... as i mature ...

I've laerned that you cannot make someone love you.

All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in.

I've learned that no matter how much I care,

some people are just assholes.

I've learned that it takes years to built trust,

and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.

After that, you'd better thave a big willy or huge boobs.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others -

they are more screwed up than you think.

I've learned that you can keep vomiting

long after you think you're finished.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do,

unless we are celebrities.

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy

a relationship is at first, the passion fades,

and there had better be a lot of money to take its place!

I've learned that 99% of the time when something

isn't working in your house, one of your kids did it.

I've learned that people you care most about in life

are taken from you too soon, and all the less important ones just never go away.

... healthy juices ...

+ +

carrot + ginger + apple

Boost and cleanse our system.

+ +

apple + cucumber + celery

Prevent cancer, reduce cholestrol, and improve stomach upset and headache.

+ +

tomato + carrot + apple

Improve skin complexion and bad breath.

+ +

cucumber + apple + milk

Avoid bad breath and reduce internal body heat.

+ +

orange + ginger + cucumber

Improve Skin texture and moisture and reduce body heat.

+ +

pineapple + apple + watermelon

To dispel excess salts, nourishes the bladder and kidney.

+ +

apple + cucumber + kiwi

To improve skin complexion.

+

pear + banana

To regulates sugar content.

+ + +

carrot + apple + pear + mango

Clear body heat, counteracts toxicity, decreased blood pressure and fight oxidization.

+ + +

honeydew + grape + watermelon + milk

Rich in vitamin C + Vitamin B2 that increase cell activity and strengthen body immunity.

+ +

payaya + pineapple + milk

Rich in vitamin C, E, Iron. Improve skin complexion and metabolism.

+ +

banana + pineapple + milk

Rich in vitamin with nutritious and prevent constipation.

... 我们怎麽了？...

一個人的容忍度到底能到什麽極限？爲何要這樣折磨彼此？一而再再而三的欺騙已經讓我不知該如何走下去了。。。是否真的該放棄了？ 放棄真的就會快樂嗎？？

... shuffle ~ good or bad? ...

After the CNY holidays, things in my office changes too.. it is like playing musical chair during my younger days..

People got promoted, followed by relocation and new recruitments.. some are surprised and unhappy for some.. speculations still goin on..

but do I care?? of course not lah.. it is never my style to care.. as long my superior Jasmine don't change I'm happy already.. though she always know I don't gossip about office politics..

personally I feel its good... at least those that are working long and hardworking is being appreciated...

Wonder if ever I will get promoted too?? HAHA...

... how to know if you are a Chinese ...

1. You unwrap gifts very carefully, so you can save and reuse the wrapping (and especially those ribbons).
2. When there is a sale on toilet paper, you buy 100 rolls and store them in your closet or in the bedroom of an adult child who has move out.
3. You keep a Thermos of hot water available at all times.
4. You save grocery bags, tin foil, and tin containers. You use the grocery bags to hold garbage.
5. You hate to waste food:a ) Even if you're totally full, if someone says they're going to throw away the leftovers on the table, you'll finish them. (Your mom will give a lecture about starving kids in Africa )b ) You have Tupperware in your fridge with three bites of rice or one leftover chicken wing.
6. You don't own any real Tupperware-only a cupboard full of used but carefully rinsed margarine tubs, take out containers, and jam jars.
7. You have a collection of miniature shampoo bottles that you take every time you stay in a hotel.
8. You wipe your plate and utensils or wash them in a small basin of hot water before you eat every time you go to a restaurant.
9. You own a rice cooker and a slow cooker.
10. You wash your rice at least 2-3 times before cooking it.
11. You fight (verbally) over who pays the dinner bill.
12. You have a teacup with a cover on it.
13. If you're under age 20, you own a really expensive walkman; if you're over 20, you own a really expensive camera.
14. You're a wok user.
15. You only make long distance calls after 7pm.
16. You prefer your shrimp with the heads and legs still attached-it means they're fresh.
17. You never call your parents just to say hi.
18. If you don't live at home, when your parents call, they'll ask if you've eaten, even if it's midnight.
19. Your parents tell you to boil herbs and stay inside when you get sick. They also tell you not to eat fried foods or baked goods because they're heaty ("yeet hay" in Cantonese).
20. You e-mail your Chinese friends at work, even though you only sit 10 feet apart.
21. You always cook too much.
22. You eat every last grain of rice in your bowl, but don't eat the last piece of food on the table.
23. You starve yourself before going to all-you-can-eat buffet.
24. You know someone who can get you a good deal on jewelry or electronics, computers.
25. You own your own meat cleaver and sharpen it.
26. Your toothpaste tubes are all squeezed paper-thin.
27. You know why this list consists of only "28" reasons.
28. You take this message and forward it to all your Chinese friends.

