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... she's only 12yrs old! ...

2010-06-23T00:43:00.000+08:00

this 12years old girl is speaking like an adult.. it's such awesome speech that she gave.. something which inspired the adults! http://www.ted. com/talks/ lang/chi_ hant/adora_ svitak.html　

... space saving furintures..

2010-06-17T23:01:00.000+08:00

nowadays, houses are getting smaller and smaller.. so interior desigers are getting cleverer and cleverer.. below is one good example:

... 8 clues to happiness by khushwant singhh...

2010-05-14T19:51:00.001+08:00

1. First and foremost is GOOD HEALTH. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct from your happiness.

2. Second, a HEALTHY BANK BALANCE. It need not run into crores but should be enough to provide for creature comforts and something to spare for recreation, like eating out, going to the pictures, travelling or going on holidays on the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be only demoralizing. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one's own eyes.

3. Third, a HOME OF YOUR OWN. Rented premises can never give you the snug feeling of a nest which is yours for keeps that a home provides: if it has a garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, cultivate a sense of kinship with them.

4. Fourth, an UNDERSTANDING COMPANION, be it your spouse or a friend. If there are too many misunderstandings, they will rob you of your peace of mind. It is better to be divorced than to bicker all the time.

5. Fifth, LACK OF ENVY towards those who have done better than you in life; risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be very corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.

6. Sixth, DO NOT ALLOW OTHER PEOPLE to descend on you for gup-shup. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.

7. Seventh, CULTIVATE SOME HOBBIES which can bring you a sense of fulfilment, such as gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks or to meet celebrities is criminal waste of time.

8. Eighth, every morning and evening, devote 15 minutes to INTROSPECTION. In the morning, 10 minutes should be spent on stilling the mind and then five in listing things you have to do that day. In the evening, five minutes to still the mind again, and ten to go over what you had undertaken to do.

Nathaniel Cotton (1721-1788) summed up my views on the subject in one verse:

If solid happiness we prize

Within our breast this jewel lies

And they are fools who roam

The world has nothing to bestow

From our own selves our joys must flow

And that dear hut, our home.

... know your signature style!! ...

2010-04-06T23:20:00.001+08:00

SINGLE UNDERLINE BELOW THE SIGN !!

These persons are very confident and are good personalities. They are a little bit selfish but believe in "Happiness of human life".

TWO DOTS BELOW THE SIGN !!

These persons are considered to be Romantic, can easily change their fiancées as if they change their clothes. They prefer beauty in other persons & they themselves try to look beautiful, they easily attract others.

SINGLE DOT BELOW THE SIGN !!

These persons are more inclined towards classical arts, simple & are very cool. If you loose faith with them, then these persons will never look back at you. Hence its always better to be careful with these people.

NO UNDERLINES OR DOTS BELOW THE SIGN !!

These persons enjoy their life in their own way, never pay attention to others views. These are

considered to be good natured but are Selfish too.

RANDOM SIGN, NO SIMILARITY BETWEEN NAME & SIGN !!

These persons try to be very smart, hide each & every matter, never say anything in straight forward manner, never pay attention to the other person of what he is talking of.

RANDOM SIGN, SIMILARITY BETWEEN NAME & SIGN !!

These persons are considered to be intelligent but never think. These people change their ideas & views as fast as the wind changes its direction of flow. They never think whether that particular thing is right or wrong. You can win them just by flattering them.

These persons are very kind to us, have a good heart, selfless, are ready to sacrifice their life for the sake of their near & dear. But they seems to think a lot and may get angry very soon.

WRITING COMPLETE NAME AS THEIR SIGN !!

These persons are very kind hearted, can adjust themselves to any environment & to the person they are talking. These persons are very firm on their views & posses a lot of will power.

... 7 don't(s) after meals ...

2010-03-24T23:19:00.002+08:00

Don't smoke - Experiment from experts proves that smoking a cigarette after a meal is comparable to smoking 10 cigarettes. Chances of cancer is higher.

Don't eat fruits immediately - Immediately eating fruits after meals will cause s to mach to be bloated with air. Therefore take fruit 1-2 hr after meal or 1 hr before meal.

Don't drink tea - Because tea leaves contain a high content of acid. This substance will cause the Protein content in the food we consume to be hardened thus difficult to digest.

Don't loosen your belt - Loosening the belt after a meal will easily cause the intestine to be twisted & blocked.

Don't bathe - Bathing will cause the increase of blood flow to the hands, legs & body thus the amount of blood around the s to mach will therefore decrease. This will weaken the digestive system in our s to mach.

Don't walk about - People always say that after a meal walk a hundred steps and you will live till 99. In actual fact this is not true. Walking will cause the digestive system to be unable to absorb the nutrition from the food we intake.

Don't sleep immediately - The food we intake will not be able to digest properly. Thus will lead to gastric & infection in our intestine.

... health chart ...

2010-03-23T16:26:00.003+08:00

Apples ~ Protects your heart ~ Prevents constipation ~ Blocks diarrhea ~ Improves lung capacity ~ Cushions joints

Apricots ~ Combats cancer ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Saves your eyesight ~ Shields against Alzheimer's ~ Slows aging process

Artichokes ~ Aids digestion ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Protects your heart ~ Stabilizes blood sugar ~ Guards against liver disease

Avocados ~ Battles diabetes ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Helps to prevent strokes ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Smoothes skin

Bananas ~ Protects your heart ~ Quiets a cough ~ Strengthens bones ~ Controls blood pressure Blocks diarrhea

Beans ~ Prevents constipation ~ Helps hemorrhoids ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats cancer Stabilizes blood sugar

Beets ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Combats cancer ~ Strengthens bones ~ Protects your heart ~ Aids weight loss

Blueberries ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Stabilizes blood sugar ~ Boosts memory ~ Prevents constipation

Broccoli ~ Strengthens bones ~ Saves eyesight ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Controls blood pressure

Cabbage ~ Combats cancer ~ Prevents constipation ~ Promotes weight loss ~ Protects your heart ~ Helps hemorrhoids

Cantaloupe ~ Saves eyesight ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats cancer Supports immune system

