doesn't have? You will be stuck with the useless product for the rest of your life and paying it for nothing but not enjoying it… unless you are rich then what can i say??

... my beloved brother ~ ah Kai ...

It's my youngest brother, Kai's birthday toady.. wow! so fast he's already 22 already.. nw studying in Brisbane..

We were talking on MSN on Sunday and didn't realised that he could be such loveable man.. how come no gals like him huh??

Me: Happy birthday to you bro!

Kai: Thanks thanks!

Me: So what you going to do tomorrow (slip my mind his birthday is on tue i.e today.. hehe)

Kai: It's on Tuesday lei..

Kai: Boo...

blah blah blah

Me: Btw, we have send you a package.. (got scolded by my sis over this as this meant to be a surprise.. hehe..)

Kai: Air-flown cake?

Isn't he cute?? So poor thing that nobody actually remember his birthday.. so he was telling me that's why he's advertising on MSN & knew what? His nick is "happy birthday".

Hey, brother, here's for you: (even though he didn't know i have blog.. haha..)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!

... memorable quotes from Indecent Proposal (2003) ...

"If you ever want something badly, let it go. If it comes back to you, then it's yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never yours to begin with."

After I watched this movie since 1993... umpteen times, whenever I wanted something repeatedly, I would remind myself about this phrase... not sure does it applied to everyone? At least it does to me personally...

Many years back, I have gone through some rough patches and always had this wish that this someone would come back to me eventually even though he had hurt me many times.. As years gone by, this feeling of wanting him back had slowly faded away…

Human being are such funny animal, upon losing something precious, then they realized to treasure the precious only AFTER. Why can't we just treasure the precious thing we have from day one? Why must it be only upon losing it?