Here are four more indications that you need to add:

• *29. You wrap with napkins all the knives, spoons and forks of the airline that you fly on and put in your travel bag as souvenirs.
• *30. You never forget to take with you all the unused bath and facial tissues when you check out from the hotel because you believe that you have paid it all.
• *31. You will laugh at yourself when you read all of them.
• *32. And you will always feel proud because you're Chinese. If you are laughing, it means you agreed with all the points above!

... airplanes vs women ...

1) Airplanes usually kill you quickly - a woman takes her time.

2) Airplanes can be turned on by a flick of a switch.

3) Airplanes don't get mad if you do a "touch and go."

4) Airplanes don't object to a preflight inspection.

5) Airplanes come with manuals to explain their operation.

6) Airplanes have strict weight and balance limitations.

7) Airplanes can be flown any time of the month.

8) Airplanes don't come with in-laws.

9) Airplanes don't care about how many other airplanes you've flown before.

10) Airplanes and pilots both arrive at the same time.

11) Airplanes don't mind if you look at other airplanes.

12) Airplanes don't mind if you buy airplane magazines.

13) Airplanes expect to be tied down.

14) Airplanes don't comment on your piloting skills.

15) Airplanes don't whine unless something is really wrong.

16) However, when airplanes go quiet, just like women, it's usually not good.

... 轉向思考 ...

這是一本我覺得值得一讀的好書。

你是否是有讀序的人? (i think should be Preface?)

我從來是個會跳過讀序的一位讀者。但是，最近再度在臺灣作家吳淡如小姐的《1分鐘生命思考》接觸，我另有所領悟。

她在書裏提到一些簡單的轉向思考的遊戲，蠻令人有深一層的自我反省的作用。以下就是那些問題：

問題一∶ 如果你家附近有一家餐廳，東西又貴又難吃，服務生很不客氣，桌上還爬著蟑螂，你會因爲它很方便，因而一而再、再而三的光顧嗎？

解答∶

應該不會吧。你一定會說，這是什麼爛問題，誰那麼笨，花錢找罪受啊？如果你是個美食家，必然覺得這種蠢行爲不可原諒。

不過，讓我們換個角度來想，就會明白，自己或許做過類似的蠢事。不少男女都會抱怨過他們的情人或另一半：好賭酗酒、品行不端、三心二意、不負責任，既讓自己虛耗青春，付出許多代價，又縂不能尊守承諾，明知道在一起沒什麼太好的結局，未來不會比現在更幸福，恨已經比愛還多，但是卻[不知道爲什麽]還要和他攪和下去，分不了手，説穿了，只是爲了不甘，爲了習慣，這也不和光臨爛餐廳一樣？

問題二∶ 如果你不小心丟掉一百塊錢，只知道它好像丟在某個你走過的地方，你會花兩百塊錢的車費去把那一百塊錢找回來嗎？

解答：

這也是一個超級蠢問題，對不對？可是，相似的事情卻在人生中不斷發生。

做錯了一件事，明知自己有問題，卻死也不肯認錯，反而花加倍的時間來找藉口，讓別人對自己的印象大打折扣。

被人罵了一句話，卻花了無數時間難過，道理相同。

爲了一件事發火，不惜損人不利己，不惜血本不惜時間，只為報復，不也一樣無聊？ 失去一個人的感情，明知道一切亦無法挽回，卻還是那麽的傷心，一傷心就是好幾年，比談那個感情存續的時間還常一些，借酒消愁、行銷骨毀，一點用也沒有，只是損失更多。

