... 8 clues to happiness by khushwant singhh...

1. First and foremost is GOOD HEALTH. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct from your happiness.

2. Second, a HEALTHY BANK BALANCE. It need not run into crores but should be enough to provide for creature comforts and something to spare for recreation, like eating out, going to the pictures, travelling or going on holidays on the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be only demoralizing. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one's own eyes.

3. Third, a HOME OF YOUR OWN. Rented premises can never give you the snug feeling of a nest which is yours for keeps that a home provides: if it has a garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, cultivate a sense of kinship with them.

4. Fourth, an UNDERSTANDING COMPANION, be it your spouse or a friend. If there are too many misunderstandings, they will rob you of your peace of mind. It is better to be divorced than to bicker all the time.

5. Fifth, LACK OF ENVY towards those who have done better than you in life; risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be very corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.

6. Sixth, DO NOT ALLOW OTHER PEOPLE to descend on you for gup-shup. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.

7. Seventh, CULTIVATE SOME HOBBIES which can bring you a sense of fulfilment, such as gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks or to meet celebrities is criminal waste of time.

8. Eighth, every morning and evening, devote 15 minutes to INTROSPECTION. In the morning, 10 minutes should be spent on stilling the mind and then five in listing things you have to do that day. In the evening, five minutes to still the mind again, and ten to go over what you had undertaken to do.

Nathaniel Cotton (1721-1788) summed up my views on the subject in one verse:

If solid happiness we prize

Within our breast this jewel lies

And they are fools who roam

The world has nothing to bestow

From our own selves our joys must flow

And that dear hut, our home.

... know your signature style!! ...

SINGLE UNDERLINE BELOW THE SIGN !!

These persons are very confident and are good personalities. They are a little bit selfish but believe in "Happiness of human life".

TWO DOTS BELOW THE SIGN !!

These persons are considered to be Romantic, can easily change their fiancées as if they change their clothes. They prefer beauty in other persons & they themselves try to look beautiful, they easily attract others.

SINGLE DOT BELOW THE SIGN !!

These persons are more inclined towards classical arts, simple & are very cool. If you loose faith with them, then these persons will never look back at you. Hence its always better to be careful with these people.

NO UNDERLINES OR DOTS BELOW THE SIGN !!

These persons enjoy their life in their own way, never pay attention to others views. These are

considered to be good natured but are Selfish too.

RANDOM SIGN, NO SIMILARITY BETWEEN NAME & SIGN !!

These persons try to be very smart, hide each & every matter, never say anything in straight forward manner, never pay attention to the other person of what he is talking of.

RANDOM SIGN, SIMILARITY BETWEEN NAME & SIGN !!

These persons are considered to be intelligent but never think. These people change their ideas & views as fast as the wind changes its direction of flow. They never think whether that particular thing is right or wrong. You can win them just by flattering them.

SIGN IN PRINTED LETTERS !!

These persons are very kind to us, have a good heart, selfless, are ready to sacrifice their life for the sake of their near & dear. But they seems to think a lot and may get angry very soon.

WRITING COMPLETE NAME AS THEIR SIGN !!

These persons are very kind hearted, can adjust themselves to any environment & to the person they are talking. These persons are very firm on their views & posses a lot of will power.

... 7 don't(s) after meals ...

Don't smoke - Experiment from experts proves that smoking a cigarette after a meal is comparable to smoking 10 cigarettes. Chances of cancer is higher.

Don't eat fruits immediately - Immediately eating fruits after meals will cause s to mach to be bloated with air. Therefore take fruit 1-2 hr after meal or 1 hr before meal.

Don't drink tea - Because tea leaves contain a high content of acid. This substance will cause the Protein content in the food we consume to be hardened thus difficult to digest.

Don't loosen your belt - Loosening the belt after a meal will easily cause the intestine to be twisted & blocked.

Don't bathe - Bathing will cause the increase of blood flow to the hands, legs & body thus the amount of blood around the s to mach will therefore decrease. This will weaken the digestive system in our s to mach.

Don't walk about - People always say that after a meal walk a hundred steps and you will live till 99. In actual fact this is not true. Walking will cause the digestive system to be unable to absorb the nutrition from the food we intake.

Don't sleep immediately - The food we intake will not be able to digest properly. Thus will lead to gastric & infection in our intestine.

... health chart ...

