Wednesday, 30 May 2007

... what kind of employee are you? ...

Capricorn Employee Profile (december 22 - january 20)

A Capricorn employee with too much to do is a happy worker. They need plenty of projects and responsibility. There is no sadder sight than a Capricorn worker without a sense of responsibility. They need to be needed. They are covertly ambitious - usually not flashy or obvious about it-but you will usually know that they are serious and determined about advancing themselves. They are completely scrupulous, so much so that they can be self-disparaging. But they are no pushovers. They can wear down even the toughest customers. Their persistence is incredible. Once they set their sights on a goal, they work away at it until the bitter end-whether the goal be that hard sell or the new hardware release. Capricorns don't work for free, however. They expect to be paid handsomely and be given more and more responsibility. They need to come out ahead of the pack in the end, and they see the work environment as their primary vehicle. They won't go in for the typical office gossip and politics, though. They want to get down to business at work and see it as no place for fooling around. With a strong sense of duty and respect towards their superiors, it is rare they will join in on boss-bashing or knocking the system. They can get frustrated, however, with blue sky management schemes that lack common sense, and they will interject their dry sense of humor in the most critical ways. If they want change, they will be unyielding. If all their effort leads to naught the result will be deep moods of darkness and depression with a sense of hopelessness. Keep your Capricorn employee happy by paying them fairly and giving them plenty of hard work. Arrange for a path of advancement within your organization for them. If you don't, you might find them looking for other opportunities.

Aquarius Employee Profile (january 21 - february 19)

The Aquarius employee can't tolerate unfairness in the office. Hair brained schemes will get the positive attention they deserve if an Aquarian has anything to do with it. They'll try to help everyone see the good side of a bad situation if it's the last thing that they do. They are so smart-they can't help but hold management in disdain if they feel that they are being unfair and unintelligent. It isn't that they are overly ambitious and think they could be doing a better job- just that they think people in power should know better. Most Aquarius workers are still looking for themselves and will want to try their hand at a variety of jobs in the workplace. Whatever they are doing, they will do conscientiously. They usually have strict personal codes that include a strong work ethic. Their bright, off-beat many friends-in and out of work. Beneath that sometimes odd-ball behavior is solid, concrete thinking and sensitivity to co-workers. Keep your smart Aquarius co-worker happy by giving them plenty of opportunity to learn new skills. Raises are less important to them. No amount of money will make it worth their while to stay in a stagnant position. Don't let them get too bored or they will simply find another job as easily as they found this one-their genius is easy to spot.

Pisces Employee Profile (february 20 - march 20)

The Pisces employee can be a loyal and hard-working, if unconventional, worker. In the right position, they are able to keep their daydreams in check and buckle down on the detail work-giving their all to the boss and corporation whom they feel are worthy of devotion. On the flip side, there is no image of extreme misery like that of an ill-placed Pisces worker. They will act as though their cubicle were a prison cell as they daydream of their own business or next vacation. Unhappy Pisces workers usually won't stick around too long. Often Pisceans will drift from one job to another looking for that ideal environment to which they will be able to commit and feel a sense of purpose. And if things are going in a bad direction at the office, Pisces will be the first to sense it. They'd rather pick up and leave then wait until the problem reaches a head. Pisces are often misunderstood by their co-workers. Typically timid and introspective, they usually keep their true nature hidden, for fear it wouldn't fit with the corporate culture. What motivates a Pisces employee to not only stick around but also excel? Try compliments. And show them how their work impacts the entire organization. They need to know that what they are doing is worth something on a grander scale. Acceptance of their unconventional organization and planning will be necessary. Just because their sales report isn't in the typical format doesn't mean it is any less effective. Keep their environment bright and upbeat; and an after-work cocktail wouldn't hurt.

Aries Employee Profile (march 21 - april 19)

Aries employees make excellent troubleshooters.They'll usually want to be out in the field at a variety of different work sites fixing things. They certainly won't be happy for very long behind a desk in a 9 to 5 schedule. The bored Aries employee who has been forced into a square hole will typically be restless, angry, and careless with details. No amount of money would compensate for being stuck in a routine job. Money in fact isn't why they are working at all. They do want to be paid fairly and need a status position to satisfy their competitive tendencies-but even more importantly, they'll want challenging new projects They typically like to have a sense of responsibility and need to feel needed. In return, they'll give their all and provide detailed, consistent work. They will literally work themselves to exhaustion to prove themselves. If you want to keep your Aries co- worker productive and happy, you'll want to give them the opportunity to work independently or let them help and lead less experienced workers.

Taurus Employee Profile (april 20 - may 20)

Taureans make some of the best employees. They are loyal, hardworking, and no-nonsense. They work methodically and follow projects through until they are complete. Some may appear to work a little too slowly-usually because they are so careful-but they will always finish what they start. They thrive on structure, schedules, and routine. You'll find them doing the same exact thing at the same time every day. Taureans, however, are not exactly the malleable workers that they often appear to be. If they have to work in a chaotic environment, they won't be happy and will be prone to child-like temper tantrums and stubbornness. They might react similarly if they have to work around ignorant people or at a job where there is no obvious potential for advancement. Taureans will be very unhappy if there isn't a ladder for them to climb. Even in the worst situations, they will find a way to advance slowly, winning over the most difficult people who may stand in their way of progress. Taurus employees will only take so much patiently and happily before they feel they are being taken advantage of. They will gladly accept orders and do whatever dirty work needs to get done, but they expect rewards. They want material gain, salary increases, and the potential for more power. To make your Taurus employees happy, be sure to give them projects through which they will see tangible results-hopefully something that will allow them to express their unique creativity in addition to their practical side. They don't want to feel mired in details for long periods of time. Make sure to schedule regular performance and salary reviews. This show of respect should keep them loyal to the company.

Gemini Employee Profile (may 21 - june 21)

Gemini employees can have difficulty concentrating on one thing for long periods of time. They have quick-moving minds and love to talk and communicate their ideas with others. They thrive on social interaction -- even if their jobs don't particularly support it. You'll be able to find them wandering from desk to desk gossiping about all the sordid news in the office. They can be powerful persuaders in their speech and make ideal salespeople and mediators. They love to negotiate and can work out the best Deal for everyone involved. When properly stimulated, they can manage to keep their wandering mind focused and actually be quite productive. When they are bored, bogged down with mundane detail-work, or forced to work with people who they consider droll, they can become mean-spirited and gossipy. Their moods can fluctuate vastly day to day, as well as their productivity. It is really against their nature to be forced into an average workday schedule and environment. They are happier travelling. lf they are in an office they will need constant new stimulation. Most will be wanting advancement if they see this as a way to escape the limitations of their jobs. This can motivate them to put extra effort into their job. If you work with a Gemini, try to avoid getting into any debates with them - they will surely win and it could end in some hard feelings on your part. They will need an accepting environment-one that supports their need for multi-tasking.

Cancer Employee Profile (june 22 - july 21)

The Cancer employee isn't at work to feed their ego-their job is just a job and a means to get paid. They work steadily and are usually very reliable. You'll be able to depend on them to show up on time and do what is necessary. They won't get involved in power struggles or get upset when someone advances before them. They are able to accept the situation because they see it simply as a rung on the ladder up. Their motivation is security. They'll want more money the longer they've stayed at a job. They don't want to have to worry about how they'll make ends meet tomorrow so they'll need a stable position without much risk. Cancerian workers can slip into some dark moods on occasion. During these periods productivity tends to drop-as well as everyone else's in the office. Their moods can be so strong everyone becomes affected. To avoid the frequency of these occurrences, managers and co-workers should try to make the work environment as homey as possible-keep it well heated, cozy, and friendly. Don't press them to reveal their true inner thoughts-their tendency is to be secretive and protective, and they could see prying as an attempt to disturb their security.