Carrots ~ Saves eyesight ~ Protects your heart ~ Prevents constipation ~ Combats cancer ~ Promotes weight loss

Cauliflower ~ Protects against Prostate Cancer ~ Combats Breast Cancer ~ Strengthens bones ~ Banishes bruises ~ Guards against heart disease

Cherries ~ Protects your heart ~ Combats Cancer ~ Ends insomnia ~ Slows aging process ~ Shields against Alzheimer's

Chestnuts ~ Promotes weight loss ~ Protects your heart ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats Cancer ~ Controls blood pressure

Chili Peppers ~ Aids digestion ~ Soothes sore throat ~ Clears sinuses ~ Combats Cancer ~ Boosts immune system

Figs ~ Promotes weight loss ~ Helps to prevent strokes ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats Cancer ~ Controls blood pressure

Fish ~ Protects your heart ~ Boosts memory ~ Protects your heart ~ Combats Cancer ~ Supports immune system

Flax ~ Aids digestion ~ Battles diabetes ~ Protects your heart ~ Improves mental health ~ Boosts immune system

Garlic ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Combats cancer ~ Kills bacteria ~ Fights fungus

Grapefruit ~ Protects against heart attacks ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Helps to prevent strokes Combats Prostate Cancer ~ Lowers cholesterol

Grapes ~ Saves eyesight ~ Conquers kidney stones ~ Combats cancer ~ Enhances blood flow ~ Protects your heart

Green Tea ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Helps s to ps strokes ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Kills bacteria

Honey ~ Heals wounds ~ Aids digestion ~ Guards against ulcers ~ Increases energy ~ Fights allergies

Lemons ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Smoothes skin ~ Stops scurvy

Limes ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Smoothes skin ~ Stops scurvy

Mangoes ~ Combats cancer ~ Boosts memory ~ Regulates thyroid ~ Aids digestion ~ Shields against Alzheimer's

Mushrooms ~ Controls blood pressure ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Kills bacteria ~ Combats cancer Strengthens bones

Oats ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats cancer ~ Battles diabetes ~ Prevents constipation ~ Smoothes skin

Olive Oil ~ Protects your heart ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Combats cancer ~ Battles diabetes ~ Smoothes skin

Onions ~ Reduce risk of heart attack ~ Combats cancer ~ Kills bacteria ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Fights fungus

Oranges ~ Supports immune systems ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Straightens respiration

Peaches ~ Prevents constipation ~ Combats cancer ~ Helps prevent strokes ~ Aids digestion ~ Helps hemorrhoids

Peanuts ~ Protects against heart disease ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Combats Prostate Cancer ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Aggravates Diverticulitis

Pineapple ~ Strengthens bones ~ Relieves colds ~ Aids digestion ~ Dissolves warts ~ Blocks diarrhea

Prunes ~ Slows aging process ~ Prevents constipation ~ Boosts memory ~ Lowers cholesterol Protects against heart disease

Rice ~ Protects your heart ~ Battles diabetes ~ Conquers kidney stones ~ Combats cancer Helps prevent strokes

Strawberries ~ Combats cancer ~ Protects your heart ~ Boosts memory ~ Calms stress

Sweet Potatoes ~ Saves your eyesight ~ Lifts mood ~ Combats cancer ~ Strengthens bones

Tomatoes ~ Protects prostate ~ Combats cancer ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Protects your heart

Walnuts ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Combats cancer ~ Boosts memory ~ Lifts mood ~ Protects against heart disease

Water ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Combats cancer ~ Conquers kidney stones ~ Smoothes skin

Watermelon ~ Protects prostate ~ Promotes Weight loss ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Helps prevent strokes ~ Controls blood pressure

Wheat Germ ~ Combats Colon Cancer ~ Prevents constipation ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Helps stops strokes ~ Improves digestion

Wheat Bran ~ Combats Colon Cancer ~ Prevents constipation ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Helps prevent strokes ~ Improves digestion

Yogurt ~ Guards against ulcers ~ Strengthens bones ~ Lowers cholesterol ~ Supports immune systems ~ Aids digestion

... can water be affected by our words? ...

2010-03-10T01:51:00.009+08:00

Bible verse: Proverbs 18:21

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Can water be affected by our words? Dr. Masaru Emoto, a Japanese scientist, believes so. And he has proof.

Dr. Emoto took water droplets, exposed them to various words, music, and environments, and froze them for three hours. He then examined the crystal formations under a dark field microscope. And he took photographs.

The results were totally mind-blowing.

Here's a photo of ordinary water without any prayer spoken over it.

The molecular structure is in disarray.

The photo below is water after the prayer was said. It's simply breathtaking. (I now have a great respect for praying before meals! More on this later.)

Dr. Emoto also exposed water to Heavy Metal music. Here's how it looks like. Looks sad if you ask me.

Here's water exposed to classical music and folk dance music. Looks much better, right?

Next, Dr. Emoto stuck a piece of paper with these words: "You make me sick. I will kill you."

Here's how the frozen water droplets looks like under the microscope…

Below is how water looked like with the words "Love" over it. The difference is amazing.

This is Polluted water…

This is water from Lourdes , France . Utterly beautiful, right?

Wait A Minute— Aren't You Made Up Of Water? Yes! 72% of your body is made up of water. Imagine how your words affect your own body. When you say, "I'm a failure," or "I'm hopeless," or "I won't get well," imagine how these words weaken your health.

Make a choice to say the best words out there. Say often, "I'm wonderful," and "I'm beautiful,".

It's not only water.

Dr. Emoto also experimented with cooked rice. He placed one cup of cooked rice in two airtight jars. On one jar, he wrote, "I love you," and on the other, "You fool." Everyday for 30 days, Dr. Emoto would say these words to each jar of rice.

After 30 days, the "I love you" rice was still white. But the "You fool" rice was so rotten, it was black. How can you explain this?

Just as a side note: When I was a child, my mother taught me to pray before meals. Now I realize it wasn't just a nice thing to do. When I pray over my meal, I know a material transformation takes place in the molecular level of the food that I pray for. I say, "Be blessed," to the water and food on the table—and I expect it to be blessed.