Apples ~ Protects your heart ~ Prevents constipation ~ Blocks diarrhea ~ Improves lung capacity ~ Cushions joints

Apricots ~ Combats cancer ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Saves your eyesight ~ Shields against Alzheimer's ~ Slows aging process

Artichokes ~ Aids digestion ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Protects your heart ~ Stabilizes blood sugar ~ Guards against liver disease

Avocados ~ Battles diabetes ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Helps to prevent strokes ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Smoothes skin

Bananas ~ Protects your heart ~ Quiets a cough ~ Strengthens bones ~ Controls blood pressure Blocks diarrhea

Beans ~ Prevents constipation ~ Helps hemorrhoids ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats cancer Stabilizes blood sugar

Beets ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Combats cancer ~ Strengthens bones ~ Protects your heart ~ Aids weight loss

Blueberries ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Stabilizes blood sugar ~ Boosts memory ~ Prevents constipation

Broccoli ~ Strengthens bones ~ Saves eyesight ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Controls blood pressure

Cabbage ~ Combats cancer ~ Prevents constipation ~ Promotes weight loss ~ Protects your heart ~ Helps hemorrhoids

Cantaloupe ~ Saves eyesight ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats cancer Supports immune system

Carrots ~ Saves eyesight ~ Protects your heart ~ Prevents constipation ~ Combats cancer ~ Promotes weight loss

Cauliflower ~ Protects against Prostate Cancer ~ Combats Breast Cancer ~ Strengthens bones ~ Banishes bruises ~ Guards against heart disease

Cherries ~ Protects your heart ~ Combats Cancer ~ Ends insomnia ~ Slows aging process ~ Shields against Alzheimer's

Chestnuts ~ Promotes weight loss ~ Protects your heart ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats Cancer ~ Controls blood pressure

Chili Peppers ~ Aids digestion ~ Soothes sore throat ~ Clears sinuses ~ Combats Cancer ~ Boosts immune system

Figs ~ Promotes weight loss ~ Helps to prevent strokes ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats Cancer ~ Controls blood pressure

Fish ~ Protects your heart ~ Boosts memory ~ Protects your heart ~ Combats Cancer ~ Supports immune system

Flax ~ Aids digestion ~ Battles diabetes ~ Protects your heart ~ Improves mental health ~ Boosts immune system

Garlic ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Combats cancer ~ Kills bacteria ~ Fights fungus

Grapefruit ~ Protects against heart attacks ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Helps to prevent strokes Combats Prostate Cancer ~ Lowers cholesterol

Grapes ~ Saves eyesight ~ Conquers kidney stones ~ Combats cancer ~ Enhances blood flow ~ Protects your heart

Green Tea ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Helps s to ps strokes ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Kills bacteria

Honey ~ Heals wounds ~ Aids digestion ~ Guards against ulcers ~ Increases energy ~ Fights allergies

Lemons ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Smoothes skin ~ Stops scurvy

Limes ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Smoothes skin ~ Stops scurvy

Mangoes ~ Combats cancer ~ Boosts memory ~ Regulates thyroid ~ Aids digestion ~ Shields against Alzheimer's

Mushrooms ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Kills bacteria ~ Combats cancer Strengthens bones

Oats ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats cancer ~ Battles diabetes ~ Prevents constipation ~ Smoothes skin

Olive Oil ~ Protects your heart ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Combats cancer ~ Battles diabetes ~ Smoothes skin

Onions ~ Reduce risk of heart attack ~ Combats cancer ~ Kills bacteria ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Fights fungus

Oranges ~ Supports immune systems ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Straightens respiration

Peaches ~ Prevents constipation ~ Combats cancer ~ Helps prevent strokes ~ Aids digestion ~ Helps hemorrhoids

Peanuts ~ Protects against heart disease ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Combats Prostate Cancer ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Aggravates Diverticulitis

Pineapple ~ Strengthens bones ~ Relieves colds ~ Aids digestion ~ Dissolves warts ~ Blocks diarrhea

Prunes ~ Slows aging process ~ Prevents constipation ~ Boosts memory ~ Lowers cholesterol Protects against heart disease

Rice ~ Protects your heart ~ Battles diabetes ~ Conquers kidney stones ~ Combats cancer Helps prevent strokes

Strawberries ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Boosts memory ~ Calms stress

Sweet Potatoes ~ Saves your eyesight ~ Lifts mood ~ Combats cancer ~ Strengthens bones

Tomatoes ~ Protects prostate ~ Combats cancer ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Protects your heart

Walnuts ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats cancer ~ Boosts memory ~ Lifts mood ~ Protects against heart disease

Water ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Combats cancer ~ Conquers kidney stones ~ Smoothes skin

Watermelon ~ Protects prostate ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Helps prevent strokes ~ Controls blood pressure

Wheat Germ ~ Combats Colon Cancer ~ Prevents constipation ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Helps stops strokes ~ Improves digestion

Wheat Bran ~ Combats Colon Cancer ~ Prevents constipation ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Helps prevent strokes ~ Improves digestion

Yogurt ~ Guards against ulcers ~ Strengthens bones ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Supports immune systems ~ Aids digestion

... can water be affected by our words? ...

Bible verse: Proverbs 18:21

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Can water be affected by our words? Dr. Masaru Emoto, a Japanese scientist, believes so. And he has proof.

Dr. Emoto took water droplets, exposed them to various words, music, and environments, and froze them for three hours. He then examined the crystal formations under a dark field microscope. And he took photographs.

The results were totally mind-blowing.

Here's a photo of ordinary water without any prayer spoken over it.

The molecular structure is in disarray.