問題三： 你會因爲打開報紙發現每天都有車禍，就不敢出門嗎？

解答：

當然不會，這叫因噎廢食。說得精確一點，應該説是別人噎到，自己就不敢吃飯。

然而，有不少人卻對我説：看到現在離婚率那麼高，我都不敢談戀愛了，說得還挺理所當然。也有不少女人看到有關外遇的諸多報道，就對自己的另一半憂心忡忡，不也是類似的反應？

所謂樂觀，就是得相信，雖然道路多艱險，我還是那個會平安過馬路的人；只要我小心一點，不必害怕過馬路。

問題四： 你相信，成功是很沒頭沒腦的，每個人隨便都可以成功立業嗎？

解答： 過分樂觀是一種蠢行，聰明的你必然會贊同，成功人士總是發現，每一次當有人要求給他一個建議，改變目前自己也不滿意的生活、別再一是無成，在聼完成功人士絞盡腦汁的How To 建議 （比如説，多讀書，多練習……) 之後，問了另外一個問題∶[那不是很難嗎？] 我們似乎都想三分鐘内學好英文，在五分鐘内解決所有難題。

難道，成功是那麽容易的嗎？改變當然都是難的。成功縂因不怕困難，所以才能出類拔萃。

成功不是隨便來，別人的錢也不好賺。深究起來，沒有人沒費過功夫，如果不是費過功夫，就是他的祖上曾經大費周章，都不是[不難]。我們實在不該抱怨困難。

問題五： 你認爲完全沒有打過籃球的人，可以當很好的籃球教練？

解答： 當然不可能，外行不可能領導内行。可是，有許多人，對某個行業完全不了解，只聽到那個行業好賺，就馬上開起業來了。穿著沒有品味，或根本不在乎穿著的人，夢想卻是開服裝店；從不知道電腦怎麽開機的人，就想在電子股上賺錢，結果道聽途説，賠了很多，卻從不反省自己是否是專業能力不足，只抱怨時不我予。

問題六： 相似但不相同的問題：你是否認為，籃球教練不上籃球場，閉者眼睛也可主導一場完美的勝利？

解答： 當然也不可能。可是不少人，完全沒時間管，卻也努力投資開咖啡館、開餐廳、開自己根本不懂的公司，急著把閑錢花掉，當合夥人。虧的比賺的多，卻也覺得自己運氣不好、交友不慎，不是想法不對。

問題七： 你寧可後悔，也不願意試一試自己是否能扭轉危機？

解答： 用這樣的語言邏輯問話，恐怕沒有人會說：[對，我就是這樣的歪种]吧。然而，我們卻常常在不該打退堂鼓時拼命的不該打退堂鼓，爲了恐懼失敗（萬一失敗了，別人會笑吧？我們總是這樣警告自己），而不敢嘗試成功，其實是划不來的。

問題八： 你有無限時間，長生不老，所以最想做的事，應該無限延期？

解答： 不，不，不！誰會說是呢？然而我們卻常說，或常聼說：等我老了，就要去環游世界；等我退休，就要去做我想做的事情；等孩子長大了，我就可以輕鬆了…… 我們都誤以為自己有無限時間與體力……

我們可以一步一步靠近夢想，不必等有空時再貼近它吧。現在如果就能一步一步靠近夢想與理想，我們就不會活了半天，成爲自己討厭的那種人……

... what happen?? and some updates lor...

Wondering what happen to me recently?? you bet huh..

Never been updating my moblog for a long long time.. well, just being plain lazy ba.. and my work is getting busier so no time to update.. hehe.. forgive me for that ok? furthermore, my youngest brother is back from his holidays.. so even less time to use the computer.. *sob sob*

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Well, I just returned from my trip to Sunway Lagoon. (well, its company trip) I must say its a nice place to enjoy if you love water.. and the hotel we stay is superb.. especially the bathroom! There's a bathtub and standing shower in one place!

Of course, I'm lousy when it comes to thrill rides as i puked after taking the 360 viking ship.. haiz.. if i had knew if was going at 360, give me a million dollars i wouldn't want to take it man! However, its still a enjoyable ride.. haha.. minus away my breakfast that is gone is minutes.. haha..

that's all for now folks! hope to do more blogging soon.. (when this computer is available and i'm in the mood ba.. hehe..)

again, this is cut & paste from moblog.. so its quite weird...