Yeah – that's why we always wish others well on birthdays, anniversaries, graduation, festivals, examination days, etc…. BE BLESSED, everybody!!!

... how poor sleep can lead to weight gain ..

2010-03-09T00:14:00.000+08:00

(extracted from shopping lifestyle)

They don't call it beauty sleep for nothing. Recent scientific studies show a strong relationship between sleep deprivation and weight gain. Here are some of the findings:

Research finding #1:

Women who slept 5 hours or less a night gained more weight than those who slept for at least 7 hours a day.

Research finding #2:

People who sleep 2 to 4 hours a night are 73 percent more likely to be obese than those who get seven to nine hours.

Research finding #3:

People who slept less than 6 hours a night experienced an increase in their body mass index (BMI) more than those who slept 7 to 8 hours.

Research finding #4:

People who slept less than 8 hours a day had larger increases in body fat than those who slept more.

How sleep affects our bodies

"Lack of sleep disrupts every physiologic function in the body," says Eve Van Cauter, Ph.D., of the University of Chicago. In fact, sleep loss has such an adverse effect on our ability to metabolize sugar, she says, that in one week of severe sleep deprivation (such as four hours per night), an otherwise healthy person will be in a pre-diabetic state.

"One of the more interesting ideas that has been smoldering and is now gaining momentum is the appreciation of the fact that sleep and sleep disruption do remarkable things to the body ?including possibly influencing our weight," agrees David Rapoport, MD, associate professor and director of the Sleep Medicine Program at the New York University School of Medicine in New York City.

The reason: Sleep loss can reduce our bodies' capacity to perform basic metabolic functions such as regulating blood-sugar levels, storing carbohydrates and regulating hormone secretion. All of these major activities get out of whack when we're sleep-deprived. Not surprisingly, the balance of appetite-regulating hormones go haywire too so our normal cues for eating are altered.

Sometimes, an undiagnosed medical illness might also cause poor sleep habits, say the sleep experts. Someone with an underactive thyroid gland, for instance, will feel fatigued and gain weight. And someone who suffers from sleep apnea will wake up repeatedly during the night.

How sleep affects eating

Sleep researchers have found that sleep deprivation (even a mild case of inadequate sleep) quickly disrupts normal levels of the appetite-regulating hormones: Increasing the levels of a hunger hormone (ghrelin) while decreasing levels of a hormone that makes you feel full (leptin). The effects can set the stage for overeating and weight gain.

"It's amazing how much people's sleep is reflected in the hormones in their blood," says Emmanuel Mignot, a Howard Hughes Medical Institute investigator at Stanford University. Sleep-deprived people, he believes, eat more because they're hungrier, they're awake longer and may be tempted by foods everywhere they go."When you're sleep-deprived, you may overeat well in excess of the caloric demands, and, therefore, sleep loss is probably also a risk factor for weight gain and obesity," warns Van Cauter.

This could explain why when we're feeling fatigued, we don't always make healthy food choices: We eat junk food as a pick-me-up during the day when we're feeling sleepy, fail to stick to our healthy eating plan, and snack right before bedtime.

The bottom line? Most experts agree that logging in an extra couple of hours of sleep each night isn't a bad idea, especially if you're trying to lose weight and if you get six hours of sleep of less a night. You may just discover that you aren't as hungry or you don't crave high-calorie foods anymore.

... percy jackson & the lightning thief ...

2010-02-16T02:16:00.005+08:00

taking a break while studying (actually i have 'nua-ing' at home for the past few days liao), i went to catch a show with 2 friends at tiong bahru..

not sure why this CNY got no must-watch movie.. so 2 votes against 1 and we watched percy jackson and the lightning thief..

personally i never really fancy those movies like harry potter or lord of the ring (LOTR) types.. felt it's more suitable for kids/teens/youngsters (am i getting old??!!).. heard from my friends that there will be sequels for this show too..

i would say (STRICTLY my personal views) the effects were good (on par with harry and/or LOTR, i would say) and not a must watch show but if you have nothing to watch during this CNY (just like me).. you might want to consider this movie..

as usual, here's the trailer.. enjoy!!

... CNY & Valentine's Day ...

2010-02-14T14:55:00.000+08:00

according to the newspaper, it is very rare that Chinese New Year (CNY) and Valentine's Day falls on the same day..

since the 1900 till this year, there were only 4 times which these 2 festival met each other!! they fall on 1915 / 1934 / 1953 and of course this year.. (being bo liao, i went through online to search for the years)

it's so amazing and rare isn't it??

however, this year my family didn't celebrate as my grandma passed away last year.. according to some chinese belief, when there's a funeral (白事), you can't celebrate the first CNY which comes after that.. it's an taboo i guess.. of course, 另可信其有不可信其無; better safe than sorry right??

anyway, i'm also having my exam on friday (aka 6th day of CNY), so i got to prepare for it too.. this year really damn no good.. still got to prepare for exam.. but on a good side, i took 3 days leave to have a week's holiday!!

NO CNY & NO Valentine's Day make me a bored woman.. HaHa!!

... why we forward jokes? ...

2010-02-10T21:25:00.002+08:00

A man and his dog were walking along a road.

The man was enjoying the scenery, when it suddenly occurred to him that he was dead.

He remembered dying, and that the dog walking beside him had been dead for years.

He wondered where the road was leading them.

After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall along one side of the road. It looked like fine marble.

At the top of a long hill, it was broken by a tall arch that glowed in the sunlight.

When he was standing before it he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like mother-of-pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked like pure gold. He and the dog walked toward the gate, and as he got closer, he saw a man at a desk to one side.

When he was close enough, he called out, 'Excuse me, where are we?'

'This is Heaven, sir,' the man answered.

'Wow! Would you happen to have some water?' the man asked.

'Of course, sir. Come right in, and I'll have some ice water brought right up.'

The man gestured, and the gate began to open.

'Can my friend,' gesturing toward his dog, 'come in, too?' the traveler asked.

'I'm sorry, sir, but we don't accept pets.'

The man thought a moment and then turned back toward the road and continued the way he had been going with his dog.