The photo below is water after the prayer was said. It's simply breathtaking. (I now have a great respect for praying before meals! More on this later.)

Dr. Emoto also exposed water to Heavy Metal music. Here's how it looks like. Looks sad if you ask me.

Here's water exposed to classical music and folk dance music. Looks much better, right?

Next, Dr. Emoto stuck a piece of paper with these words: "You make me sick. I will kill you."

Here's how the frozen water droplets looks like under the microscope…

Below is how water looked like with the words "Love" over it. The difference is amazing.

This is Polluted water…

This is water from Lourdes , France . Utterly beautiful, right?

Wait A Minute— Aren't You Made Up Of Water? Yes! 72% of your body is made up of water. Imagine how your words affect your own body. When you say, "I'm a failure," or "I'm hopeless," or "I won't get well," imagine how these words weaken your health.

Make a choice to say the best words out there. Say often, "I'm wonderful," and "I'm beautiful,".

It's not only water.

Dr. Emoto also experimented with cooked rice. He placed one cup of cooked rice in two airtight jars. On one jar, he wrote, "I love you," and on the other, "You fool." Everyday for 30 days, Dr. Emoto would say these words to each jar of rice.

After 30 days, the "I love you" rice was still white. But the "You fool" rice was so rotten, it was black. How can you explain this?

Just as a side note: When I was a child, my mother taught me to pray before meals. Now I realize it wasn't just a nice thing to do. When I pray over my meal, I know a material transformation takes place in the molecular level of the food that I pray for. I say, "Be blessed," to the water and food on the table—and I expect it to be blessed.

Yeah – that's why we always wish others well on birthdays, anniversaries, graduation, festivals, examination days, etc…. BE BLESSED, everybody!!!

... how poor sleep can lead to weight gain ..

(extracted from shopping lifestyle)

They don't call it beauty sleep for nothing. Recent scientific studies show a strong relationship between sleep deprivation and weight gain. Here are some of the findings:

Research finding #1:

Women who slept 5 hours or less a night gained more weight than those who slept for at least 7 hours a day.

Research finding #2:

People who sleep 2 to 4 hours a night are 73 percent more likely to be obese than those who get seven to nine hours.

Research finding #3:

People who slept less than 6 hours a night experienced an increase in their body mass index (BMI) more than those who slept 7 to 8 hours.

Research finding #4:

People who slept less than 8 hours a day had larger increases in body fat than those who slept more.

How sleep affects our bodies

"Lack of sleep disrupts every physiologic function in the body," says Eve Van Cauter, Ph.D., of the University of Chicago. In fact, sleep loss has such an adverse effect on our ability to metabolize sugar, she says, that in one week of severe sleep deprivation (such as four hours per night), an otherwise healthy person will be in a pre-diabetic state.

"One of the more interesting ideas that has been smoldering and is now gaining momentum is the appreciation of the fact that sleep and sleep disruption do remarkable things to the body ?including possibly influencing our weight," agrees David Rapoport, MD, associate professor and director of the Sleep Medicine Program at the New York University School of Medicine in New York City.

The reason: Sleep loss can reduce our bodies' capacity to perform basic metabolic functions such as regulating blood-sugar levels, storing carbohydrates and regulating hormone secretion. All of these major activities get out of whack when we're sleep-deprived. Not surprisingly, the balance of appetite-regulating hormones go haywire too so our normal cues for eating are altered.

Sometimes, an undiagnosed medical illness might also cause poor sleep habits, say the sleep experts. Someone with an underactive thyroid gland, for instance, will feel fatigued and gain weight. And someone who suffers from sleep apnea will wake up repeatedly during the night.

How sleep affects eating

Sleep researchers have found that sleep deprivation (even a mild case of inadequate sleep) quickly disrupts normal levels of the appetite-regulating hormones: Increasing the levels of a hunger hormone (ghrelin) while decreasing levels of a hormone that makes you feel full (leptin). The effects can set the stage for overeating and weight gain.

"It's amazing how much people's sleep is reflected in the hormones in their blood," says Emmanuel Mignot, a Howard Hughes Medical Institute investigator at Stanford University. Sleep-deprived people, he believes, eat more because they're hungrier, they're awake longer and may be tempted by foods everywhere they go."When you're sleep-deprived, you may overeat well in excess of the caloric demands, and, therefore, sleep loss is probably also a risk factor for weight gain and obesity," warns Van Cauter.

This could explain why when we're feeling fatigued, we don't always make healthy food choices: We eat junk food as a pick-me-up during the day when we're feeling sleepy, fail to stick to our healthy eating plan, and snack right before bedtime.

The bottom line? Most experts agree that logging in an extra couple of hours of sleep each night isn't a bad idea, especially if you're trying to lose weight and if you get six hours of sleep of less a night. You may just discover that you aren't as hungry or you don't crave high-calorie foods anymore.