Why go through 失去了才懂得珍惜 such agony?

~~~~~~~~~~ << >> ~~~~~~~~~~

When two people fall in love, it is always the nicest thing that happens on planet earth… both of you won't get tired of seeing each other everyday and never complains that you are sick and tired of hearing his/her voice even the calls are only 3 seconds long..

Sadly, all these will gradually disappears and what that's left are the little arguments which sometimes leads to quarrels or worse still, fights.

Is it because they have become 'a habit' to each other? Or is it we know our partner too well and thus lost that loving feeling already?

Unfortunately, one of them might start to search for better leaves or flowers on the roadside… as the trees/flowers are greener on the other side... they will start finding excuses not to get close to their partner, avoid talking to them; fearing it might lead to another argument.

So, why not take into consideration -

"I thought we were invincible. But now I know that the things that people in love do to each other, they remember. And if they stay together, it's not because they forget. It's because they forgive."

Shall we just forgive and forget and start anew??

... 真心 ...

一直以來，我很喜歡這首歌。它的歌詞非常貼心。每次聽到這首歌我的心都有些傷感，百感交集。

歌名:真心

作曲:殷文琦

填詞:劉虞瑞

盼到了黎明　又怕讓自己清醒

有多少未知的莫名委屈　要讓我強忍著不能哭泣

我真的累了　累得想放棄逃避

逃回那不再有誰會在乎的過去

走過了風雨　在身上留下了痕跡

回想起這一切　百感交集　分不清該可悲還是歡喜

我真的累了　累得我無法繼續

有誰能看見我那顆平凡執著的心

為何我用真心做的夢愛的人說的話　沒有人願意相信

而一個小小的天地只屬於自己　卻如此遙不可及

我只想用真心做個夢愛個人說些話　安靜的面對命運

但這無奈的心情　我又能說給誰聽

... my new blog ...

Dear friends!!

i guess all of you out there could have noticed i have not been updating my friendster's blog for a long long time..

Well, i have started another blog under Singtel's call Moblog which some of you might have one.. just go there and take a look when you free ba!!

http://tancyee.moblog.com.sg/

(this was copied and back dated.. so quite funny hor? anyway, this is the first move.. hee..)

... a good wife's guide ...

http://j-walk.com/other/goodwife/index.htm

The good wife's guide (extracted ~ Housekeeping monthly 13 May 1955)

• Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
• Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
• Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
• During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
• Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
• Be happy to see him.
• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
• Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
• Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
• Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
• Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
• Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
• A good wife always knows her place.

22/01/08: found this website on the internet by chance and the author even opposed it!! read it at http://www.snopes.com/language/document/goodwife.asp

... life's truth ...

GREAT TRUTHS THAT LITTLE CHILDREN HAVE LEARNED:

1) No matter how hard you try, you can't baptise cats.

2) When your Mum is mad at your Dad, don't let her brush your hair.

3) If your sister hits you, don't hit her back. They always catch the second person.

4) Never ask your 3-year old brother to hold a tomato.

5) You can't trust dogs to watch your food.

6) Don't sneeze when someone is cutting your hair.

7) Never hold a Dust-Buster and a cat at the same time.

8) You can't hide a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk.

9) Don't wear polka-dot underwear under white shorts.

10) The best place to be when you're sad is Grandpa's lap.

GREAT TRUTHS THAT ADULTS HAVE LEARNED:

1) Raising teenagers is like nailing jelly to a tree.

2) Wrinkles don't hurt.

3) Families are like fudge...mostly sweet, with a few nuts.

4) Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground.

5) Laughing is good exercise. It's like jogging on the inside.

6) Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fibre, not the toy.

GREAT TRUTHS ABOUT GROWING OLD:

1) Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional.

2) Forget the health food. I need all the preservatives I can get.

3) When you fall down, you wonder what else you can do while you're down there.

4) You're getting old when you get the same sensation from a rocking chair that you once got from a roller coaster.

5) It's frustrating when you know all the answers but nobody bothers to ask you the questions.

6) Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.

7) Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone.

SUCCESS:

At age 4 success is . . . not piddling in your pants.

At age 12 success is . . . having friends.

At age 17 success is . . having a drivers licence.

At age 35 success is . . . having money.

At age 50 success is . . . having money.

At age 70 success is . . . having a drivers licence.

At age 75 success is . . . having friends.

At age 80 success is . . . not piddling in your pants.

... 情爲何物？？...

這陣子發生了許多事情。。 分手，死亡，背叛，覺悟。每件事的發生都爲了一個理由-情。情真的會使我們不知所措。人也往往會因爲固執而一錯再錯。

我只是希望執迷不悟的人會覺悟， 傷心的人會振作。就這麽簡單何必把它複雜化呢？雖然我了解說的比做的來得容易。。

也許這一生我們就是這樣過的吧！

突然很想唱這首歌：

手放开

我把自己关起来只留下一个阳台

每当天黑推开城门对着夜幕发呆

看着往事 一幕一幕 再次演出你我的爱

我把电视机打开听着别人的对白

也许那些故事可以给我一个交代

你要的爱 我学不来 眼睁睁看情变坏

眼睁睁看情感慨

不能给你未来 我还你现在

安静结束也是另一种对待 当眼泪留下来

伤已超载 分开也是另一种明白

我给你最后的疼爱是手放开

不要一张双人床中间隔着一片海

感情的污点就留给时间慢慢漂白

把爱收进胸前左边口袋 最后的疼爱是手放开

不想用言语拉扯所以选择不责怪

感情就像候车月台 有人走有人来

我的心是一个站牌 写着等待

不能给你未来 我还你现在

安静结束也是另一种对待 当眼泪留下来

伤已超载 分开也是另一种明白

... appraisal & resignation ...

Taken from my friend who send me this.. guess it's quite true after all.. hehe..

A newly joined trainee engineer asks his boss "what is the meaning of appraisal?"

Boss: "Do you know the meaning of resignation?"

Trainee: "Yes I do" Boss:

"So let me make you understand what an appraisal is by comparing it with resignation"

Comparison study: Appraisal and Resignation

Appraisal

In an appraisal meeting they will speak only about your weakness, errors and failures.

During an appraisal you may need to cry and beg for even a 10% pay hike.

During an appraisal, they will deny promotion saying that you did not meet the expectation, you don't have leadership qualities, and that you had several drawbacks in reaching objective/goal.

There is a 90% chance of not getting any significant incentives after appraisal.

Resignation

In a resignation meeting they will speak only about your strengths, past achievements and success.

In a resignation meeting you can easily demand (or get more without asking) more than 50-60% hike!

During resignation, they'll say you are the core mbr of the team; you are the vision of the company & so "how can you go"; you have to take the project on your shoulders and lead your juniors to success.