After another long walk, and at the top of another long hill, he came to a dirt road leading through a farm gate that looked as if it had never been closed. There was no fence.

As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree and reading a book.

'Excuse me!' he called to the man.

'Do you have any water?'

'Yeah, sure, there's a pump over there, come on in.'

'How about my friend here?' the traveler gestured to the dog.

'There should be a bowl by the pump.'

They went through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old-fashioned hand pump with a bowl beside it.

The traveler filled the water bowl and took a long drink himself, then he gave some to the dog....

When they were full, he and the dog walked back toward the man who was standing by the tree.

'What do you call this place?' the traveler asked.

'This is Heaven,' he answered.

'Well, that's confusing,' the traveler said.

'The man down the road said that was Heaven, too.'

'Oh, you mean the place with the gold street and pearly gates? Nope. That's hell.'

'Doesn't it make you mad for them to use your name like that?'

'No, we're just happy that they screen out the folks who would leave their best friends behind.'

Soooo...

This explains why we forward jokes:

Sometimes, we wonder why friends keep forwarding jokes to us without writing a word.... Maybe this will explain.

When you are very busy, but still want to keep in touch, guess what you do? You forward jokes.

When you have nothing to say, but just want to keep in contact, you forward jokes.

When you have something to say, but don't know what, and don't know how, you forward jokes.

Also to let you know that you are still remembered, you are still important, you are still loved, you are still cared for, guess what you get?

A forwarded joke.

So, next time if you get a joke, don't think that you've been sent just another forwarded joke, but that you've been thought of today, and your friend on the other end of your computer wanted to send you a smile.

You are all welcome @ my water bowl anytime!

... prawning ...

2010-02-06T03:22:00.004+08:00

wow! didn't get to go this type of place in singapore..

my xiaodi brought me to a unique place tonight.. it's one of those pond where you catches prawns.. what he call it prawning (derive from fishing?).. well, the prawns are of acceptable sizes.. and you have a choice to either you bring them home or barbecue it on the spot and eat it.. simple utilities like BBQ pit, charcoal, sambal, satay sticks are provided..

anyway, many people go there and i tell you the place is just another hang out place with family, friend, lovers, etc.. 有山有水, music, able to see people, drinks and food..

this place is somewhere near bishan (is it street 22?) close to comfort don't know what.. it is just beside natural park golf driving range..

try it out next time if you run out of hang/hide out..

by the way, the charges are as follows:

per fishing (guess prawn is more appropriate) rod per hour S$15 / 2 hrs $25 (not too sure about this) / 3 hrs $30

... death note ...

2010-02-04T04:03:00.002+08:00

i should really jotted this down before i start forgetting again.. LOL.. i was talking to my xiaodi on tue (2/2/10) regarding the movie death note..

are you caught in a situation where you really wish some bad guys or sick old people will die 'naturally'? of course not murdered lah!! it's just died the way or another that we wished that person would die..

too bad we're not the angel and/or demon who could help these people..

however, what happens if we have a death note? will we change (or rather 'rule'?) the world?? then we could 'design' death in the most innovative way we want it.. be it cruelly or britually.. haha..

letting the bad guys died the most horrible ways (well saw movies are nothing then!) and those goody good old aunties and uncles died the way they wished..

my xiaodi has got worse imagination.. let those who die to disappear in thin air.. no corpose to collect, no coffin to hold the body, no funerals to run, no death anniversary to pray to.. how nice would that be..

what's your view??

... coca cola CEO speech (30 seconds) ...

2010-02-01T21:42:00.002+08:00

VERY SHORT, MOST EFFECTIVE AND HOW TRUE...

30 Second Speech by Bryan Dyson (CEO of Coca Cola)

"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air.

You name them - Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you're keeping all of these in the Air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it."

WORK EFFICIENTLY DURING OFFICE HOURS AND LEAVE ON TIME. GIVE THE REQUIRED TIME TO YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS & HAVE PROPER REST.

... phases of being employed ...

2010-01-29T12:10:00.002+08:00

Phase 1

You are listening to jazz -- Your first day at work is great. Your fellow co-workers are wonderful, your office is cute, you love your supervisors, and your manager is the best!

Phase 2

You are listening to pop music -- After a while you are so busy that you are not sure if you're coming or going anymore.

Phase 3

You are listening to heavy metal -- This is what you feel like after ONE month.

Phase 4

You are listening to hip hop -- You become bloated due to stress, you're gaining weight due to lack of exercise because you are so tired and have so much work to do and, when you do get home, you feel sluggish and suffer from constipation. Your fellow co-workers are too cheerful for your liking, your supervisors don't understand a word you say and the walls of your cubicle are closing in.

Phase 5

You are listening to GANGSTA RAP -- After more time passes, your eyes start to twitch and you forget what a 'good hair day' feels like as you just fall out of bed and load up on caffeine.

Phase 6

You are listening to the voices in your head --You wonder WHY you are even here in the first place.

... no need to shout ...

2010-01-07T20:59:00.004+08:00

One day, a professor asked his students, 'Why do we SHOUT instead of speak when we are ANGRY?' All the students thought for a while. One answered, 'Because we lost our cool. That's why we SHOUT.' Asked the professor again, 'But the person is just right next to you, why can't we talk softly but have to SHOUT?' Everyone gave their opinions but none was accepted by the professor. Finally, the professor explained, 'When we are ANGRY, our hearts drift apart. To mask the DISTANCE we felt, we instinctively SHOUT instead of speak so the other party can hear us.'

'But as we SHOUT, we get ANGRIER. And we felt we drift apart further. So we SHOUT even louder...' 'It is the opposite when we are in love. Not only we do not shout, we whisper into each other ears. Why?' 'This is because our hearts are very close, almost never apart. As our love deepens, we reach a state of communication where there is no need for words.' 'We understand each other well enough just by exchanging look.' concluded the professor.

'Therefore, when we are arguing, DO NOT speak words that will make our hearts drift apart. WAIT a few days. When you feel your hearts are no longer far apart, pick up the conversation and continue from there.'

... last day of 2009 ...