... death note ...

i should really jotted this down before i start forgetting again.. LOL.. i was talking to my xiaodi on tue (2/2/10) regarding the movie death note..

are you caught in a situation where you really wish some bad guys or sick old people will die 'naturally'? of course not murdered lah!! it's just died the way or another that we wished that person would die..

too bad we're not the angel and/or demon who could help these people..

however, what happens if we have a death note? will we change (or rather 'rule'?) the world?? then we could 'design' death in the most innovative way we want it.. be it cruelly or britually.. haha..

letting the bad guys died the most horrible ways (well saw movies are nothing then!) and those goody good old aunties and uncles died the way they wished..

my xiaodi has got worse imagination.. let those who die to disappear in thin air.. no corpose to collect, no coffin to hold the body, no funerals to run, no death anniversary to pray to.. how nice would that be..

what's your view??

... coca cola CEO speech (30 seconds) ...

VERY SHORT, MOST EFFECTIVE AND HOW TRUE...

30 Second Speech by Bryan Dyson (CEO of Coca Cola)

"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air.

You name them - Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you're keeping all of these in the Air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it."

WORK EFFICIENTLY DURING OFFICE HOURS AND LEAVE ON TIME. GIVE THE REQUIRED TIME TO YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS & HAVE PROPER REST.

... no need to shout ...

One day, a professor asked his students, 'Why do we SHOUT instead of speak when we are ANGRY?' All the students thought for a while. One answered, 'Because we lost our cool. That's why we SHOUT.' Asked the professor again, 'But the person is just right next to you, why can't we talk softly but have to SHOUT?' Everyone gave their opinions but none was accepted by the professor. Finally, the professor explained, 'When we are ANGRY, our hearts drift apart. To mask the DISTANCE we felt, we instinctively SHOUT instead of speak so the other party can hear us.'

'But as we SHOUT, we get ANGRIER. And we felt we drift apart further. So we SHOUT even louder...' 'It is the opposite when we are in love. Not only we do not shout, we whisper into each other ears. Why?' 'This is because our hearts are very close, almost never apart. As our love deepens, we reach a state of communication where there is no need for words.' 'We understand each other well enough just by exchanging look.' concluded the professor.

'Therefore, when we are arguing, DO NOT speak words that will make our hearts drift apart. WAIT a few days. When you feel your hearts are no longer far apart, pick up the conversation and continue from there.'

... driven to distraction? ...

chanced upon this article from yahoo cars! it's quite a interesting one, i must say..

Experts reveal the dangers of listening to music whilst driving in your car, but there are benefits too.

Most of us enjoy listening to music whilst driving, but be careful what you listen to and how loud - making the wrong choices can have deadly consequences, according to experts.

It probably won't come as a surprise to hear that the tempo of music can affect the speed and reliability of your driving. Researchers at an Israeli university proved the link back in 2002.

They found that drivers listening to fast-paced tracks (120 beats per minute or more) had twice as many accidents as those listening to slower music. And those drivers are twice as likely to drive through a red light as drivers not listening to music at all.

'In general, if music is above 60 beats per minute, listeners experience a faster heart rate and increased blood pressure,' says consultant psychologist Conrad King. 'It doesn't matter if you listen to opera, classical or the latest rave music. It's the speed of the beat that counts.'

More recent research, carried out at Memorial University in Canada, has found that listening to music too loud can seriously hamper reaction times and cause accidents.

The study found that participants took an average of 20% longer than normal to perform physical and mental tasks when listening at 95 decibels. That's a potentially lethal delay for motorists, even at modest speeds. (As a guide, the typical car stereo has a maximum volume of about 110 decibels, but the loudest can reach 170 decibels or more.)

But it's not all bad news. Dr Nicola Dibben, a music psychologist from the University of Sheffield, UK, has carried out extensive research on the subject of in-car music on behalf on an insurance company.

She confirms that listening to music helps drivers relax, concentrate and keep alert, and is far more effective than silence, conversation or listening to talk radio. In fact, she advocates singing along too.

'Singing while driving stimulates not only the mind but also the body which, in turn, produces heightened alertness and reduced fatigue,' says Dibben. 'Singing may be less distracting than conversation because drivers recall words to songs they already know, or because it is fairly easy to learn the words to music where it uses repeated lyrics.

For safe listening in your car, follow these simple tips:

• Stick to mid-paced music if you want to keep calm in stressful driving situations - there's a reason why many taxi drivers choose it!
• To ensure a calm and positive frame of mind, choose music which evokes pleasant memories. You probably have favourite summer tunes, for example.
• Avoid songs with overly aggressive lyrics. For many, tracks like Prodigy's 'Firestarter' are less than ideal.
• Avoid music which is overly complex (eg songs with little repetition or, say, unusual remixes of well-known tracks) as they can be highly distracting.
• If going on a long journey, select music which varies in volume, tempo and style - it will stop you getting bored and help increase awareness.
• Listen at a comfortable volume level. Loud music will distract you - and, if really loud, annoy other drivers too.
• Never wear earphones or headphones whilst driving. If you want to listen to your MP3 player, plug it into your car stereo if you can.
• Do not attempt to change a CD whilst driving at speed. If you need to change volume or radio station, don't take your eyes off the road.
• Sing along to the music you choose if you know it well enough, but don't pretend you're on stage.
• Resist the urge to play air guitar - or, indeed, any other 'air' instrument - whilst driving. 'Playing' the car door, with your arm out of the window, isn't recommended either..