Leo Employee Profile (july 22 - august 21)

Leo workers want to be first and at the center of the office. Even if they can't lead, they'll look for every opportunity to increase their own status and if someone else seems ahead of them, look out. They will make it clear that they aren't happy by pouting and complaining. They want advancement so much that they'll take on more responsibility and carry a heavier load than anyone else does in the office. And they are self-promoters. It is likely that they are telling everyone in the office what a great job they are doing as well as giving everyone unwanted advice. They know they are superior and want everyone to know it as well. This arrogance can sometimes cause problems when working with management. But typically, they are just hard workers out to demonstrate just how good they really are. They thrive in sales positions - they can promote a product or company just as well as they promote themselves. ;Their strength and arrogance isn't just show either. In a crisis situation, Leos really demonstrate their true courage. Leos want to lead and will be pushing for more responsibility and rewards. They are happy to train and mentor new co- workers as they enjoy giving advice and being in positions of authority. If you are trying to manage a Leo employee, you'll need to give them plenty of praise, responsibility, and independence. They will certainly want to help lighten your load of management responsibilities. Just be careful- the next thing you know they could be taking over your job.

Virgo Employee Profile (august 22 - september 22)

In the right situations Virgos love to work. They make ideal employees, happily working late into the night to make sure everything is perfect and in order. If you are looking for an employee who doesn't mind starting from rock bottom in the most entry-level position at the company, hire a Virgo. They'll have no complaints about the position being beneath them. They are CONTENT with basic, honest hard work. Their contentment isn't always apparent, however. They love to complain and worry. They are quick to criticize the way things are done around the office and are the first ones to grumble disapprovingly at what they consider to be extravagance or laziness. They are blunt and honest and don't mince words over what they feel just isn't right. Usually, this will be brought on by someone doing a half-baked job or not being considerate of other co-work ers. You'll want to constantly reassure them, but this will do little to quell their anxieties. They actually enjoy worrying, and there is little you can do about it. Just give them a detail - oriented project and let them work alone on it. You won't have to supervise a Virgo worker. They'll check all the facts before getting started and catch their own errors when they are done. To keep a Virgo employee happy, you should also make sure their environment is orderly and calm. You should also provide small gestures of appreciation. They don't need extravagance, just let them know you appreciate them in small ways that won't embarrass them. They will probably just shrug their shoulders and say, "It's no big deal." But deep down inside they need these little reassurances.

Libra Employee Profile (september 23 - october 22)

Libra employees are detailed, dedicated workers with sensitive natures. Managers and co-workers sometimes find them difficult to get a handle on. They pick up the energy of the office and are unable to prevent it from affecting them. Loud noise, flashy colors, and discordant vibrations will put them off so much that they will have difficulty fulfilling their obligations at work. One day they may seem like the most bright, hardworking, ambitious employee around. The next day they might be down, irritated, and unable to produce. Co-workers shouldn't fret when Libra employees are in a dark mood. It really won't last, as a happy state of mind can come over them just as quickly. When Libra employees are in a balanced frame of mind, they can be a powerful presence at work-they have a way of racing everything they touch. Underneath that mess of moods, they really are basically happy and stable people. They are capable of profound logical thought and evaluate all sides of a situation before acting. They are one of the most intelligent Signs around. They are expert researchers and mediators. And their sensitivity to their environment makes them naturals at keeping things looking great. They will easily help others resolve conflicts and can act as a go-between with workers and management so that everyone ends up happy. If you want to keep your Libran worker smiling, give them the respect they are due and put them in a position where they can project their great charm and diplomacy. They won't be CONTENT to take orders for very long, either- make sure they are given increased responsibility.

Scorpio Employee Profile (october 23 - november 21)

Scorpio employees usually exude a quiet self-confidence. They are self-sufficient and do not depend on others for a sense of self-worth. They keep their private life separate from work and take complete responsibility for their actions and their situation. They don't make excuses; they just take care of business and expect everyone else to do the same. Those who don't, co- workers and managers- will have to endure the Scorpio wrath. They don't mind being completely vocal about what they feel is wrong with any given situation. And if you tread on their fire be sure to expect retaliation. They won't take insults or opposition lying down. If you manage a Scorpio employee, be sure to follow through with your word and don't break any promises-Scorpio is keeping track and building up some heavy resentments against you if you do. You may not even be aware of it until too late-but when Scorpio gets too much, you'll be sure to know. Scorpio employees will react towards those around them exactly as they are treated. When they get what they want, they will be very accepting. If you are trying to work with or motivate a Scorpio co-worker, be sure to treat them respectfully and act professionally. Give them challenging work that allows them to utilize their awesome self-confidence and courage.

Sagittarius Employee Profile (november 22 - december 21)

The Sagittarian employee is head strong, cheerful, and willing to help. They exude self-confidence and take on tasks like there's no tomorrow. They are willing to tackle even the toughest of projects as long as it is challenging and gets them out of the routine. Lucky for them, their shining personalities and honest enthusiasm seem like a bright spot in the office- otherwise co-workers might begin to build animosity towards someone so arrogant and extravagant. Their tendency to exaggerate and take on more then they can handle usually results in missed deadlines and dropping the ball-not because they are lazy of procrastinate, but because their enthusiasm just gets the better of them sometimes. Don't let their nonchalance fool you-they really do care about what they are doing. They just have an easy-going attitude that allows them to keep on smiling even when they just messed up big time. Just because they are flexible and easy-going doesn't mean they won't tell you exactly how they feel-what is working for them and what isn't. And they won't just blindly take orders - they need to understand the method and reason behind the process. If you are trying to motivate your Sagittarian employee, be sure to feed them plenty of challenging new projects and hint that some business trips might be on the horizon once deadlines are met. And whatever you do, try not to question their intentions - it is the quickest way to make them upset. They aren't capable of deceit.

Monday, 26 March 2007

... as i mature ...

I've laerned that you cannot make someone love you.

All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in.

I've learned that no matter how much I care,

some people are just assholes.

I've learned that it takes years to built trust,

and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.

After that, you'd better thave a big willy or huge boobs.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others -

they are more screwed up than you think.

I've learned that you can keep vomiting

long after you think you're finished.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do,

unless we are celebrities.

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy

a relationship is at first, the passion fades,

and there had better be a lot of money to take its place!

I've learned that 99% of the time when something

isn't working in your house, one of your kids did it.

I've learned that people you care most about in life

are taken from you too soon, and all the less important ones just never go away.

Thursday, 22 March 2007

... healthy juices ...

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carrot + ginger + apple

Boost and cleanse our system.

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apple + cucumber + celery

Prevent cancer, reduce cholestrol, and improve stomach upset and headache.

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tomato + carrot + apple

Improve skin complexion and bad breath.

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cucumber + apple + milk

Avoid bad breath and reduce internal body heat.

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orange + ginger + cucumber

Improve Skin texture and moisture and reduce body heat.

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pineapple + apple + watermelon

To dispel excess salts, nourishes the bladder and kidney.

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apple + cucumber + kiwi

To improve skin complexion.

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pear + banana

To regulates sugar content.

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carrot + apple + pear + mango

Clear body heat, counteracts toxicity, decreased blood pressure and fight oxidization.

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honeydew + grape + watermelon + milk

Rich in vitamin C + Vitamin B2 that increase cell activity and strengthen body immunity.

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payaya + pineapple + milk

Rich in vitamin C, E, Iron. Improve skin complexion and metabolism.

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banana + pineapple + milk

Rich in vitamin with nutritious and prevent constipation.

Friday, 9 March 2007

... 我们怎麽了?...

一個人的容忍度到底能到什麽極限?爲何要這樣折磨彼此?一而再再而三的欺騙已經讓我不知該如何走下去了。。。是否真的該放棄了? 放棄真的就會快樂嗎??

Thursday, 1 March 2007

... shuffle ~ good or bad? ...

After the CNY holidays, things in my office changes too.. it is like playing musical chair during my younger days..

People got promoted, followed by relocation and new recruitments.. some are surprised and unhappy for some.. speculations still goin on..

but do I care?? of course not lah.. it is never my style to care.. as long my superior Jasmine don't change I'm happy already.. though she always know I don't gossip about office politics..

personally I feel its good... at least those that are working long and hardworking is being appreciated...

Wonder if ever I will get promoted too?? HAHA...

Friday, 16 February 2007

... how to know if you are a Chinese ...