There is a 90% chance of getting an immediate pay hike after you put in your resignation.

Trainee: "Yes boss enough, now I understood my future. For an appraisal I will have to resign

... the 10 commandments of marriage ...

COMMANDMENT 1

Marriages are made in heaven. But so are thunder and lightning.

COMMANDMENT 2

If you want your wife to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say, talk in your sleep.

COMMANDMENT 3

Marriage is grand -- and divorce is at least 100 grand!

COMMANDMENT 4

Married life is very frustrating.In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.

In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.

In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

COMMANDMENT 5

When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing:

Either the car is new or the wife is.

COMMANDMENT 6

Marriage is when a man and woman become as one;

The trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

COMMANDMENT 7

Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you say.

After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish.

COMMANDMENT 8

Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook.

But the law allows only one wife.

COMMANDMENT 9

Marriage and love are purely matters of chemistry.

That is why wife treats husband like toxic waste.

COMMANDMENT 10

A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished..

... 友情的心有灵犀一点通 ...

During our life path, we make many great friends... they come and go... those who stand by your side when you are in trouble... while others may slowly fade out from your circle. Those that stay may be what we call close or best friends. Or do you really know what are they thinking sometimes?

The amazing thing about our so-called 'best/close friends' is when this friend knows what to do or think without you saying it out… just by observing your action is good enough to plan the next course of action. This is the type of friends that you should really treasure.

I just 'witness' this among two of my friends today (actually not the first time already). One of my girl-friend was feeling down and I didn't even notice it during our last Saturday outing. This morning, our common guy-friend messaged and tells me we should go out more often with her more... So, I make arrangements... Didn't tell her who else I'm meeting but a while later, she 'warned' me that she knew me and this guy-friend ganged up! Also, don't give her any surprise can liao... Wow! 心有灵犀一点通 or should I call it the power of friendship!!

Sad to say, I'm a gal who is never sensitive to my friends' behaviors. Do I consider myself unmoving when it comes to friendship? Or should I call myself a failure in the name of friendship? hhmmm… guess it's time for some soul searching... Hey friend, though I don't know what's the problem you are facing or why are you sad... just remember, I'm always a good listening ear even though I may be insensitive... Just call me if you need someone to talk to ok? And hope you can cheer yourself up after tonight's arrangement!!

... pulau ubin expedition ...

Pulau Ubin changes tremendously since the last time I stepped foot there... eh, about 10 over years?!?! Those places I been to were more accessible by vehicles now... whether it’s on car, bicycle or foot... still, I guess foot is the best as you could really admire the scenery around you.

Last night was a bit humid and quiet.. the insects were screeching rhythmically sometime, making you feel like you are listening to a orchestra… could easily imagine in the daytime, this lovely little island would be much beautiful! This is one of the most enjoyable trips I’ve been to with SPI. We also explore some place which I didn’t know about! Like the little temple that the Ubin residents built for this German girl who passed away in WWI. It’s a sad story and till today nobody knows the identity of this pitiful girl.

There’s also a Chinese and Malay cemetery in this island too! And from the tombstones I saw, guess there’s mostly Cantonese living on the island.

Memories flow back to my camping days where the rubber plantation were one of the popular sites for campers as it overlook the beach.. Remember on our night walk, one of my instructor was sitting quietly at one spot on a slope like a “大伯公”. Trying to scare some of us huh?? However, that was one nice walks around the island. Thanks all the elites who have make this trip an enjoyable and fun one!!

... my love story ...

There's an old email about love story which was circulating last time. A girl asked a guy to be her boyfriend for 100days. They have their great days together and on the 99days he met with an accident and unfortunately he died on the 100th day... it was kind of sad but prone me to wonder if this type of love story exist in our world... personally, I believe there is.

Love can happen anytime anywhere! Everyone has theirs; similarly, I had a 刻苦銘心 story too which I still remember it until today...

It happened in September 1995. I was supposed to meet a friend of mine for some drinking session. We supposed to meet outside the pub and as usual, I'm early.

Time tickles away and my friend was not in sight. Suddenly, I saw a similar face from afar. Shit! I secretly cursed myself for not able to avoid him as after I graduated, the last thing I want is to run into old schoolmates.

Well, since he spotted me standing there and has started to approach me, I have no choice but to say hi to him. Found out that the pub is one of his regular hangouts. He was so delighted to see me and insisted to give me a treat at a nearby Denny's restaurant.

After dinner, we actually walked home from Orchard to my place... that's how I started my 4hours walk the first time. It was a wonderful night, the stars were shining brightly and it was a cool night.

Since that day, we started to go out occasionally... Memories flow back to our school days when I had rejected him once... hehe.. Therefore, I was shocked and taken by surprise after 7yrs; his heart still beats for me... From then on, I think I'm the luckiest gal in the world.

He showers me with lots of love and there's always one thing I'll never forget, he understood me inside out... Without question asked, he will know what's my next action is... Of course, like some couples, we had our arguments too... it was very frequent... but that's how we grew closer after each fight...

Sadly, this relationship ended after 2years due to his betrayal... No, he didn't have another woman but it was another matter that a betrayal could harm me more...