... does your boss hate you? ...

For those looking to move up the career ladder, it is important to gain the respect and the trust of their managers. But could you be secretly driving your manager up the wall without even knowing it?

Tim Hird, managing director of Robert Half Singapore shares with us eight negative actions that bosses generally dislike in employees.

1. Turning down new assignments If your supervisor comes to you one day with a new task, do not decline it. It would be unwise to build a reputation as someone your boss can’t count on. Furthermore, it is good practice to accommodate to your boss’ wishes as long as you can afford time for that extra work. Saying “no” can convince your manager to stop offering you opportunities, which may include the ones you might be interested in.

2. Being “high-maintenance” Do you constantly need attention from your boss to remain productive or to ensure that you’re on the right track? This behaviour may just prevent your manager from attending to important tasks or getting into a good workflow. And this is a sure-fire way to annoy anyone in the workplace.

3. Communicating poorly Your boss’ instructions can be vague but it is critical for you to understand his communication style and preferences and adjust accordingly. Also consider the amount of information he would like. Ensuring you remain on the same page with him is important to a good collaboration.

4. Asking too many questions Always pay attention to your boss when he is speaking and try to seek clarification on the get-go. Repeatedly asking him the same question can drive him insane. However if you must follow-up with your manager, be sure to approach him with a specific list of questions and take notes so you don’t need to bother him again.

5. Failing to follow through Pay attention to details – even the finest ones. Think ahead when you tackle about the types of concerns your boss might have when tackling a project. This would build your manager’s confidence in you.

6. Refusing to admit your mistakes Step up to the plate if you’ve made a mistake. Creating an excuse to justify poor work performance is not only dishonest but also unprofessional. Additionally, your ploy might not stand the test of time. So face your mistake and then go further by devising a plan to both correct and avoid similar incidents in future.

7. Waving the red flag after the ship has sunk If you find yourself in a situation where you are unable to meet a deadline, let your manager know about it at an earlier timing. Do not break the news to him at the last minute. This could infuriate him.

8. Fueling the rumour mill Most importantly, do not spread gossip or complaints around the workplace. Bosses seek employees with a positive outlook and want workers who are able to influence the attitudes of other beacuse enthusiasm is contagious!

Overall, Hird says that “cultivating good emotional intelligence and adopting a positive attitude are crucial to workplace survival”.

Credits:

extracted from Human Resource magazine Oct 09 pg. 4

website: http://theofficesnitch.wordpress.com/

... 千萬不要随便把身上的东西給別人 ...

今天聽到一件非常駭人聽聞的消息，是真實事件...

有一個高中女生晚上在回家的時候，在自家門前看到一位香港人，他說因為他參加某某節目， 跟某某人打賭，希望那女生能把其中一只襪子給他。

因為那女生已经在家门前了，所以她想進去拿一隻新的和乾淨的给他。

那個香港人說，就要她腳上的那一隻，高中女生看她很誠懇的樣子，便把腳上的襪子脫下來給了他。

香港人很高興，又有點不好意思，要塞100元給那高中女生，由于她家非常富有，便堅持不收。

別以為事情就這樣結束了，那女生自從那一天后，精神就一直很不好。

她也不以此為意，結果，你們知道嗎？

那个拿她襪子的人，不知道是養小鬼還是與惡魔打交道的，要搶走這女生的生命。

幸好這個女生的爸爸，對易經術略有研究，知道這是有人在作怪，連夜帶這個女生去基隆找一位師傅帮忙。

這位師父劈頭就問，那女生有沒有收别人的錢？那女生說沒有，師父說：「如果有收錢，命就救不回來了！」然后师傅就帮她化解了这場危機。

那位師父說，因為現在的時機非常不好，很多大鬼小鬼都拿著令牌在尋人，因此凡事都要小心， 而且，要特別注意的是：

女生絕對不要把这七樣東西交給別人：

1.頭髮

2.指甲

3.襪子

4.身上的東西

其他的我忘了，千万别把这些东西交給別人，因为「有心人」只要有其中一項，就可以要了你的命！

一切要小心，而且不要隨便拿陌生人的錢或東西，不要貪小便宜也不要濫用同情心。

... remedy for electronic gadgets ...

this is definately worth trying!!

... 記得 ...