  1. You unwrap gifts very carefully, so you can save and reuse the wrapping (and especially those ribbons).
  2. When there is a sale on toilet paper, you buy 100 rolls and store them in your closet or in the bedroom of an adult child who has move out.
  3. You keep a Thermos of hot water available at all times.
  4. You save grocery bags, tin foil, and tin containers. You use the grocery bags to hold garbage.
  5. You hate to waste food:a ) Even if you're totally full, if someone says they're going to throw away the leftovers on the table, you'll finish them. (Your mom will give a lecture about starving kids in Africa )b ) You have Tupperware in your fridge with three bites of rice or one leftover chicken wing.
  6. You don't own any real Tupperware-only a cupboard full of used but carefully rinsed margarine tubs, take out containers, and jam jars.
  7. You have a collection of miniature shampoo bottles that you take every time you stay in a hotel.
  8. You wipe your plate and utensils or wash them in a small basin of hot water before you eat every time you go to a restaurant.
  9. You own a rice cooker and a slow cooker.
  10. You wash your rice at least 2-3 times before cooking it.
  11. You fight (verbally) over who pays the dinner bill.
  12. You have a teacup with a cover on it.
  13. If you're under age 20, you own a really expensive walkman; if you're over 20, you own a really expensive camera.
  14. You're a wok user.
  15. You only make long distance calls after 7pm.
  16. You prefer your shrimp with the heads and legs still attached-it means they're fresh.
  17. You never call your parents just to say hi.
  18. If you don't live at home, when your parents call, they'll ask if you've eaten, even if it's midnight.
  19. Your parents tell you to boil herbs and stay inside when you get sick. They also tell you not to eat fried foods or baked goods because they're heaty ("yeet hay" in Cantonese).
  20. You e-mail your Chinese friends at work, even though you only sit 10 feet apart.
  21. You always cook too much.
  22. You eat every last grain of rice in your bowl, but don't eat the last piece of food on the table.
  23. You starve yourself before going to all-you-can-eat buffet.
  24. You know someone who can get you a good deal on jewelry or electronics, computers.
  25. You own your own meat cleaver and sharpen it.
  26. Your toothpaste tubes are all squeezed paper-thin.
  27. You know why this list consists of only "28" reasons.
  28. You take this message and forward it to all your Chinese friends.

Here are four more indications that you need to add:

  • *29. You wrap with napkins all the knives, spoons and forks of the airline that you fly on and put in your travel bag as souvenirs.
  • *30. You never forget to take with you all the unused bath and facial tissues when you check out from the hotel because you believe that you have paid it all.
  • *31. You will laugh at yourself when you read all of them.
  • *32. And you will always feel proud because you're Chinese. If you are laughing, it means you agreed with all the points above!

Sunday, 7 January 2007

... airplanes vs women ...

1) Airplanes usually kill you quickly - a woman takes her time.

2) Airplanes can be turned on by a flick of a switch.

3) Airplanes don't get mad if you do a "touch and go."

4) Airplanes don't object to a preflight inspection.

5) Airplanes come with manuals to explain their operation.

6) Airplanes have strict weight and balance limitations.

7) Airplanes can be flown any time of the month.

8) Airplanes don't come with in-laws.

9) Airplanes don't care about how many other airplanes you've flown before.

10) Airplanes and pilots both arrive at the same time.

11) Airplanes don't mind if you look at other airplanes.

12) Airplanes don't mind if you buy airplane magazines.

13) Airplanes expect to be tied down.

14) Airplanes don't comment on your piloting skills.

15) Airplanes don't whine unless something is really wrong.

16) However, when airplanes go quiet, just like women, it's usually not good.

Sunday, 10 December 2006

... 轉向思考 ...

這是一本我覺得值得一讀的好書。

你是否是有讀序的人? (i think should be Preface?)

我從來是個會跳過讀序的一位讀者。但是,最近再度在臺灣作家吳淡如小姐的《1分鐘生命思考》接觸,我另有所領悟。

她在書裏提到一些簡單的轉向思考的遊戲,蠻令人有深一層的自我反省的作用。以下就是那些問題:

問題一∶ 如果你家附近有一家餐廳,東西又貴又難吃,服務生很不客氣,桌上還爬著蟑螂,你會因爲它很方便,因而一而再、再而三的光顧嗎?

解答∶

應該不會吧。你一定會說,這是什麼爛問題,誰那麼笨,花錢找罪受啊?如果你是個美食家,必然覺得這種蠢行爲不可原諒。

不過,讓我們換個角度來想,就會明白,自己或許做過類似的蠢事。不少男女都會抱怨過他們的情人或另一半:好賭酗酒、品行不端、三心二意、不負責任,既讓自己虛耗青春,付出許多代價,又縂不能尊守承諾,明知道在一起沒什麼太好的結局,未來不會比現在更幸福,恨已經比愛還多,但是卻[不知道爲什麽]還要和他攪和下去,分不了手,説穿了,只是爲了不甘,爲了習慣,這也不和光臨爛餐廳一樣?

問題二∶ 如果你不小心丟掉一百塊錢,只知道它好像丟在某個你走過的地方,你會花兩百塊錢的車費去把那一百塊錢找回來嗎?

解答:

這也是一個超級蠢問題,對不對?可是,相似的事情卻在人生中不斷發生。

做錯了一件事,明知自己有問題,卻死也不肯認錯,反而花加倍的時間來找藉口,讓別人對自己的印象大打折扣。

被人罵了一句話,卻花了無數時間難過,道理相同。

爲了一件事發火,不惜損人不利己,不惜血本不惜時間,只為報復,不也一樣無聊? 失去一個人的感情,明知道一切亦無法挽回,卻還是那麽的傷心,一傷心就是好幾年,比談那個感情存續的時間還常一些,借酒消愁、行銷骨毀,一點用也沒有,只是損失更多。

問題三: 你會因爲打開報紙發現每天都有車禍,就不敢出門嗎?

解答:

當然不會,這叫因噎廢食。說得精確一點,應該説是別人噎到,自己就不敢吃飯。

然而,有不少人卻對我説:看到現在離婚率那麼高,我都不敢談戀愛了,說得還挺理所當然。也有不少女人看到有關外遇的諸多報道,就對自己的另一半憂心忡忡,不也是類似的反應?

所謂樂觀,就是得相信,雖然道路多艱險,我還是那個會平安過馬路的人;只要我小心一點,不必害怕過馬路。

問題四: 你相信,成功是很沒頭沒腦的,每個人隨便都可以成功立業嗎?

解答: 過分樂觀是一種蠢行,聰明的你必然會贊同,成功人士總是發現,每一次當有人要求給他一個建議,改變目前自己也不滿意的生活、別再一是無成,在聼完成功人士絞盡腦汁的How To 建議 (比如説,多讀書,多練習……) 之後,問了另外一個問題∶[那不是很難嗎?] 我們似乎都想三分鐘内學好英文,在五分鐘内解決所有難題。

難道,成功是那麽容易的嗎?改變當然都是難的。成功縂因不怕困難,所以才能出類拔萃。

成功不是隨便來,別人的錢也不好賺。深究起來,沒有人沒費過功夫,如果不是費過功夫,就是他的祖上曾經大費周章,都不是[不難]。我們實在不該抱怨困難。

問題五: 你認爲完全沒有打過籃球的人,可以當很好的籃球教練?

解答: 當然不可能,外行不可能領導内行。可是,有許多人,對某個行業完全不了解,只聽到那個行業好賺,就馬上開起業來了。穿著沒有品味,或根本不在乎穿著的人,夢想卻是開服裝店;從不知道電腦怎麽開機的人,就想在電子股上賺錢,結果道聽途説,賠了很多,卻從不反省自己是否是專業能力不足,只抱怨時不我予。

問題六: 相似但不相同的問題:你是否認為,籃球教練不上籃球場,閉者眼睛也可主導一場完美的勝利?

解答: 當然也不可能。可是不少人,完全沒時間管,卻也努力投資開咖啡館、開餐廳、開自己根本不懂的公司,急著把閑錢花掉,當合夥人。虧的比賺的多,卻也覺得自己運氣不好、交友不慎,不是想法不對。

問題七: 你寧可後悔,也不願意試一試自己是否能扭轉危機?