2010-01-01T10:56:00.005+08:00

the usual practise when the year ends.. newspaper would report what had happened during this one year.. do you remember your own major events for the past 1 year???

i had my own experience too.. number one which is a unforgettable one.. the surprise news i had 2 days ago..

number two would be my grandma's demise in march.. three?? hmm, i had gone back to bowling but stopped again due to my poor thumb that was accidently 'crushed'?

still we move on..

being the last day of the year, i met up with my best friend..

we went to anchorpoint for some shopping first.. fruitful i would say.. she bought a t-shirt from cotton on while i got myself a pair of heels from charles & keith.. then we proceed to holland village for dinner..

we wanted to try this cafe call mykii featured by hungrygowhere website.. as one of the comment that said "A good chillout that you truly deserve!"

upon our arrival, we didn't step in.. yes, went all the way there hor??

anyway, reason was, we were too cascually dressed and we both feel we kind of feel out of place if we were to enter the cafe..

i was in t-shirt, jeans and slippers and my dear friend was in blouse, bermudas and slipper.. from the outside the place looked kind of 'mid-class atas'.. so we decided to change venue..

as we had our tea time at 5.30pm so we weren't that hungry too.. so wanted to find the ice cream cafe that another friend recommend call daily scoopz.. however, it was nowhere to be found.. (located at chip bee garden??? where exactly har??)

in the end, we went to N.Y.D.C cafe instead.. out of surprise, both of us didn't try this old time cafe at all!! what a conincidence.. we shared a pasta and their famous mud pie (ours was cookie monster).. looked more like a ice cream cake to us.. sorry folks no pictures to show as i'm not a food-picture-taking manic.. haha..

we chatted which we were wondering earlier.. talking over the phone almost everyday and do we still have anything to chat about??? well, we did! as N.Y.D.C closed at 11pm so we proceed home as we wanted to avoid the countdown crowd also (she's pregnant BTW)..

yes, on the eve of new year.. well, nothing special too.. however, we were lucky as we managed to see part of the fireworks at the marina on the bus..

that's my new year's eve countdown..

of course, got some new year sms from friends also.. one of them is my classmate which i find it meaningful.. share it with you if you didn't get it from me:

新年快樂　^_^

曾經擁有的不要　《忘記》

屬於自己的不要　《放棄》

辛苦得來的更要　《珍惜》

已經失去的當作　《回憶》

走過的路已成　　《过去》

願你的未來一切都能　《隨心所欲》…

祝你新年快樂；心想事成 !

... my darkest day ...

2009-12-30T22:55:00.001+08:00

i was knocked by a real shocking new last evening.. a bad news to me.. after reading the email that my GM send to us at 5.46pm..

my wonderful superior cum buddy.. closest colleague i had is leaving!! nobody knew what happened.. it came as a surprise (especially when me + 2 other colleagues got it 'fresh' from the oven).. as the email was only send slightly after most of us left it didn't create much commotion in the office..

lost my mood all of a sudden when i'm on my way to meet my 老大, francis.. later in the night, my GM also send me an sms informing about the news.. one colleague called me to check what is happening too..

what a evening..

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morning came.. i knew some commotion will happen after that.. everyone entered the office.. well, everyone looked alright.. or are they looking to hide the sad news inside them??

my superior came in later in the morning.. she greeted everyone as usual.. she looked as per normal too..

i was alright when she stepped in.. though my mood was already affected since last evening.. soon, i realized i was trying so hard to put on a smile and even had to breathe in hard each time the phone rang.. just to put on my brave front so nobody would knew i'm so affected..

i was also trying to avoid entering her room this morning which i always did.. catch up things wit her.. but not today.. as i knew i would be very very emotional afterwards..

yes, and i did.. when i need her to sign some invoices and the farewell lunch petty cash voucher we intended for another colleague of ours.. her last day is today too as her contract expired..

i tried to enquire about her side of the story but i couldn't hold it anymore.. i left her room crying withing minutes.. she told me we'll talk later..

lunch time came.. i refused to go into the conference room.. everyone was happily laughing away.. i don't blame them.. maybe they are trying very hard to hold that sad part of their emotion in them too..

furthermore, i wasn't hungry as i had 4 slices of sandwich in the morning already.. plus i really got no mood to eat.. then i was asked to go in.. trying damn hard and refused to look at my superior.. she still the same.. smiling away.. cracked some jokes but i knew my laughter wasn't genuine..

clock ticking away and i knew soon i got to bid her goodbye.. finally we had a short talk after lunch.. knew her side of the story.. it was a real surprise.. it was anticipated but didn't expected it would come at this time.. then we both sobbed.. my tears were flowing non-stop when she said: "if there's a chance, i hope to work together with you again" yes yes!! i would hope the same that someday, somewhere she will be my manager again..

later in the afternoon, my financial controller (aka FC) asked me to go to his room.. i knew he had some explanation for me.. and IT manager was around too.. my FC was expecting i would be the first to ask him questions pertaining to the earlier announcement.. but where do you want me to start??? all the whys and hows were no more of any significance right?? decision is already made..

tears flowed again when i told him of course i'm the most affected as the person leaving is my superior and she's also the one who brought me into this company.. never did i thought i would cried in front of my colleagues..

well, i know it's going to take awhile to get over this and i had to move on.... just hope the new year would be a good time to get over it and start my new life.. without my HR & Admin manager..

... another ordinary day ...

2009-12-26T13:50:00.004+08:00

today, reminds me of the song sang by phil collins "another day in paradise".. of course, i'm not in paradise yet.. it's another normal saturday..

ok, this post is going to be bored.. haha..

my family came back from vacation last night.. tell u man, didn't know my handsome little brother got so much things!!!!!!! there were 6 huge, big luggage plus 3 hand carry bags.. of course, 3 of the bags contained souvenirs.. also food stuffs.. (i saw maggi mee?!?!)

my sisters are busy unpacking now and i'm so bored doing nothing.. nowhere to go as no one date me.. can't sleep when it's raining at my place right now.. arrghhh!! suddenly i feel like i really have no life.. haha..

tonight, my little brother will then come back for good.. finally after 2 years.. time pass so fast!! even he had completed his degree already.. now i'm the only one left that is still studying..

heard my sis said he had slimmed down and now fitter liao.. wow!! wonder how he looked like now..