記得早上起床照鏡子時跟自己打聲招呼

記得每天保持高昂的心情

記得要時常鼓勵自己

記得遇到難過的事就不要壓抑自己

記得偶爾要讓自己大叫發洩

記得每天出門時要面帶笑容

記得留點時間給自己不要太匆忙

記得對有些事要學習一笑視之

記得對不確定的事物抱持疑問

記得對看不慣的事要有隱忍心態

記得對他人的窘態要有同理心

記得遇到高興的事就是要大笑

記得有時候要學會裝可愛

記得生氣時要會學會克制怒火

記得偶爾時要放縱自己的任性

記得最好是要有心靈寄託

記得有時無語是最好的回答

記得偶爾可以吃虧但不要受冤枉

記得對自己的家人也要說謝謝

最後~~~~還有一個最~~最~~ 最重要的就是……

記得時間到了就是要下班

... 6 things not to tell your boss ...

Why one person gets a promotion

and another doesn't often comes

down to these well-intentioned

but ill-advised works

1. " I want your job." These words came out of Abby's mouth on the second day of her new job. In 5 years, Abby hasn't been promoted once. Certainly, a good boss appreciates ambition in her employees, but no one wants to swim in a tank of piranhas. So maybe you do want to be the boss someday. That's a great goal, but it's better left a private one.

Susan Kleinman, author of Real Life 101: The Graduate's Guide to Survival (MasterMedia Ltd.), says it's okay to let your boss know what you care abut creating better opportunities for yourself. "But make sure he knows that you want to help yourself and the company.""

2. "You're a jerk." Indeed, your boss may be, but if you value your job, you'll let someone else lecture him on his behaviour. If you must speak up, approach him in a positive manner with gentle suggestions.

Kleiman explains, "Don't criticize. Communicate! If there's a problem, let our goal be to find a solution, not vent your anger." Use tact: don't attack.

3. "I'm just here until something better comes along." Tell your boss hat or give that impression, and your days are numbered. In the first place, something better may not come along. You'll be stuck in a job where you're perceived as a disgruntled employee or troublemaker. On the other hand, you may decide you like your job after all. Now you'll never move up - only out!

"In our increasingly mobile society, everyone has his or her eyes open for better opportunities," says Kleinman. "However, your boss needs to feel that you're completely committed to your job."

4. "I'd never consider a move, work different hours, or take on new tasks." Are you uncomfortable with change? Remember, too much rigidity will keep you in an assistant's position till retirement. Even if you really don't relish working the lobster shift during a crunch or moving to the other side of the Continent, don't be too vocal about it. A change may never come to pass. And if it does, remember this: Those who are willing to move for a company move in a company.

5. "I'm scared to give it a try." You may very well b terrified of meeting with a client or heading a project for the fist time. Discuss strategies with your boss (who's eager to see you succeed), but vent fears with friends or family. Then do your "homework", and dive right in. Trying something new will jumpstart your confidence and give you a better chance at climbing the ladder!

6. "Or else..." Never give your boss an ultimatum, Kleinman warns.

"Those are 2 words you never want to use. If you threaten to quit because you're unhappy, our boss may very well call your bluff. That's no way to get what you want."

After the blunder - Taking your foot out of your mouth

What if you've already blurted out one of these career-killing cracks'? Pack up your desk? Throw out your business cards?

An obvious change of heart will usually find you back in the boss's good graces. Or you might consider scheduling a conference with your boss to discuss your feelings.

The One Thing your boss absolutely must know

... That you are committed to your job.

Susan Kleinman says that a boss loves to hear an employees say, "Please let me know how I can do an even better job."

"Those words are important for 2 reasons," says Kleinman. "First, if there is a problem, you're better off knowing about it as early as possible. Asking that question gives the boss an opening to dispense some constructive criticism.

"Second, approaching the boss this way communicates your willingness to give 110% to your job."

Then you might just get that corner office. You know, the one with the window.

(extracted from lifestyle sep 09 magazine pp. 110-111)

... good lines ...

... kangkong ...

Health Warning On KANGKUNG !

THIS COULD BE TRUE BUT FROM NOW ON, BE VERY CAREFUL AND ENSURE THE STEMS ARE CUT INTO 2 AND WASH THEM THOROUGHLY. THAT WILL ENSURE that ALL ARE CLEAN. Outside at the hawkers' eating stall we don't know but most dishes of fried Kangkung or Kangkung Belacan should be OK because they are thoroughly cooked in hot oil!Even in rojak containing Kangkung, I believe the vege is well cooked in very hot water and are not eaten in its raw state !

Dear All,

Attached is an article forewarded by a psychiatrist from Klang Hospital . I am sorry I do not have a copy of it in English.

It actually narrates how a young boy died after eating the kangkung vegetable. He had gastro-enteritis(diarrhoea/vomiting)and wasadmitted in hospital.

Post mortem revealed that there were leeches in his intestines which has multiplied many times. The leech found its way through the stem of the kangkong vegetable.The stem is hollow and is normally cooked together with the leaves.

One of the precautions we can take is to slice the stems into two and wash it well before cooking. (DAMN GOOD IDEA OR DON'T EAT THIS VEGE AT ALL !)

... dating a second woman ...