解答: 用這樣的語言邏輯問話,恐怕沒有人會說:[對,我就是這樣的歪种]吧。然而,我們卻常常在不該打退堂鼓時拼命的不該打退堂鼓,爲了恐懼失敗(萬一失敗了,別人會笑吧?我們總是這樣警告自己),而不敢嘗試成功,其實是划不來的。

問題八: 你有無限時間,長生不老,所以最想做的事,應該無限延期?

解答: 不,不,不!誰會說是呢?然而我們卻常說,或常聼說:等我老了,就要去環游世界;等我退休,就要去做我想做的事情;等孩子長大了,我就可以輕鬆了…… 我們都誤以為自己有無限時間與體力……

我們可以一步一步靠近夢想,不必等有空時再貼近它吧。現在如果就能一步一步靠近夢想與理想,我們就不會活了半天,成爲自己討厭的那種人……

Thursday, 30 November 2006

... what happen?? and some updates lor...

Wondering what happen to me recently?? you bet huh..

Never been updating my moblog for a long long time.. well, just being plain lazy ba.. and my work is getting busier so no time to update.. hehe.. forgive me for that ok? furthermore, my youngest brother is back from his holidays.. so even less time to use the computer.. *sob sob*

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Well, I just returned from my trip to Sunway Lagoon. (well, its company trip) I must say its a nice place to enjoy if you love water.. and the hotel we stay is superb.. especially the bathroom! There's a bathtub and standing shower in one place!

Of course, I'm lousy when it comes to thrill rides as i puked after taking the 360 viking ship.. haiz.. if i had knew if was going at 360, give me a million dollars i wouldn't want to take it man! However, its still a enjoyable ride.. haha.. minus away my breakfast that is gone is minutes.. haha..

that's all for now folks! hope to do more blogging soon.. (when this computer is available and i'm in the mood ba.. hehe..)

again, this is cut & paste from moblog.. so its quite weird...

Tuesday, 14 November 2006

... how to be a better couple ...

10 steps to enjoying each other better...

1. Be realistic about each other

Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give your gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you're gonna have to do with what your guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.

2. Always talk things out

Now guys, I know this is not your favourite pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what you're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.

3. Do stuff together

Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in some shared activities; something both of you enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road . Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If you're spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's a warning sign that you're drifting apart!!!

4. Meet each other halfway

If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The Rock" print, you shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy... There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.

5.Show your love

Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if you have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.

6. Respect each other

Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.

7. Bury the past

Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your guy, it would just make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your gal feel un-happy and she might think that you saying all this because you are gonna get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore.

8. Sit on your jealousy

All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you're gonna go through your partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, you know something is wrong - with you!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.

9. Keep your commitments to each other

If your partner is standing u up all the time and canceling dates and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you're in a relationship, make your partner your priority and don't disappoint them if you can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to you, you may just lose him/her.

10. Be honest

Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When you're hurt, say so, and when you're angry, tell him/her, without getting hysterical. If you can't be honest with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!

Friday, 10 November 2006

... removing gallstones naturally ...

By Dr Lai Chiu-Nan

It has worked for many.

If it works for you please pass on the good news.

Chiu Nan is not charging for it, so we should make it free for everyone. Your reward is when someone, through your word of mouth, benefits from the regime. Gallstones may not be everyone's concern. But they should be because we all have them. Moreover, gallstones may lead to cancer."Canceris never the first illness," Chiu Nan points out. "Usually, there are a lot of other problems leading to cancer.

In my research in China, I came across some materials which say that people with cancer usually have stones. We all have gallstones. It's a matter of big or small, many or few.One of the symptoms of gallstones is a feeling of bloatedness after a heavy meal. You feel like you can't digest the food. If it gets more serious, you feel pain in the liver area." So if you think you have gallstones, Chiu Nan offers the following method to remove them naturally.The treatment is also good for those with a weak liver, because the liver and gall bladder are closely linked.

Regimen:

  1. For the first five days, take four glasses of apple juice every day.Oreat four or five apples, whichever you prefer. Apple juice softens thegallstones. During the five days, eat normally.
  2. On the sixth day, take no dinner.
  3. At 6 PM, take a teaspoon of Epsom salt (magnesium sulphate) with aglassof warm water.
  4. At 8 PM, repeat the same. Magnesium sulphate opens the gallbladderducts.
  5. 5. At 10 PM, take half cup olive oil (or sesame oil) with half cup freshlemon juice. Mix it well and drink it. The oil lubricates the stones toeasetheir passage.

PS. 1 cup=250ml, half cup lemon juice=3 lemons (aprox.)

The next morning, you will find green stones in your stools. "Usually they float," Chiu Nan notes. "You might want to count them. I have had people who passes 40, 50 or up to 100 stones. Very many." "Even if you don't have any symptoms of gallstones, you still might have some. It's always good to give your gall bladder a clean-up now and then.

Wednesday, 8 November 2006

... an life for an life ...

What's the world coming to? Killing 2 lives only sentenced to life imprisonment??

Shouldn't it be death?

All because the case that was heard, in that country doesn’t have death sentence?

殺人償命!

Anyway, its about the Sydney murder case.. one of the victim happens to be my dad friend's son.. though his uncle says its fair but personally I don't think so.. that accused should be hang.. and make sure he go hell man..

I still remember that night when we heard the news and I went down with my dad to his friend's house to check on my dad's friend.. the moment when he saw my dad, he broke down in tears.. imagine a father, lost his son overnight and his son is going to finish his studies soon! Then after the incident, its drinking session often.. haiz.. my poor dad..

Wonder how is my dad's friend taking it after knowing the charge? Hope uncle Tay is fine..

Sunday, 29 October 2006

... meaningful lines ...

  • 不择手段的人,總是在贏得全世界之後,輸掉他自己。
  • 人只有在最自然豁達、不卑不亢的情況下,才能演出正常,演出水準。
  • 懂得生活之道的人,凡事但求盡心,而不強救擁有。
  • 有些東西擁有不一定是幸福,失去也不一定是悲哀。
  • 一個患得患失的人,永遠擺脫不掉得失的束縛。
  • 顧忌太多的人, 往往會因爲自己那多慮的一念, 而失去本該及時掌握的機緣。
  • 不計較個人得失的人, 才能在是非紛擾的生活中, 保留了皆大歡喜的空間。
  • 不論我們對生活的態度是消極或是積極的, 我們都是歲月更迭、因緣聚散的旅客, 時間一到,便該下站,沒有人能賴著不走。
  • 當你對一切得失都放下時,所有的煩惱才能船過水無痕。
  • 智者知道人生如夢,故能來去瀟灑,無入而不自得。
  • 修行就是修正自己的習性和行爲,進而學會放下一切,亦包括放下自己。
  • 莫因擁用什麼而過於樂觀,也莫因失去什麼而過於悲觀,不管所擁有或失去的是什麼,它都如云煙一般,來去無蹤。
  • 真正快樂的人,是能積極地追求自己的夢想,卻不會執著于得失。
  • 勝敗乃兵家常事,每一個成功者的背後,都有無數次殘痛而可貴的經驗。
  • 能安適自怡地享受[無事]的感覺,便是人間最大的清福。
  • 人生的際遇不會全然美好,若能以平和的心境去面對一切衝擊,哪怕俯視不能自在。 真的平安來自于於一顆無愧的心。
  • 得與失的距離,往往只有一步,就是在我們心念起伏的那一瞬間。
  • 萬紫千紅總是春,各有因緣莫羡人。
  • 人出生時,是握著一雙小拳頭;往生時,既是鬆開拳頭的。這一抓一放,正是繁華如夢,得失本空的最佳寫照。
  • 有智慧的人,是不計一切的榮辱得失,順逆境對他而言,只是四季輪轉。
  • 笑看繁華如朝露,隨緣放曠自在行。
  • 放寬心懷,云淡風輕,人間處處盡是峰迴路轉。
  • 對於生活中的得失榮辱無須掛懷,一切皆是因緣,不管是良緣、惡緣,皆是過客,猶如浮雲掠空,瞬息無蹤。
  • 一個人在獨處時,仍無法放下一切,得到心境的平靜時,即使到了清幽如畫的桃花源,亦無法得到真正的寧靜。
  • 許多人生活的愁容滿面,是因爲他們對某些該忘懷的事情[記憶猶新],對某些該記住的事卻又[貴人多忘事]。
  • 境界再美,亦如塵煙,飄渺難尋,智者靈台清明,自不會隨之起伏生念,妄增困擾。
  • 今日的容顔老於昨日,今日的心情別於昨日,人想抓住永恒,不管是吹沙作飯,於無常中自添煩惱罷了。
  • 人人俱是歲月如流中的過客,沿途的風光過眼即捨,徒增傷感。
  • 一白遮百醜,一笑解千愁。
  • 愛一個人,如果有了渴求回報的心,這份愛如同鋼刀,每一份用心都是苦,都是痛。
  • 世事鏡中見,人情淡始長,只要心安理得,不必過於在意他人的肯定或否定。
  • 所謂人比人,氣死人。聰明的人在面臨[比較] 的考驗時,當以平常心來應對,自能在不動肝火的情況下,消化別人的褒與貶。
  • 首飾再美,只能裝飾外表,不能充實内涵。所以,與其花錢收藏裝飾品,不如花時間耕耘心田,讓自己多一份雋永的知識美。
  • 愛一個人,要給對方自由,也給自己自由,這樣才不會愛得辛苦萬分。
  • 抓不住的東西,強求無益,如何學習放下,放到無一切束縛掛罣時,身心自然柔軟,煩惱亦無由而生。