... how to be a better couple ...

10 steps to enjoying each other better...

1. Be realistic about each other

Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give your gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you're gonna have to do with what your guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.

2. Always talk things out

Now guys, I know this is not your favourite pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what you're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.

3. Do stuff together

Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in some shared activities; something both of you enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road . Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If you're spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's a warning sign that you're drifting apart!!!

4. Meet each other halfway

If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The Rock" print, you shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy... There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.

5.Show your love

Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if you have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.

6. Respect each other

Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.

7. Bury the past

Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your guy, it would just make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your gal feel un-happy and she might think that you saying all this because you are gonna get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore.

8. Sit on your jealousy

All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you're gonna go through your partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, you know something is wrong - with you!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.

9. Keep your commitments to each other

If your partner is standing u up all the time and canceling dates and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you're in a relationship, make your partner your priority and don't disappoint them if you can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to you, you may just lose him/her.

10. Be honest

Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When you're hurt, say so, and when you're angry, tell him/her, without getting hysterical. If you can't be honest with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!

... removing gallstones naturally ...

By Dr Lai Chiu-Nan

It has worked for many.

If it works for you please pass on the good news.

Chiu Nan is not charging for it, so we should make it free for everyone. Your reward is when someone, through your word of mouth, benefits from the regime. Gallstones may not be everyone's concern. But they should be because we all have them. Moreover, gallstones may lead to cancer."Canceris never the first illness," Chiu Nan points out. "Usually, there are a lot of other problems leading to cancer.

In my research in China, I came across some materials which say that people with cancer usually have stones. We all have gallstones. It's a matter of big or small, many or few.One of the symptoms of gallstones is a feeling of bloatedness after a heavy meal. You feel like you can't digest the food. If it gets more serious, you feel pain in the liver area." So if you think you have gallstones, Chiu Nan offers the following method to remove them naturally.The treatment is also good for those with a weak liver, because the liver and gall bladder are closely linked.

Regimen:

1. For the first five days, take four glasses of apple juice every day.Oreat four or five apples, whichever you prefer. Apple juice softens thegallstones. During the five days, eat normally.
2. On the sixth day, take no dinner.
3. At 6 PM, take a teaspoon of Epsom salt (magnesium sulphate) with aglassof warm water.
4. At 8 PM, repeat the same. Magnesium sulphate opens the gallbladderducts.
5. 5. At 10 PM, take half cup olive oil (or sesame oil) with half cup freshlemon juice. Mix it well and drink it. The oil lubricates the stones toeasetheir passage.

PS. 1 cup=250ml, half cup lemon juice=3 lemons (aprox.)

The next morning, you will find green stones in your stools. "Usually they float," Chiu Nan notes. "You might want to count them. I have had people who passes 40, 50 or up to 100 stones. Very many." "Even if you don't have any symptoms of gallstones, you still might have some. It's always good to give your gall bladder a clean-up now and then.

... an life for an life ...

What's the world coming to? Killing 2 lives only sentenced to life imprisonment??

Shouldn't it be death?

All because the case that was heard, in that country doesn’t have death sentence?

殺人償命！

Anyway, its about the Sydney murder case.. one of the victim happens to be my dad friend's son.. though his uncle says its fair but personally I don't think so.. that accused should be hang.. and make sure he go hell man..

I still remember that night when we heard the news and I went down with my dad to his friend's house to check on my dad's friend.. the moment when he saw my dad, he broke down in tears.. imagine a father, lost his son overnight and his son is going to finish his studies soon! Then after the incident, its drinking session often.. haiz.. my poor dad..

Wonder how is my dad's friend taking it after knowing the charge? Hope uncle Tay is fine..

... meaningful lines ...