Since then, I had been searching for another better man... Wishing that the next man I meet will be better than him if not at least the same... Ironically, I didn't meet any... is it true that once u pick a bad guy, the next one will be worse? I'm not sure but it seems so true to me... Or is it me afraid of getting hurt again??

... four all who reed (read) and right (write) ...

We'll begin with a box, and the plural is boxes; but the plural of ox became oxen not oxes. One fowl is a goose, but two are called geese, yet the plural of moose should never be meese.

You may find a lone mouse or a nest full of mice; yet the plural of house is houses, not hice. If the plural of man is always called men, why shouldn't the plural of pan be called pen? If I spoke of my foot and show you my feet, and I give you a boot, would a pair be called beet? If one is a tooth and a whole set are teeth, why shouldn't the plural of booth be called beeth?

Then one may be that, and three would be those, yet hat in the plural would never be hose, and the plural of cat is cats, not cose. We speak of a brother and also of brethren, but though we say mother, we never say methren. Then the masculine pronouns are he, his and him, but imagine the feminine, she, shis and shim.

Let's face it! - English is a crazy language.

There is no egg in eggplant nor ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple. English muffins weren't invented in England . We take English for granted.

But if we explore its paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.

And why is it that writers write but fingers don't fing, grocers don't groce and hammers don't ham?

Doesn't it seem crazy that you can make amends but not one amend?

If you have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what do you call it?

If teachers taught, why didn't preachers praught? If a vegetarian eats vegetables, what does a humanitarian eat? Sometimes I think all the folks who grew up speaking English should be committed to an asylum for the verbally insane.

In what other language do people recite at a play and play at a recital? Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell? How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and a wise guy are opposites?

You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which an alarm goes off by going on.

If Dad is Pop, how's come Mom isn't Mop?

AUTHOR UNKNOWN or is it KNOT KNOWN?

... a woman's prayer ...

Now i lay me down to sleep, I pry the Lord my shape to keep.

Please no wrinkes please no badg and please lift my butt before it sags.

Please no age spots please no gray and as for my belly, please take it away.

Please Please keep me healthy please keep me young.

And thank you Dear Lord, for all that you've done.

~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~8~~

Five tips for a woman....

1. It is important that a man helps you around the house and has a job. 2. It is important that a man makes you laugh. 3. It is important to find a man you can count on and doesn't lie to you. 4. It is important that a man loves you and spoils you. 5. It is important that these four men don't know each other.

... birthday with friends ...

I had not been celebrating my birthday since 21yrs old.. always feel that birthday is just another ordinary day. Not until last night, I realised that birthday can turn out to be a memorable one if you celebrate with the right person and/or people. Venue is not an issue, atmosphere is more important.. not necessary to be a grand dinner at a posh restaurant; you may be contended even at home with home cooked food.. if the right person/people is there..

For me, yesterday shall be a day which I will remember forever (if my memory didn't fail me then.. 8) ) I went for a SPI talk at Asian Civilization Museum at Empress Place. The talk ended at 8pm and we proceed to McDonald for our dinner.

Upon reaching there, I noticed some of them were behaving very strange & fishy (imagine a few of them keep insisting i sit back-facing the staircase) though i speculate a birthday cake will pop out from nowhere somehow.. but it was more than what i expected! My sister and her colleague had join in the celebration together with my SPI friends!

Most touching was, they bought me the Disney Chip and Dale! Of course, not forgetting a Hello Kitty mini cake.. and i manage to cut it into 11 pieces so everyone could have one bite.. (pardon me for the cutting skill, friends.. hehe.. though i know the cake look kind of gross in the end..) Also, the 'lovely' birthday card they give me.. (auntie liao rite??)

P/S: To All of you who attended the mini celebration - THANK YOU SO MUCH! All of you make my day!! you know who you are huh?? :)

... men ...

1. Men are like ..... Laxatives ..... They irritate the shIT out of you. 2. Men are like ..... Bananas ..... The older they get, the less firm they are. 3. Men are like ..... Weather ..... Nothing can be done to change them. 4. Men are like ..... Blenders ..... You need One, but you're not quite sure why. 5. Men are like ..... Chocolate Bars ..... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips. 6. Men are like ..... Commercials ..... You can't believe a word they say. 7. Men are like ..... Department Stores ..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off. 8. Men are like ..... Government Bonds ..... They take soooooooo long to mature. 9. Men are like ..... Mascara ..... They usually run at the first sign of emotion. 10. Men are like ..... Popcorn ..... They satisfy you, but only for a little while. 11. Men are like ..... Lava Lamps ..... Fun to look at, but not very bright. 12. Men are like .......Parking Spots ....... All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.

... friends ...

My best friend called me this morning and check about my flight tomorrow.. she asked me if I have informed any other people except her..

一言惊醒梦中人... how many real friends do I have? It seems like whenever I'm away, be it for holiday or business (so far only once lah.. hehe) I never have any friends to send me off at the airport.. Partly, I never wanted any 'teary' scene created.

How do we actually measure the basis of friendship? Do you take in consideration those friends that claim to be one but ran away when you're in trouble? Or those who promised to keep in touch but just keep your number conveniently into their handphone as though to fill up the phone memory?

As we walk down our life path slowly, people may switch from acquaintances to friends; we may also lost some and gain some friends but how many of them actually stand by your side when you really need to confide in them to overcome your worst problems?

So, start being a more spontaneous and supportive friend of your friend today!