Saturday, 28 October 2006

... 婚姻 ...

什麽叫浪漫?明知那個女孩兒不愛他,還送給她999朵玫瑰;

什麽叫浪費?明知那個女孩兒愛他,還送給她999朵玫瑰。

某青年作家定義浪漫與浪費

每個女人都有兩個版本:精裝本和平裝本。精裝本是給別人看的,平裝本是給家人與丈夫看的。

婚姻中的丈夫只是看到妻子的平裝本和別的女人的精裝本—這就是婚外戀的動機。

男士對婚外戀的動機作如是分析,實在是妙喻。

人類如鳥,有雙翼,一翼是男,一翼是女。

除非兩翼健壯並以共同的力量來推動它,否則,這只鳥不能飛向天空。

哲學家巴哈歐拉

婚姻是愛情的墳墓,但是如果不結婚,愛情就死無葬身之地。

在清華大學的BBS上有這樣一句經典愛情宣言

男人從不擔心他的未來,直到他找到一個妻子;

女人從不擔心她的未來,直到她找到一個丈夫。

青年女作家南鶯看男女關係

在真正幸福的婚姻中,友誼必須與愛情融合在一起。

法國作家莫洛亞論幸福婚姻

情如魚水是夫妻雙方最高的追求,

但是我們都容易犯一個錯誤,即縂認爲自己是水,而對方是魚。

BBS經典語錄

吃胃能消化的食物,娶自己能養活的女人。

一個男人長壽的秘訣

夫妻倆過日子要像一雙筷子:一是誰也離不開誰;二是什麽酸甜苦辣都能在一起嘗。

這種筷子只能是經久耐磨的象牙筷,而不是一次性方便筷

男人掏錢是情人關係;

女人掏錢是夫妻關係;

男女搶着掏錢是朋友關係。

餐廳服務員經驗實錄

女人面對愛情時比較笨,喜歡被人哄,而男人示愛,則越不顧自尊,越動人。

男女對愛情的表達各不相同

婚姻不是1 + 1 = 2,而是0.5 + 0.5 = 1。

即:兩個人各削去自己的個性和缺點,然後湊合在一起。

青年作家張弘的婚姻公式

愛情是一種腦力勞動,婚姻是一種體力勞動。

愛情仿佛橋牌,全靠算計;婚姻仿佛打麻將,全靠運氣。

愛情和婚姻有本質的不同

最完美的產品在廣告裏,最完美的人在悼詞裏,

最完美的愛情在小説裏,最完美的婚姻在夢境裏。

人人都希望完美,但這只能追求而不能指望

令人不能自拔的,除了牙齒還有愛情。

臺灣歌星齊秦愛情感言

高難度的愛情,是月色、詩歌、三十六万五千朵玫瑰,加上永恒;

高難度的婚姻,是賬簿、證書、三十六万五千次爭吵,加上忍耐;

高難度的人生,是以上兩者皆無。

朱德庸妙言愛情、婚姻、人生

在愛情中,有人“視死如歸”;在婚姻中,有人“視歸如死”。

相親是“經銷”,戀愛是“直銷”,徵婚是“招標”。

人的“喜新”最多最久只有30天,所以新婚燕尓就叫密“月”;人的忍耐最多只有30天,所以工作以“月”薪為准。

青年作家蔚子如此詮釋婚姻

過去,我總是要熬到半夜他才離去;

現在,我總是要熬到半夜他才回家。

經典版語錄

Friday, 27 October 2006

... say or don't say?? ...

Said Also Don't Listen Listen Also Don't Understand Don't Understand Also Don't Ask Ask Also Don't Do Do Also Do Wrong Wrong Also Don't Admit Admit Also Don't Correct Correct Also Not Happy Not Happy Also Don't Say

說了又不聼 聼了又不懂 不懂又不問 問了又不做 做了又做錯 錯了又不認 認了又不改 改了又不服 不服又不說

Think about it.

Sometimes, the above phrases just fit so well into our daily life... any types of situations... be it quarrels among couples, work conflicts or maybe just ourselves.. So, do we Say or DON'T Say??

Thursday, 26 October 2006

... 真相或謊言?...

我們這一生聼過多少謊言?而又如何分辨真實與虛構?可能你也有玩過這遊戲叫“真心話大冒險”吧!輸了的人得選擇要講真心話或者接受一些“可怕”的處罰,所謂的大冒險。

但,如果輸的人選擇真心話,就真的會陶開心胸說真心話嗎?他/她的真心話可靠嗎?能相信嗎?還是他/她會用另一個謊言掩飾這真心話或情願守口如瓶而接受處罰?

從我們學會開始説話的那一刻,句句都是實話,沒半句假的嗎?哈哈,未必吧!想起童年的我們,可能爲了玩耍而撒謊說功課作完了。爲了要買玩具卻説拿零用錢是爲了要買參考書。

後來,踏入社會,可能爲了爬到最高點,需要活在從一個小謊言變成另外一個大謊言的世界裏。

結婚后,爲了要與情人共度春宵而用美麗的謊言欺騙枕邊人。

老了,爲了不要讓關心你的人擔心,用善意的謊言來掩飾自己的痛楚。

唉!人類就是如此。常常需要活在謊言中卻不肯醒來。。

Wednesday, 18 October 2006

... bad day at work ...

What is happening to me recently? I have never bothered by anybody or anything. Recently it seems otherwise.

I supposed to book air ticket for my boss and his family but I missed him out, only booked for his family. In the end, me and my travel agent got reprimanded by him. In the first place, he never specify clearly mah.. and my travel agent thought he wanted to redeem his points for it..

Due to this, my whole morning was spoiled by him.. even though I know its partly my fault also.. I even wanted so much to take leave tomorrow just to relax myself..

Last time, I only listened and then it will flow to the back of my mind and stayed there.. Now, I couldn't do it anymore. I will start to ponder what is really wrong with me? Is it really my fault?? Arrrgggghhh!!! I really hate myself..

Monday, 16 October 2006

... 給你的信 ...

为何事情又回到原点?当初你连解释都不愿给我。现在又是同样的情形。你口口聲聲說你會給我我要的,但我卻從來不曾感覺到。

這麽多年了,你難道就不想挽救這段感情嗎?我真的不曉得我們到底要如何走下去… 你讓我跌進愛情的旋渦,然後又眼睜睜地看我往下沉。我看不到你的援助,就連伸手的力氣也沒了嗎?