• 不择手段的人，總是在贏得全世界之後，輸掉他自己。
• 人只有在最自然豁達、不卑不亢的情況下，才能演出正常，演出水準。
• 懂得生活之道的人，凡事但求盡心，而不強救擁有。
• 有些東西擁有不一定是幸福，失去也不一定是悲哀。
• 一個患得患失的人，永遠擺脫不掉得失的束縛。
• 顧忌太多的人， 往往會因爲自己那多慮的一念， 而失去本該及時掌握的機緣。
• 不計較個人得失的人， 才能在是非紛擾的生活中， 保留了皆大歡喜的空間。
• 不論我們對生活的態度是消極或是積極的， 我們都是歲月更迭、因緣聚散的旅客， 時間一到，便該下站，沒有人能賴著不走。
• 當你對一切得失都放下時，所有的煩惱才能船過水無痕。
• 智者知道人生如夢，故能來去瀟灑，無入而不自得。
• 修行就是修正自己的習性和行爲，進而學會放下一切，亦包括放下自己。
• 莫因擁用什麼而過於樂觀，也莫因失去什麼而過於悲觀，不管所擁有或失去的是什麼，它都如云煙一般，來去無蹤。
• 真正快樂的人，是能積極地追求自己的夢想，卻不會執著于得失。
• 勝敗乃兵家常事，每一個成功者的背後，都有無數次殘痛而可貴的經驗。
• 能安適自怡地享受[無事]的感覺，便是人間最大的清福。
• 人生的際遇不會全然美好，若能以平和的心境去面對一切衝擊，哪怕俯視不能自在。 真的平安來自于於一顆無愧的心。
• 得與失的距離，往往只有一步，就是在我們心念起伏的那一瞬間。
• 萬紫千紅總是春，各有因緣莫羡人。
• 人出生時，是握著一雙小拳頭；往生時，既是鬆開拳頭的。這一抓一放，正是繁華如夢，得失本空的最佳寫照。
• 有智慧的人，是不計一切的榮辱得失，順逆境對他而言，只是四季輪轉。
• 笑看繁華如朝露，隨緣放曠自在行。
• 放寬心懷，云淡風輕，人間處處盡是峰迴路轉。
• 對於生活中的得失榮辱無須掛懷，一切皆是因緣，不管是良緣、惡緣，皆是過客，猶如浮雲掠空，瞬息無蹤。
• 一個人在獨處時，仍無法放下一切，得到心境的平靜時，即使到了清幽如畫的桃花源，亦無法得到真正的寧靜。
• 許多人生活的愁容滿面，是因爲他們對某些該忘懷的事情[記憶猶新]，對某些該記住的事卻又[貴人多忘事]。
• 境界再美，亦如塵煙，飄渺難尋，智者靈台清明，自不會隨之起伏生念，妄增困擾。
• 今日的容顔老於昨日，今日的心情別於昨日，人想抓住永恒，不管是吹沙作飯，於無常中自添煩惱罷了。
• 人人俱是歲月如流中的過客，沿途的風光過眼即捨，徒增傷感。
• 一白遮百醜，一笑解千愁。
• 愛一個人，如果有了渴求回報的心，這份愛如同鋼刀，每一份用心都是苦，都是痛。
• 世事鏡中見，人情淡始長，只要心安理得，不必過於在意他人的肯定或否定。
• 所謂人比人，氣死人。聰明的人在面臨[比較] 的考驗時，當以平常心來應對，自能在不動肝火的情況下，消化別人的褒與貶。
• 首飾再美，只能裝飾外表，不能充實内涵。所以，與其花錢收藏裝飾品，不如花時間耕耘心田，讓自己多一份雋永的知識美。
• 愛一個人，要給對方自由，也給自己自由，這樣才不會愛得辛苦萬分。
• 抓不住的東西，強求無益，如何學習放下，放到無一切束縛掛罣時，身心自然柔軟，煩惱亦無由而生。

... 婚姻 ...