... old dogs ...

2009-12-25T01:53:00.007+08:00

went to kallang leisure park to meet my xiaodi (aka bai ka now ~ he just had an accident) and his girl friends and her friends.. he knew i got no dinner as i'm home alone so jio-ed me for dinner lor..

had KFC for dinner (what a xmas eve dinner hor?!) and got no where to go, so they suggested catching a show..

in the end, we watched "old dogs" over "princess and the frog" ~ heng didn't watch princess as i don't really like that story.. hee..

wah, the movie "old dogs" it damn hilarious!! xiaodi was laughing so loud non-stop at certain point that i was so worried he get choked.. haha..

it's a must watch, i must say!! here's the "sneak preview" for your viewing pleasure!

oh ya, by the way it's christmas and i'm so blur that thought parking is gonna be expensive as i thought it's saturday's rate today.. then remember it's weekday.. haha..

lastly, a merry xmas to my readers here!! jingle bells, jingle bells, jingle all the way!! and let's welcome 2010 in a week's time!! :D

... am i really popular?! ...

2009-12-23T01:12:00.004+08:00

am i really that popular? how come everyone in the office asked if i'm going to the company dinner?

to be honest, i don't feel like attending as the venue is at red dot and i've been there a few times already..

when my GM asked if i'm going he even 'suan' me saying if i'm still working for the company.. nowadays, i don't joined any gathering already..

it's only last saturday and the later dinner mah.. haiz.. and i got valid reasons why i can't go.. last saturday was because i got to rush my coursework that is due earlier.. and tomorrow i'm going shopping in JB; and not sure what time i'm coming back..

rather than promised but didn't go right? haha..

... copied piece ~ vote in the next election ...

2009-12-21T02:34:00.002+08:00

got this interesting piece from my friend.. traced the source and it's actually written by a blogger.. i'm not revealing his nickname and title of this entry has also been changed to protect his identity.. he's quite a young chap though and i would have to say: "i agreed!".. read it!

P/S: As you finished reading, he had taken down the post from his blog.. so, risk my life, i shall fully 'copy & paste this in my blog instead.. don't be surprised that soon i may be asked to remove this entry too..

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That so many Singaporeans behave like sheep and recite the prescribed mantra all the time about our government (namely, that we owe it all tothem) really only reveals the plight of our people. Not only are Singaporeans amongst the lowest earners in the developed world in monetary terms, they are also almost definitely the poorest in the faculty to think for themselves, as a result of the education system.

Now that I am of age to vote, I am unable to vote for the PAP in the coming election because there is such an urgent need to send across astrong signal through their very thick skulls that there is a problemin the way it's running this country. I am not a member of the Opposition, and I do not want the Opposition to take over this country, but because there will always be too many sheep in Singapore anyway, we need every vote FOR the Opposition just to manage to produce a dent in the PAP's smugly expected results. There will always be the apathetic, the boot-lickers, the cowardly, and the ignorant to ensure they win eventually anyway.

The difference we can make, however, is how much it wins by. Perhaps if it loses a GRC or two (and the GRC is a PAP invention), they will shake off their slumber and start ruling Singapore as a Republic, that is, for the public, for the People (rather than for personal interests).

Remember how LKY said he will send in the army if there ever is a "freak election" and the PAP is voted out of Parliament? In every other country, when the people vote out the ruling party, it is called a mandate. It is only in Singapore that such a vote is called a "freak election". Also,whose Army is it anyway? Is it the Army of the people of Singapore - who have just voted out the PAP? Or is it the Army of the PAP?

I list here ten out of the many other reasons why I am unable to votefor the PAP:

1. I will not render unto Caesar what is not Caesar's

Given that Singapore's poor are amongst the Developed World's poorest, while living standards are amongst the highest in the world, it is not difficult to see why the Government's ridiculous salaries are distastefully inflated.

The President earns $3.9 million, the PM $3.8 million, the MM and SM$3.5 million each, all other ministers between $2 to $3.2 million and allministers of state between $1.5 to $1.8 million. These salaries do not include MP allowances, pensions and other sources of income such as Directorship, Chairmanship, Advisory, Consultancy, etc to government-linked and government-related organisations or foreign MNCs, etc. And why are they allowed to work for foreign corporations in the first place? Weren't their ridiculously-high salaries justified with the excuse that it'll be THIS excessive precisely so that they will focus on doing their ministerial jobs? Where is the check and balance in this government?

How much do you earn in a year?

In contrast, President Obama earns a more reasonable US$400,000, with US$50,000 expenses. Our most junior ministers are paid more than twice of what the most powerful man in the world gets! Hong Kong, with the same scarcity of resources as Singapore, half the developable land area, but with double the economic success, only pays its Chief Executive Donald Tsang HK$371,885 (US$47, 678). That is good enough to show that the PAP rhetoric about their pay cheques is plain rubbish (incidentally, "rubbish" is one of LKY's favourite words).

Adding to that, it had the cheek to raise its own salary right before a GST hike in 2003 and 2004. GST was raised again in 2007 to 7% from the original 3%. And of course, the PAP salaries have been rising accordingly as well.

It claims it needs to be paid similar to the private sector, but this is the public sector for a reason - you choose to work in the government to serve the country, not your pockets. Arguing that "talents" need this monetary incentive to join the government only goes to show what kind of people are being attracted - greedy, selfish, money-minded elites whosee the Civil Service as nothing but a more glamorous avenue to the big bucks since their main reason for serving is not for the good of the country, but for money.

I cannot vote for a government that decides its own ridiculous salaries DESPITE a very strong public opinion against it.

2. Incompetence

Despite paying astronomic salaries to these patron saints of Singapore, there is much to be desired from their performance. Surely, if we arepaying the highest government salaries in the world, it is not unreasonable to simply expect these people to do their job. The recent Bukit Timah Floodings, however, is a case in point showing why this expectation may be misplaced.