我該感謝你嗎?把我訓練成今天不聞不問,完全滿足你的我。我曉得愛情不該用天坪來衡量付出與回報,但我真的希望我的付出是值得的。

從今天起,你能給我你曾經許下的承諾嗎?別再讓我傷心失望好嗎?

Tuesday, 10 October 2006

... haze haze go away! ...

Around this time every year, we have to tolerate this kind of hazy weather.. people get sick over it..

Why can't humans over there just be more considerate?? Think of the millions people surrounding suffering from coughs, soar throats, dried eyes because of their traditional farming method. Only reason why they are doing this? Earn money.. isn't there a better solution to solve this??

Selfishness can kill! Glad that their government is doing something finally.. And for us, hopefully we have cleaner air to breathe after that..

Sunday, 8 October 2006

... mooncake festival ...

Once again, its the mooncake festival again.. well, this year i would say i'm quite fortunate as i get to sample different mooncakes from different places.. like goodwood park hotel lah (nah, not the durian wan), bengawan solo, prima deli and not forgetting my friend who made durian mooncake!

Eat till i got scared man! To add on to the list, my brother bought those traditional teochew style mooncake which is like a big 豆沙饼.. but it is delicious! Also another slightly black coloured wan which is make of red bean too.. heard that the teochews have a lot of these kind of cakes or kuehs..

So i guess they are the one who make kuehs famous?? hehe..

*sigh sigh* time to loose weight again..

Thursday, 5 October 2006

... the story of 8 monkeys ...

(this is reportedly based on an actual experiment conducted in the UK )

Put eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room is a ladder, leading to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling.

Each time a monkey tries to climb the ladder, all the monkeys are sprayed with ice water, which makes them miserable. Soon enough, whenever a monkeyattempts to climb the ladder, all of the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and beat him up.

Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempts to climb the ladder.

One of the original monkeys is then removed, and a new monkey is put in the room. Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wonders why none of the other monkeys are doing the obvious. But undaunted, he immediately begins to climb the ladder.

All the other monkeys fall upon him and beat him silly. He has no idea why. However, he no longer attempts to climb the ladder.

A second original monkey is removed and replaced. The newcomer again attempts to climb the ladder, but all the other monkeys hammer the crap out of him.

This includes the previous new monkey, who, grateful that he's not on the receiving end this time, participates in the beating because all the other monkeys are doing it. However, he has no idea why he's attacking the new monkey.

One by one, all the original monkeys are replaced. Eight new monkeys are nowin the room. None of them have ever been sprayed by ice water. None of them attempt to climb the ladder. All of them will enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tries, without having any idea why.

*..................and that is how most companies' policies get established.*

Sometimes, it feels like this at the workplace. Employees just do certain procedures because others are doing the same.... without knowing why they do them and whether what they have been doing all along can be improved or changed. They say its the policy. At times, it feels it's just the standard practices that have been passed down from employee to employee. Nothing else.

Thursday, 28 September 2006

... let's talk about marriage again ...

*Below is only my personal opinion, however in the event I offended anyone, please accept my sincere apology*

http://sg.news.yahoo.com/060926/5/singapore232460.html

More marriages, more divorces last year

More couples tied the knot last year but there were also more divorces.

A total of 22,992 marriages were registered last year, about 3.6% more than in 2004.

Though the marriage trend is on the upward swing these past few years, the rates were lower than the annual average of 24,800 registered during the 1990s.

The median age for first marriages and remarriages also increased - by two to five years - over the past two decades.

This means delaying marriage is becoming increasingly common.

The median age for first marriages among men last year was 30.2 for non-Muslims and 27.7 for Muslims, said the Department of Statistics.

Among women, the median age was 27.2 for non-Muslims and 24.7 for Muslims.

Grooms with primary or no education were the oldest.

The median ages at first marriage for these men were 39 for non-Muslims and 32 years for Muslims.

Among non-Muslims, brides with primary or no education were the oldest, with the median age at first marriage at 28 years.

But among Muslim brides, university graduates were the oldest, with the median age at first marriage at 27 years.

Even as more people are getting married, divorces have also been on the rise.

Last year, 8.16 percent more marriages ended in divorce compared to the year before. The number of divorces rose to 6,909 in 2005 from 6,388 a year ago.

Younger couples, aged between 20 and 24, registered the highest divorce rate last year.

This is also the largest increase in the past decade.

The divorce rates among older couples showed smaller increases between 1995 and 2005.

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It's saddening that young people (as reported) nowadays doesn't treat marriage seriously compare to olden days. If there's no love or feeling, they will just break this bond. Why our parents, grandparents' time could do it to make it last a lifetime but not now? We didn't heard much divorce cases decades ago but now it seems to become a trend.

Is it because women are more independent? They are more educated, at the same time working and earning their own salaries and thus need no financial backing from husband?

Or is it love has become so fragile that any human could be replaced anytime with a new promise? If that's the case, why get married in the first place and be hurt later? Shouldn't both parties try their best to make it worked initially to the end?

Tuesday, 26 September 2006

... how rich Bill Gates is? ...

Do you know that...

  1. Bill Gates earns US$250 every SECOND, that's about US$20 Million a DAY and US$7.8 Billion a YEAR!
  2. If he drops a thousand dollar, he won't even bother to pick it up bcoz the 4 seconds he picks it, he would've already earned it back.
  3. The US national debt is about 5.62 trillion, if Bill Gates were to pay the debt by himself; he will finish it in less then 10 years.
  4. He can donate US$15 to everyone on earth but still be left with US$5 Million for his pocket money.
  5. Michael Jordan is the highest paid athlete in US. If he doesn't drink and eat, and keeps up his annual income i.e. US$30 Million, he'll have to wait for 277 years to become as rich as Bill Gates is now.
  6. If Bill Gates was a country, he would be the 37th richest country on earth.
  7. If you change all of Bill Gate's money to US$1 notes, you can make a road from the earth to moon, 14 times back and forth. But you have to make that road non-stop for 1,400 years, and use a total of 713 BOEING 747 planes to transport all the money.
  8. Bill Gates is 40 this year. If we assume that he will live for another 35 years, he has to spend US$6.78 Million per day to finish all his money before he dies.
  9. Last but not the least : My Favorite........!!! If Microsoft Windows' users can claim US$1 for every time their computers hang because of Microsoft Windows, Bill Gates will be bankrupt in 3 years!!!

Sunday, 24 September 2006

... 愛情的監獄 ...

這是個令人憐惜的愛情故事。它本來可以很美好、幸福,但不知曾幾何時變成一個無期徒刑的刑罰。

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他認識她時,她已經有個很要好的男友了。可惜好景不長在,因爲某些原因,她和她的那個他分手了。她傷心了很久,而他卻一直默默守護在她身旁。

漸漸,她接受了他的愛情,讓他的愛替她受傷的心重新接受滋潤和灌溉,萌芽開花結果。就這樣他們也像其他的戀人一樣,嘗盡了酸甜苦辣的愛情。不知不覺地過了好幾年,他們也爲了他們的將來而努力奮鬥,也因如此見面的機會慢慢變少了。有時幾個月才見上一次面;爲此,她吵過哭過閙過,從開始的失望到後來的絕望。

牛郎與織女的愛情故事有誰不曉得?一年一次的相約只為了把握彼此相聚的時光,來交換下次的聚首。她和他的關係就好像監獄裏的囚犯被囚禁,盼望親人在指定的時間來探望她。不管時間長短、不管天晴雨天。只求那難得見面的相處。

一個無期徒刑,就把他倆分隔在世界的兩端。等待有天他為她找到證據而判無罪釋放。但要等上多久?一年,三年或十年?她開始累了,希望這個無期徒刑能變成死刑,這樣一了百了不用這般痛苦下去。至少,愛過、傷心過也痛過,而且曾經擁有又何嘗不是种幸福?

Friday, 22 September 2006

... knowing myself better ...

Got this from kasic's blog which she got from angellot's blog... complicated rite? ;) anyway, thanks ladies..