什麽叫浪漫？明知那個女孩兒不愛他，還送給她999朵玫瑰；

什麽叫浪費？明知那個女孩兒愛他，還送給她999朵玫瑰。

某青年作家定義浪漫與浪費

每個女人都有兩個版本：精裝本和平裝本。精裝本是給別人看的，平裝本是給家人與丈夫看的。

婚姻中的丈夫只是看到妻子的平裝本和別的女人的精裝本—這就是婚外戀的動機。

男士對婚外戀的動機作如是分析，實在是妙喻。

人類如鳥，有雙翼，一翼是男，一翼是女。

除非兩翼健壯並以共同的力量來推動它，否則，這只鳥不能飛向天空。

哲學家巴哈歐拉

婚姻是愛情的墳墓，但是如果不結婚，愛情就死無葬身之地。

在清華大學的BBS上有這樣一句經典愛情宣言

男人從不擔心他的未來，直到他找到一個妻子；

女人從不擔心她的未來，直到她找到一個丈夫。

青年女作家南鶯看男女關係

在真正幸福的婚姻中，友誼必須與愛情融合在一起。

法國作家莫洛亞論幸福婚姻

情如魚水是夫妻雙方最高的追求，

但是我們都容易犯一個錯誤，即縂認爲自己是水，而對方是魚。

BBS經典語錄

吃胃能消化的食物，娶自己能養活的女人。

一個男人長壽的秘訣

夫妻倆過日子要像一雙筷子：一是誰也離不開誰；二是什麽酸甜苦辣都能在一起嘗。

這種筷子只能是經久耐磨的象牙筷，而不是一次性方便筷

男人掏錢是情人關係；

女人掏錢是夫妻關係；

男女搶着掏錢是朋友關係。

餐廳服務員經驗實錄

女人面對愛情時比較笨，喜歡被人哄，而男人示愛，則越不顧自尊，越動人。

男女對愛情的表達各不相同

婚姻不是1 + 1 = 2，而是0.5 + 0.5 = 1。

即：兩個人各削去自己的個性和缺點，然後湊合在一起。

青年作家張弘的婚姻公式

愛情是一種腦力勞動，婚姻是一種體力勞動。

愛情仿佛橋牌，全靠算計；婚姻仿佛打麻將，全靠運氣。

愛情和婚姻有本質的不同

最完美的產品在廣告裏，最完美的人在悼詞裏，

最完美的愛情在小説裏，最完美的婚姻在夢境裏。

人人都希望完美，但這只能追求而不能指望

令人不能自拔的，除了牙齒還有愛情。

臺灣歌星齊秦愛情感言

高難度的愛情，是月色、詩歌、三十六万五千朵玫瑰，加上永恒；

高難度的婚姻，是賬簿、證書、三十六万五千次爭吵，加上忍耐；

高難度的人生，是以上兩者皆無。

朱德庸妙言愛情、婚姻、人生

在愛情中，有人“視死如歸”；在婚姻中，有人“視歸如死”。

相親是“經銷”，戀愛是“直銷”，徵婚是“招標”。

人的“喜新”最多最久只有30天，所以新婚燕尓就叫密“月”；人的忍耐最多只有30天，所以工作以“月”薪為准。

青年作家蔚子如此詮釋婚姻

過去，我總是要熬到半夜他才離去；

現在，我總是要熬到半夜他才回家。

經典版語錄

... say or don't say?? ...

Said Also Don't Listen Listen Also Don't Understand Don't Understand Also Don't Ask Ask Also Don't Do Do Also Do Wrong Wrong Also Don't Admit Admit Also Don't Correct Correct Also Not Happy Not Happy Also Don't Say

說了又不聼 聼了又不懂 不懂又不問 問了又不做 做了又做錯 錯了又不認 認了又不改 改了又不服 不服又不說

Think about it.

Sometimes, the above phrases just fit so well into our daily life... any types of situations... be it quarrels among couples, work conflicts or maybe just ourselves.. So, do we Say or DON'T Say??

... 真相或謊言？...

我們這一生聼過多少謊言？而又如何分辨真實與虛構？可能你也有玩過這遊戲叫“真心話大冒險”吧！輸了的人得選擇要講真心話或者接受一些“可怕”的處罰，所謂的大冒險。

但，如果輸的人選擇真心話，就真的會陶開心胸說真心話嗎？他/她的真心話可靠嗎？能相信嗎？還是他/她會用另一個謊言掩飾這真心話或情願守口如瓶而接受處罰？

從我們學會開始説話的那一刻，句句都是實話，沒半句假的嗎？哈哈，未必吧！想起童年的我們，可能爲了玩耍而撒謊說功課作完了。爲了要買玩具卻説拿零用錢是爲了要買參考書。

後來，踏入社會，可能爲了爬到最高點，需要活在從一個小謊言變成另外一個大謊言的世界裏。

結婚后，爲了要與情人共度春宵而用美麗的謊言欺騙枕邊人。

老了，爲了不要讓關心你的人擔心，用善意的謊言來掩飾自己的痛楚。

唉！人類就是如此。常常需要活在謊言中卻不肯醒來。。

... bad day at work ...