Environment Minister Yaacob Ibrahim said that the government knew the diversion canal was not big enough to take the rain waters. He claimed that because this sort of "freak events" occur only once every 50 years, there was nothing the government could do about it. The Bukit Timah Canal was constructed in 1972, almost 40 years ago - about time something that happens "once every 50 years" would occur. Additionally, meteorologists reported that 'this flood comes three years after one of Singapore's worst floodings in recent history, in December 2006'. 50 years indeed. But alas, our $2.8 million/year Minister was unable to foresee such a simple thing - even while knowing the canal was not big enough! Well, the PUB is planning to work on expanding it now - pretty late or early (depending on where in Singapore you live), since the next time we really need it will be 50 years from now, according to the Minister.

3. Double standards

It is a well-known fact that GIC and Temasek Holdings, Singapore's two sovereign wealth funds, are both headed by members of the Lee family. Both have reported a ridiculous loss of $41.6 Billion and $39.91 Billion respective and have yet to answer to the real stakeholders - Singaporeans - on how this could have happened. No one has taken responsibility or issued explanations or anything at all. In fact, the state media has been glaringly silent on the issue. Why aren't we Singaporeans hearing anything about our money?

"When we invest, we invest for the long-term", Lee Kuan Yew, who heads GIC, said when Temasek Holdings purchased Bank of America shares and then sold it off a few months later, losing between US$2.3 to US$4.6 billion just like that.

That is more than $80 Billion in total from the blood and sweat of Singaporeans, down the drain because of bad decisions made by individuals whose multi-million dollar pay cheques remain secure no matter how many mistakes they make. In contrast, the Resilience Package tapped into Singapore's official reserves to withdraw $4.9 billion, and that effort to help Singaporeans in genuine need required hours and hours of debate.

While we should rightfully acknowledge the good that the PAP has done for Singapore, it is often taken for granted that Singaporeans believe a blatant lie that the country's affluence is owed to the PAP and Lee Kuan Yew's efforts. No, it came from the efforts of all Singaporeans. Hong Kong did not have a strongman like Lee Kuan Yew to dictate their lives from toilet habits to whether they could hear their own dialect on TV, and yet they have achieved double of what we have - and their people are involved in the political process, not dead and apathetic like our population. There is absolutely no reason to believe that Singapore, with itsstrategic location and hardworking population, would not have reachedits present affluence under a less money-minded David Marshall or someoneelse.

Moreover, the oft-used justification for the lofty salaries of the government is that the private sector pays its leaders similar salaries. Well, in the private sector, there is such a thing as accountability. Where is Temasek Holdings' accountability? Where is GIC's accountability? Where was Wong Kan Seng's accountability when his Ministry slipped uptime and time again? Where is Yaacob Ibrahim's accountability? What exactlyhappens when a minister makes a mistake in Singapore? Where is the Fourth Estate to play its role as a watchdog?

4. Blatant lies

We are probably the only country in the world that has its MPs blatantly lie in Parliament and yet achieve high rankings on corruptibility. Anyone remember the mention of White Horses in Parliament? Practically every NSF knows that there is such a thing as White Horses, yet right there in Parliament, an affront to the ideals of democracy, transparency and integrity in this country, our leaders lied to its people. If it can do that once, it could have done it before, and it can do it again. What is the point of wearing white, trying to look pure, if you are a liar?

I cannot vote for such blatant liars to be my leaders - especially whenthey lie about such things NOT for the good of the country, but for their own interests, for the unfairly selective comfort of their own children at the very expense of the equality this country was founded upon.

The media in Singapore is entirely controlled via Singapore Press Holdings, headed by a former PAP minister, Dr Tony Tan. Masquerading as an independent paper, the Straits Times, while not necessarily fabricating facts on its own (at least I hope not), blatantly twists them. For example (extracted from here), the media was full of praise of Temasek CEO Ho Ching for earning a few million dollars on paper, but failed to highlight her disastrous investment decisions such as buying the shares of Barclays bank at a high and selling them at a low a few months later.

The Straits Times credited the Singapore Internal Security Department for providing the crucial "intelligence" which led to the capture of escaped terrorist Mas Selamat Kasteri by the Malaysian Special Branch. It turned out that the operation was part of a joint collaboration by the Malaysian, Singapore and Indonesian police and the Singapore ISD actually played only a minor role in the capture of Mas Selamat, but the Straits Times did not mention this to give the public the full picture, choosing rather to mislead Singaporeans into believing that ISD had indeed "redeemed"itself.

Without a free press in Singapore, Singaporeans are robbed of access toreal and accurate news that does not include propaganda and spins that mislead. They are robbed of a crucial check and balance in the form of the Fourth Estate that acts as a watchdog to ensure the government is doing its job. In the end, it is Singaporeans who stand to lose.

5. Operation Coldstore and the 1963 General Elections

The 1963 Singapore General Elections was the toughest and most criticalthe PAP ever faced. It had already suffered two by-election defeats and the number of seats it held was 26 - holding a majority by just one seat. On 2 February 1963, just a few months before the elections, Operation Coldstore was launched and more than a hundred people were arrested and detained without trial, including the Secretary-General and other keymembers of the Barisan Sosialis, the PAP's biggest threat.

Despite the heavy blow, which was an obvious attempt to undermine the Barisan Sosialis' success at the Elections, they won 33.2% of the popular vote and the PAP took 46.9%. What do you think the PAP would have gotten if it hadn't carried out Operation Coldstore?

And why do Singaporeans not know about such an important aspect of their national history?

6. Lim Chin Siong

Lim Chin Siong was recruited into the PAP by Lee Kuan Yew in 1954, and his immense popularity amongst the Chinese won a large amount of support for the PAP. When Lim Chin Siong was arrested by the British in 1955 foranti-colonial activities, the PAP promised the electorate to release him if they were elected, in order to gain votes.

At the age of 22, Lim Chin Siong was elected into the LegislativeAssembly, and he was so popular among the people that Lee Kuan Yew wasprompted to promise that he would be 'our future Prime Minister' (guesswho became PM instead?).