很感人的一篇文章 , 分享給你! 和另一女人約會？

結婚了廿一年後，我發現了一種別出心裁的方法,可以讓愛的火花永保新鮮。

After get marriaged for twenty-one years, i found an unique way to refresh my love life.

不久以前 ，我和另一位女士約會，其實那還是我妻子的主意，

Not long ago, I was date with a lady, and the idea was came from my wife.

有一天她說：「我知道妳很愛她。」我很驚訝，立刻爭辯說： 「但我愛的是妳呀！」「我知道，但你也愛她呀！」

One day my wife said: I know u love her. I was shocked: The one I love is you! She said: I know, but u love her too.

我妻子要我去看的女士是我的母親。

The lady that my wife asked me to visit was my mother.

她已經寡居了十九年，然而我忙碌的工作和身為二 個孩子父親的責任，令我分身乏術，以致很少有時間和她相聚。

She was alone for ninetwen years, however, I was busy with my job and my children, so I was less likely to visit her.

那晚，我打電話給她，邀約她第二天和我一起吃晚餐和看電影。

The night, i called her, invited her to have a dinner and movie with me at the second day.

「怎麼了，你還好嗎？」她問道。

' What happen? Are u alright?', she asked.

母親是那種會認為晚上那麼晚打電話，又突然邀約她 ，一定不會有什麼好事的人。 「我想如果有機會和妳單獨約會，一定很有意思。」我回答。

I answered: I was just thinking that if I have chance to date with u alone, it sure be very interesting.

她想了一會兒，然後說：「我非常樂意。」

After a while, she said: I do.

那個星期五下班以後，我開車去接她時，心裡有一點緊張,

The Friday after i worked, I fetched her at her home, felt like a little bit nervous.

因為從未嚐試過這樣的約會 。

Because I had never to date with my mom before.

當我到達她家時，我看她對這樣的約會，似乎也有一點緊張。

When I reached her house, I found that she seems a little bit nervous too.

她在門內等著，身上穿著大衣， 裡面那件禮服 還是最後一次慶祝結婚紀念日所穿的呢！

She was in her suite, which she wore during her last wedding anniversary with my dad, waiting me in her house.

她的頭髮還特意捲了一下，臉上 的微笑像天使一般。

She made her hair specifically, smiling like an angel.

上了車後，她得意洋洋地說：「我告訴我的朋友，我要和我的兒子外出約會，他們都好羨慕，迫不及待要聽聽我們約會的情形。」

When she get into my car, she proundly said: all my friends were jeolous at me when they know that i'm gonna dating with my son.

我們去一家雖不豪華，但十分雅致，溫暖舒適的餐廳。

We went to a restaurent which was not expensive but with warmth and cozy environment.

我母親挽住我的臂彎，好像第一 夫人一般。

My mom hold my hand as she was the wife of president.

入座以後，我必須幫她看菜單點菜，

After seat her, I help her to order her food,

因為她的眼睛現在只有大的字才看得見。

Because she only can read the big capital words.

用餐一半時，我抬起頭來，看到母親正在凝視我，

When we were eating, I found she was stare at me,

嘴角帶著懷舊的笑容說：「記得當你小時候，總是我為你看菜單的。」「那現在妳正好可以休息，輪到我來為妳服務了。」我回答。

She smile and said: I remembered that during ur childhood, I always make the order for u. I answered: then now is ur chance to take a rest and let me to serve u.

一面享用晚餐，我們一面聊天，聊得很愉快，

We keep talking during our dinner,

談了許多最近幾年來，各自生命中的一些事。

Sharing about our life and some special things heppening these few years.

我們聊得太久了，所以趕不上電影。當我送她回到家門口，

We talked for very long time until we missed the movie. When I fetched her back to her house,

她說「我要再和你一起外出 ，但下次讓我作東好嗎？」我答應了。

She asked: I'd like to date with u next time, but please let me pay the bill next time. I agreed.

回家後，妻子問我：「你的晚餐約會如何？」

When I back to my home, my wife asked: how's ur date with ur mom?

「非常有意思，比我想像的好多了！」 ~我回答。

' It was interesting and fun, over my expectation', I answered.

幾天以後，母親因心臟病猝發而去世。這事發生得太突然了，

Few days later, my mom was passed away due to heart failure. The thing happened in an unexpected manner,

讓我完全措手不及。

I wasn't prepared for it at all.

不久以後，我收到一封信，裡面是上次我和母親約會的那家餐館的一張收據，上面有一張字條寫著：「我已先付了賬，因為我確定自己不可能再有機會去了，但我還是付了兩人份的賬──你和你的妻子。 你絕對想不到那一晚的約會對我有多大的意義，我愛你。」

Soon after this, I received a letter, there are a receipt of the restaurent that I dated with my mom, and a message: I already paid the bill for our next date, even though I know I'd probably won't have chance to date with u anymore, I still pay the bill for wo persons: u and ur wife. U will never know how meaningful the date to me, I love U.