What is happening to me recently? I have never bothered by anybody or anything. Recently it seems otherwise.

I supposed to book air ticket for my boss and his family but I missed him out, only booked for his family. In the end, me and my travel agent got reprimanded by him. In the first place, he never specify clearly mah.. and my travel agent thought he wanted to redeem his points for it..

Due to this, my whole morning was spoiled by him.. even though I know its partly my fault also.. I even wanted so much to take leave tomorrow just to relax myself..

Last time, I only listened and then it will flow to the back of my mind and stayed there.. Now, I couldn't do it anymore. I will start to ponder what is really wrong with me? Is it really my fault?? Arrrgggghhh!!! I really hate myself..

... 給你的信 ...

为何事情又回到原点？当初你连解释都不愿给我。现在又是同样的情形。你口口聲聲說你會給我我要的，但我卻從來不曾感覺到。

這麽多年了，你難道就不想挽救這段感情嗎？我真的不曉得我們到底要如何走下去… 你讓我跌進愛情的旋渦，然後又眼睜睜地看我往下沉。我看不到你的援助，就連伸手的力氣也沒了嗎？

我該感謝你嗎？把我訓練成今天不聞不問，完全滿足你的我。我曉得愛情不該用天坪來衡量付出與回報，但我真的希望我的付出是值得的。

從今天起，你能給我你曾經許下的承諾嗎？別再讓我傷心失望好嗎？

... haze haze go away! ...

Around this time every year, we have to tolerate this kind of hazy weather.. people get sick over it..

Why can't humans over there just be more considerate?? Think of the millions people surrounding suffering from coughs, soar throats, dried eyes because of their traditional farming method. Only reason why they are doing this? Earn money.. isn't there a better solution to solve this??

Selfishness can kill! Glad that their government is doing something finally.. And for us, hopefully we have cleaner air to breathe after that..

... mooncake festival ...

Once again, its the mooncake festival again.. well, this year i would say i'm quite fortunate as i get to sample different mooncakes from different places.. like goodwood park hotel lah (nah, not the durian wan), bengawan solo, prima deli and not forgetting my friend who made durian mooncake!

Eat till i got scared man! To add on to the list, my brother bought those traditional teochew style mooncake which is like a big 豆沙饼.. but it is delicious! Also another slightly black coloured wan which is make of red bean too.. heard that the teochews have a lot of these kind of cakes or kuehs..

So i guess they are the one who make kuehs famous?? hehe..

*sigh sigh* time to loose weight again..

... the story of 8 monkeys ...

(this is reportedly based on an actual experiment conducted in the UK )

Put eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room is a ladder, leading to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling.

Each time a monkey tries to climb the ladder, all the monkeys are sprayed with ice water, which makes them miserable. Soon enough, whenever a monkeyattempts to climb the ladder, all of the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and beat him up.

Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempts to climb the ladder.

One of the original monkeys is then removed, and a new monkey is put in the room. Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wonders why none of the other monkeys are doing the obvious. But undaunted, he immediately begins to climb the ladder.

All the other monkeys fall upon him and beat him silly. He has no idea why. However, he no longer attempts to climb the ladder.

A second original monkey is removed and replaced. The newcomer again attempts to climb the ladder, but all the other monkeys hammer the crap out of him.

This includes the previous new monkey, who, grateful that he's not on the receiving end this time, participates in the beating because all the other monkeys are doing it. However, he has no idea why he's attacking the new monkey.

One by one, all the original monkeys are replaced. Eight new monkeys are nowin the room. None of them have ever been sprayed by ice water. None of them attempt to climb the ladder. All of them will enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tries, without having any idea why.

*..................and that is how most companies' policies get established.*

Sometimes, it feels like this at the workplace. Employees just do certain procedures because others are doing the same.... without knowing why they do them and whether what they have been doing all along can be improved or changed. They say its the policy. At times, it feels it's just the standard practices that have been passed down from employee to employee. Nothing else.