The link: http://www.quizbox.com/personality/test82.aspx

Get to know yourself better

Your view on yourself:

You are down-to-earth and people like you because you are so straightforward. You are an efficient problem solver because you will listen to both sides of an argument before making a decision that usually appeals to both parties.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:

You like serious, smart and determined people. You don't judge a book by its cover, so good-looking people aren't necessarily your style. This makes you an attractive person in many people's eyes.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:

You are ready to commit as soon as you meet the right person. And you believe you will pretty much know as soon as you might that person.

The seriousness of your love: You are very serious about relationships and aren't interested in wasting time with people you don't really like. If you meet the right person, you will fall deeply and beautifully in love.

Your views on education:

Education is very important in life. You want to study hard and learn as much as you can.

The right job for you:

You're a practical person and will choose a secure job with a steady income. Knowing what you like to do is important. Find a regular job doing just that and you'll be set for life.

How do you view success:

You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don't succeed. Don't give up when you haven't yet even started! Be courageous.

What are you most afraid of:

You are afraid of having no one to rely on in times of trouble. You don't ever want to be unable to take care of yourself. Independence is important to you.

Who is your true self:

You are mature, reasonable, honest and give good advice. People ask for your comments on all sorts of different issues. Sometimes you might find yourself in a dilemma when trapped with a problem, which your heart rather than your head needs to solve.

Quite accurate though.. hehe.. found out some of the points quite similar to kasic.. once again, prove that we really sama sama lei.. haha..

Thursday, 21 September 2006

... 兩個人在一起 ...

Got this email from my friend.. quite meaningful so decided to share with everyone..

兩個人在一起有三件事很重要

我覺得這篇文章寫的真好兩個不同生長環境的人要在一起,已經是很困難的事了,而彼此能相互溝通、尊重與珍惜的人更是少之又少

因為許多人往往都是自私地站在自己的立場去想、去做, 以為這就是對方所需要的,以致常常意氣用事,痛了自己也苦了別人。

所以愛一個人不是給她你要的,因為你要的她不一定要啊! 而是要給她「她要的」,這樣才是真正愛她。 所以,兩個人在一起有三件事很重要:溝通•尊重•珍惜

◆溝通

兩個人一定要會溝通,溝通可不是件容易的事喔~

就連我這個自認是「溝通大師」的都不一定會溝通呢!

我就說「炒蛋事件」好了!

我跟我老婆結婚才三個月的時候...就發現我不會溝通了!

就有一天,我心血來潮突然就跟她說:「我今晚作一道世界名菜給你吃!」

平常晚上,我家都是吃三菜一湯。

她一做完兩菜一湯就離開廚房,說要拭目看我作出什麼世界名菜來給她吃,讓她有個驚喜我就拿起三個蛋,打散,唰~下鍋,加蔥花...,再加醬油~?

這是最重要的!!

小時候不是都吃媽媽的醬油炒蛋嗎? 這可是含有濃濃的母愛的香味呢!好啦!? 起鍋~世界名菜---「醬油炒蛋」上桌!

她走出來,一看,「這是什麼?」「蛋啊! 炒蛋啊~」

她是外省人,所以她們從小吃的蛋都是加鹽巴的。

我是本省人,所以都是加醬油的。

「我不要吃!這不是炒蛋。」

這女人怎麼這麼硬啊?! 醬油炒蛋就不是蛋嗎?分別是少見多怪嘛!黑蛋當然也是蛋啊~

「不吃就不吃!」

她筷子一摔,還真的就不吃了。碰!還甩房門。

自此而後,只要我每次炒蛋,內心、腦袋就開始掙扎...「要加鹽巴?還是加醬油?我應該要讓她才對...不對?」!

哼!這一步不能讓!這可是攸關我大男人的面子, 尤其童年的回憶、媽媽的母愛、還有省籍意識在裡面的ㄋㄟ~怎麼能輕易就讓妳?!每次上桌的醬油炒蛋,她就當作沒看到那道菜。

我們就這樣過了五年。很不可思議吧!

為了個炒蛋吵了五年,但後來突然有一天福至心靈,我終於想通了!

我們跟小朋友玩不是都會讓他嗎! 因為他年紀小,不懂事嘛,所以我讓她!而有時老婆不懂事、幼稚的時候,我又何必認真呢!

有一天我就炒了加鹽巴的蛋上桌了。唷!我們家的黑蛋怎麼變白蛋啦? 就沒聽過黑人會變白人的,我們家的黑蛋竟然也會變白蛋呀!」

我這時啥也沒說,只嘿嘿乾笑了兩聲。可是,你知道嗎?過兩天,換我在桌上看見黑蛋了。她炒的。

所以,愛一個人不是要給她你要的,你要的她不一定要啊!而是要給她「她要的」!切記。要把對方的需要當作你的責任,這樣才是真正愛她。

◆尊重

男生在發展關係的同時能尊重對方的意願,能把主控權交給女生的才是好男生。艾斯德講的是「兩個人在一起要學會尊重彼此的任何決定」。意見不合可以溝通,因為無論從人權、人性來說,男女生都是站在平等地位上的。我告訴朋友---尊重,是最重要的!

如果他(她)會尊重你,意即什麼都好,都是能商量的。會把你放在平等地位上看待的這男生或女生就不會糟到哪裡去。

◆珍惜

我們要珍惜每一段關係。假設你還能活60年好了!等你60年後,快死之前,請你拿起一隻筆和一張紙,想一想,寫下你這一生中「真正愛過」的10個人。爸媽兄弟姊妹都可以,是真正愛過的喔!那種只愛三個禮拜的不算是真愛。能寫到超過是最好,不到10個也沒關係。我現在想,我就好像寫不來10個呢!我是不是真正愛我方爸媽都不太確定。因為你真正愛一個人會一年只見他三次面嗎? 不會吧!一定是巴不得每天都能看到他(她)的是吧!可是現在都有自己的家庭了,所以一年大概也只回去三次而已。

紙翻過來再寫,這一生中「真正愛過你」的10個人, 如果你真能寫到10個那你可真的很幸運很幸福了!!還有一個小故事!大意是說一個即將升職的男人,因為她老婆突然罹患老年癡呆症,朋友們都建議他把老婆送到醫院治療兼療養, 他考慮了一星期後遞出了辭呈。朋友們都很驚訝、錯愕,紛紛詢問他為什麼要放棄升遷的機會呢?他的人生就將要達到最高峰了啊!他說:[我只想到我曾在 神前面承諾過,不論她貧窮、疾病、變老、變醜、我要愛她、照顧她一輩子。]

Wednesday, 20 September 2006

... I got 'CHEATED' !! ...

Guess some of you might hear about those time-share companies that existed since don’t know when… Well, I'm going to share with you my experience (promised to post it here too... hehe...) on the recent one that I have gone through… bad experience if you asked...

I received a call early last week informing me that for the last 6 months I may have joined some lucky draws in NTUC, Carrefour, etc. Yes, I told them I did and this guy was even so honest to tell me that these supermarkets actually consolidate those lucky draw participants database even though we didn’t win the first prize BUT we still win something...

(Now, you have to be careful from now on...)

The caller will tell you that you have won a free night stay at one of the 5 stars hotel (Sijori Sentosa Resort) and another free accommodation in Thailand (for my case) and the only condition is, you have to go down to the company to attend a presentation of about an hour prior to collecting your prize..

(Always wonder why the same old trick?? C'mon, just give us the 'dam' prize will you?!$%^&)

Initially, I refused but this guy was good in persuading and so I was thinking no harm going down (haha... got you... don't even be tempted by this!!) and see what kind of trick they could come out with… And they are also persistent, keep confirming you are going down, your details and particulars are correct, etc. On the day of the appointment, will remind you again… as if I will fly away or get lost!! Duh...

And so, there I was in the posh office in Orchard Road. OK, if you want to know the company name, drop me a message, I will gladly provide you with the office name and address. I won't put it here... Well, I do have some 道德 ok?? ;) All I can say, it is Tong Building... hahaha... obvious liao rite?? :-)

(Always like that... nice office, people working after office hours (maybe to cater to 'easy-to-con' people like us and not sure why but there's always loud music, which I read in those forum)

Here comes the part, there will be this sales person who will start to break the ice, asking you about the travel habits, your daily life, etc. Then, he will proceed to explain the kind of product they selling… at the same time even guarantee that theirs is not those time-share company. (who on earth know what a time-share company is or how they operates??) During this time, you got to be very firm that you are not buying anything or else they will talk on and on... mind you, I was stuck there for the whole night which was almost 5 hours! (one trick is to show them you are impatient or not listening as I read in one of the forum...)