從那一刻起，我深深體會，一定要及時說：「我愛你」，並且要常常撥出時間給我們所愛的人。

At the moment, I realised: we must always spare our precious time to our beloved, and told them u love them before it is too late.

世上沒有任何事比自然如來因緣和你的家庭更重要，多花時間和他們在一起，因為這事絕不能拖延到「以後有時間再說 ...」。

There is nothing more important than ur family, spend more time with them before it is too late.

「樹欲靜而風不止，子欲養而親不待」 是人生一大憾事。

Don't make any regret in our life.

~{ 愛無分 ,愛有份}~ 不要等到爱得太迟，珍惜现在。祝您辛福！

... guaranteed returns? think again …

an email from my classmate..

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I believe everyone has read about the property market situation in Singapore.

Here's something to share from my property developer friend (from the North).

From the lessons learnt from the financial meltdown, we now know that the word "guarantee" is not what we understand legally...I am writing this from the perspective of a developer.....

A guaranteed is in law an assurance by a third party that if the principal party fails to fulfill its obligations made by the other.

The word guarantee is used by the developer to say that it will make arrangements for the property to be rented at a specified amount for a specified period.

In most situations, an agreement is not entered with the developer but with a management company that is linked to the developer.

In such situation, the following question arises. Is the agreement signed to let the premises to the entity? If so, this agreement would be a landlord-tenant relationship and if the entity is only an undertaking to secure tenants for the buyer, it is only his agent. Therefore the terms of such agreement govern the relationship. At this stage, it emerged that though a guaranteed was initially talked about, in reality it does not exist.

On the other hand, the buyer may be dealing with a party that is not adequately funded. Thus the buyer may successfully bring a claim and obtain judgment for any rent not paid but could be left holding a paper judgment.

A buyer also needs to be aware whether the “guaranteed returns” are on the basis of the unit purchased in its bare form or fully furnished as there can be hidden costs in the arrangement.

The buyer also needs to know in what condition the unit will be handed back at the end of the rental period.

It is always important for the buyer to be aware of the actual obligations as the words such as “guarantee” stated in the promotional material will not create any rights that can be enforced.

... let's talk about sex ...

i have 'resumed' (yes, i stopped for a while already) reading Y.E.S. 933 DJ, 丁志勇 aka cruz teng blog... decided to 'acknowledge' this entry as it seems funny to me too.. 哈哈！ (well, those friends who know me well enough would know why i want to post this.. ;D)

on second thought, maybe it's true to a certain extent lei??? enjoy folks!

A型男性的“性”情指数

A型男人做爱特别多。统计指出，A型男人平均做爱时间约为4分26秒，是四种血型中最短的。但优点是做爱次数多，平均每年196次，每隔1.86日就做一次。A型男性会不断努力，使伴侣得到高潮。如果在重要关键时刻，你能对他说：“好棒啊！”那么他一定爱死你，不用说，对A型男性的最大武器就是撒娇。A型男人平均一生中有4个性伴侣，同O型伴侣最为默契，在床上非常卖力，一定要令性伴侣有高潮，才会停止，相当为对方着想，是典型的好男人。

B型男性的“性”情指数

B型男性喜欢享受开放的性生活，不喜欢阴暗、拘谨，或者是有婚姻问题的性生活。简单地说，爱情和性是全然不同的两回事，可以享受没有爱情的性生活，也可以不透过性而确认爱情。女性如果能够率直地表现出自己的喜悦，或许就能够享受幸福的婚姻生活。B型男人持久力最强，平均做爱时间最长，约7分11秒。做爱重质不重量，平均每年做爱158次，每隔2.31日才做一次。平均一生中约有8个性伴侣，同A型伴侣最为默契。

AB型男性的“性”情指数

AB型男性属于较严肃的性主义者，要与他配合并不困难，他也很喜欢黄色笑话，但事实上，他们对性都有洁癖，因此，还是以自然的方式好。其中也有人认为，伴侣一定要是个处女，否则他便会显得不积极。这时候还是以自然的形式创造一个绝佳的气氛最好。AB型男人对性最保守，他们平均做爱时间约为6分10秒，持久力排第二。每年平均做爱约173次，每隔2.1日做一次。平均一生中约有3个性伴侣，数目最少，同A型女人最合拍。对性较为保守，不会轻易同女人上床，上床的话，一定要有感情。

O型男性的“性”情指数

O型男人喜欢有规律的性生活，认为做爱像吃饭一样，都是生活中不可缺少的事情。O型血的人虽然热烈地接受性爱，但也会表现出较淡然的态度。通常男女双方交往，会因感情热度升高而冲破理智防线。进而产生性爱的经验，显然地，这和男性的交易式爱情截然不同。一般而言O型血的人对爱情较主动，但趋向贪婪。他们做爱的过程虽然认真而细腻，但事后却无法抓住片刻的美好回忆。 O型男人平均做爱时间约为5分32秒，在四种血型中排第三。每年平均做爱约有180次，每隔1.91日就做一次。平均一生中约有6个性伴侣，同O型女人最为合拍。