If the sales guy or lady can't handle you, they will get their supervisor to handle you, this supervisor is 'dam' good in 'psycholing' you… will offer you different types of proposal to suit your 'financial' and again, assured you that what you buy is value for money… all to get you nod your head and sign on the dotted line.

(usually their product is over $10k man! they will let you pay a min. deposit starting S$500.. the rest work out in installment wan.. they are real good right?? Haiz... I even tell them I got debts to pay, many commitments, they even say themselves also got a lot of commitments… bottom line is, whatever you say, they always know how to counter-attack back)

Later part, you realized that you get conned as it's the same trick like those time-share company and you decided to cancel it… PLEASE DO IT WITHIN 3 DAYS after you signed the agreement according to CASE's Fair Trading Agreement (FTA) which stated you have the right to cancel it.

Therefore, last night, I was at their office again, as usual, the sales guy asked me why I wanted to cancel it and same thing again, get the supervisor in… he/she will try means and ways and the usual counter attack strategy to make you changed your mind… Luckily, I was FIRM enough to cancel after half an hour... argghhh… and I can only get back my deposit after 2 months!!

Don't agree to attend any type of presentations and REJECT immediately after knowing their intention... don't worry, you can hang up their phone or just be harsh.. you have the right to as they are all sharing databases!!

The prize may be attractive but when you realized you have signed it and the product is actually not that good or you know you might not be using it, or whatsoever reasons… you will regret it... Then you decide to cancel it, do this within 3 days if not you will have no rights to cancel after 3 days already…

It will be their usual practice which they will try to persuade you to continue and 'sell' you another plan at a lower rate and even might asked you to discuss with your family… and you will notice this will be after the 3days time …

So, don't be like me and fall into this trap ok??

We are lucky as we are protected by the FTA rule... imagine those company which doesn't have? You will be stuck with the useless product for the rest of your life and paying it for nothing but not enjoying it… unless you are rich then what can i say??

Tuesday, 19 September 2006

... my beloved brother ~ ah Kai ...

It's my youngest brother, Kai's birthday toady.. wow! so fast he's already 22 already.. nw studying in Brisbane..

We were talking on MSN on Sunday and didn't realised that he could be such loveable man.. how come no gals like him huh??

Me: Happy birthday to you bro!

Kai: Thanks thanks!

Me: So what you going to do tomorrow (slip my mind his birthday is on tue i.e today.. hehe)

Kai: It's on Tuesday lei..

Kai: Boo...

blah blah blah

Me: Btw, we have send you a package.. (got scolded by my sis over this as this meant to be a surprise.. hehe..)

Kai: Air-flown cake?

Isn't he cute?? So poor thing that nobody actually remember his birthday.. so he was telling me that's why he's advertising on MSN & knew what? His nick is "happy birthday".

Hey, brother, here's for you: (even though he didn't know i have blog.. haha..)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!

Thursday, 14 September 2006

... memorable quotes from Indecent Proposal (2003) ...

"If you ever want something badly, let it go. If it comes back to you, then it's yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never yours to begin with."

After I watched this movie since 1993... umpteen times, whenever I wanted something repeatedly, I would remind myself about this phrase... not sure does it applied to everyone? At least it does to me personally...

Many years back, I have gone through some rough patches and always had this wish that this someone would come back to me eventually even though he had hurt me many times.. As years gone by, this feeling of wanting him back had slowly faded away…

Human being are such funny animal, upon losing something precious, then they realized to treasure the precious only AFTER. Why can't we just treasure the precious thing we have from day one? Why must it be only upon losing it?

Why go through 失去了才懂得珍惜 such agony?

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When two people fall in love, it is always the nicest thing that happens on planet earth… both of you won't get tired of seeing each other everyday and never complains that you are sick and tired of hearing his/her voice even the calls are only 3 seconds long..

Sadly, all these will gradually disappears and what that's left are the little arguments which sometimes leads to quarrels or worse still, fights.

Is it because they have become 'a habit' to each other? Or is it we know our partner too well and thus lost that loving feeling already?

Unfortunately, one of them might start to search for better leaves or flowers on the roadside… as the trees/flowers are greener on the other side... they will start finding excuses not to get close to their partner, avoid talking to them; fearing it might lead to another argument.

So, why not take into consideration -

"I thought we were invincible. But now I know that the things that people in love do to each other, they remember. And if they stay together, it's not because they forget. It's because they forgive."

Shall we just forgive and forget and start anew??

Wednesday, 13 September 2006

... 真心 ...

一直以來,我很喜歡這首歌。它的歌詞非常貼心。每次聽到這首歌我的心都有些傷感,百感交集。

歌名:真心

作曲:殷文琦

填詞:劉虞瑞

盼到了黎明 又怕讓自己清醒

有多少未知的莫名委屈 要讓我強忍著不能哭泣

我真的累了 累得想放棄逃避

逃回那不再有誰會在乎的過去

走過了風雨 在身上留下了痕跡

回想起這一切 百感交集 分不清該可悲還是歡喜

我真的累了 累得我無法繼續

有誰能看見我那顆平凡執著的心

為何我用真心做的夢愛的人說的話 沒有人願意相信

而一個小小的天地只屬於自己 卻如此遙不可及

我只想用真心做個夢愛個人說些話 安靜的面對命運

但這無奈的心情 我又能說給誰聽

Monday, 11 September 2006

... my new blog ...

Dear friends!!

i guess all of you out there could have noticed i have not been updating my friendster's blog for a long long time..

Well, i have started another blog under Singtel's call Moblog which some of you might have one.. just go there and take a look when you free ba!!

http://tancyee.moblog.com.sg/

(this was copied and back dated.. so quite funny hor? anyway, this is the first move.. hee..)

... a good wife's guide ...

The good wife's guide (extracted ~ Housekeeping monthly 13 May 1955)

  • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
  • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
  • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
  • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
  • During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
  • Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
  • Be happy to see him.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
  • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
  • Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
  • Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
  • Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
  • A good wife always knows her place.

22/01/08: found this website on the internet by chance and the author even opposed it!! read it at http://www.snopes.com/language/document/goodwife.asp

Friday, 1 September 2006

... life's truth ...

GREAT TRUTHS THAT LITTLE CHILDREN HAVE LEARNED:

1) No matter how hard you try, you can't baptise cats.

2) When your Mum is mad at your Dad, don't let her brush your hair.

3) If your sister hits you, don't hit her back. They always catch the second person.

4) Never ask your 3-year old brother to hold a tomato.

5) You can't trust dogs to watch your food.

6) Don't sneeze when someone is cutting your hair.

7) Never hold a Dust-Buster and a cat at the same time.

8) You can't hide a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk.

9) Don't wear polka-dot underwear under white shorts.

10) The best place to be when you're sad is Grandpa's lap.

GREAT TRUTHS THAT ADULTS HAVE LEARNED:

1) Raising teenagers is like nailing jelly to a tree.

2) Wrinkles don't hurt.

3) Families are like fudge...mostly sweet, with a few nuts.

4) Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground.

5) Laughing is good exercise. It's like jogging on the inside.

6) Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fibre, not the toy.

GREAT TRUTHS ABOUT GROWING OLD:

1) Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional.

2) Forget the health food. I need all the preservatives I can get.

3) When you fall down, you wonder what else you can do while you're down there.

4) You're getting old when you get the same sensation from a rocking chair that you once got from a roller coaster.

5) It's frustrating when you know all the answers but nobody bothers to ask you the questions.

6) Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.

7) Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone.

SUCCESS:

At age 4 success is . . . not piddling in your pants.

At age 12 success is . . . having friends.

At age 17 success is . . having a drivers licence.

At age 35 success is . . . having money.

At age 50 success is . . . having money.

At age 70 success is . . . having a drivers licence.

At age 75 success is . . . having friends.

At age 80 success is . . . not piddling in your pants.


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