However, he soon grew disillusioned with the PAP and left to form the Barisan Sosialis in 1961. Under the pretext of being a communist, he was detained without trial under Operation Coldstore for SIX YEARS until hewas forced to renounce politics and went into exile in 1969. Up til ltoday, there is no evidence at all that he was ever a communist. It wassimply used it as an excuse to eliminate him from the precarious 1963 General Elections. Imagine being removed from your family, being lockedup for 6 years, NEVER given a trial, and then thrown out of the country, all because you are popular and the government fears you?

Lee Kuan Yew himself said of him "I liked and respected him for his simple lifestyle and his selflessness. He did not seek financial gain or political glory. He was totally committed to the advancement of his cause". This was the kind of men who sincerely fought with their lives for the good of the country. And they were persecuted and crushed by the PAP in order to snatch power. Contrast the lives of such men with the kind of PAP MPs we have today.

[13th Dec '09 - Edit: Click here to read about Operation Spectrum, launched in 1987 under that terrible ISA again. Over 20 people were detained without trial under the accusation of a Marxist conspiracy. After being released a few months later, they repudiated their earlier confessions, alleged ill-treatment by ISD officers while in detention, and were arrested the very next day (how come this sort of efficiency islacking with real threats like Mas Selamat?). Ten days later, the government announced that a proposed commission of inquiry into the allegations made by the detainees was no longer necessary as the signatories have since recanted their statement while in detention. Hmm, I wonder why.

Excerpt from their statement:"...we were subjected to harsh and intensive interrogation, deprived of sleep and rest, some of us for as long as 70 hours insides freezing cold rooms. All of us were stripped of our personal clothing, including spectacles, footwear and underwear and made to change into prisoners' uniforms.

Most of us were made to stand continually during interrogation, some of us for over 20 hours and under the full blast of air-conditioning turned to a very low temperature.

Under these conditions, one of us was repeatedly doused with cold water during interrogation.

Most of us were hit hard in the face, some of us for not less than 50 times, while others were assaulted on other parts of the body, during the first three days of interrogation.

We were threatened with more physical abuse during interrogation.

We were threatened with arrests, assault and battery of our spouses, loved ones and friends. We were threatened with INDEFINITE detention without trial. Chia Thye Poh, who is still in detention after twenty years, was cited as an example. We were told that no one could help us unless we "cooperated" with the ISD.

These threats were constantly on our minds during the time we wrote our respective "statements" in detention.

We were actively discouraged from engaging legal counsel and advised to discharge our lawyers and against taking legal action (including making representations to the ISA Advisory Board) so as not to jeopardise our chances of release.

We were compelled to appear on television and warned that our release would depend on our performances on tv. We were coerced to make statements such as "I am Marxist-inclined..."; "My ideal society is a classless society..." ; " so-and-so is my mentor..."; "I was made use of by so-and-so..." in order to incriminate ourselves and other detainees."

This is another reason why I will not be able to vote for the PAP. I cannot bring myself to support such a brutal and callous government which treats its people as such. And I cannot support its continued use of the ISA in Singapore, in spite of its usefulness in handling terrorists (who is the real terrorist here?), because time and again, history has shown that it is innocent Singaporeans who will suffer most from such a law that allows the government to conveniently eliminate all threats to itself - not the nation - without trial, without evidence, without accountability of any kind.]

7. Singaporean students need to learn a fair and accurate history inschool

The fact that practically no young Singaporean knows about important people like Lim Chin Siong, or even David Marshall, our first Chief Minister, is testament to the spectacular failure of our education system. All they ever learn about our country's history is LKY and Raffles, LKY and Raffles, LKY and Raffles, and maybe a bit about the War. No wonder our students find history boring. No wonder our students do not feel attached to this country because their knowledge of its history is so shallow.

Why has MOE removed the important bits of Singapore's history from school books? The bits about Operation Coldstore (and the realities behind it), the historic Anson by-election, the real founder of the PAP (who,by the way, is not surnamed Lee), our ex-President Devan Nair, Ong Teng Cheong's request - which was never granted to the day he died - to be given a list of Singapore's reserves (because as President he needed toknow what he is protecting, since the President's role is to be Protector of the Reserves - and did you know that the President's role is that, by the way?), etc. Why are Singaporeans being robbed of their history and then accused of being apathetic?

8. Traumatic MP-experiences and MPs who fear death by The Chair

The kind of PAP MPs that Singapore is ruled by today is a worthy cause for Trauma.

In short, a married couple went to see their MP because their eldest son recently passed away from a naval accident while serving NS. Theyexplained that their younger son will be serving his NS soon and requested for an exemption because of what had just happened. They said that it's been a traumatic time for them. And the MP replied "What traumatic? After two months, you won't be traumatic".

As if insensitive MPs are not enough, the PAP is fielding hyper-sensitive wimps behind the shadows with their GRC Trick.

The GRC, by the way, was invented by the PAP. The fact that it engages in gerrymandering (drawing up election borders in its favour) goes to show the extent it is willing to go just to stay in power. The GRC is also unfair because constituents are forced to vote into Parliament men and women they do not really want to have. This whole system, however, was implemented without asking Singaporeans, of course. The PAP decided it wanted to have the GRCs, and it passed the law to have the GRCs. No say from the people at all. Is this democracy? Is gerrymandering for the good of the people?

With such people ruling the country, it is honestly difficult to believe we are in good hands. Contrasted against the lives of men such as Lim Chin Siong, it is hard to rule out the severe suspicion that the MPs we have today are joining the Government for personal interest, not the nation's.

9. Money. Of course it's all about money

Singapore claims it pays its ministers astronomical salaries because "talents" need to be attracted from the private sector - this is simply saying that our ministers serve the country just for money.

Also, their pay is pegged to GDP growth - which is why it is no wonder that everything in this country seems to be focused on the economy. The government is so caught up in money-making because its salaries are pegged to it! Moreover, if Singaporeans are attuned to the mentality that money is all there is to life (and many, many Singaporeans are), then theywill be less bothered about the other compromises to their civil rights, andless likely to be concerned about what their government is really doing, so long as the money keeps flowing in. What a cheap people we have become.

10. What Singapore needs is change

Lastly, by voting for a significant change to the status quo, Singaporean youths will become less apathetic, seeing that, for the first time intheir lives, CHANGE is really possible in this country, and that they can make a difference in deciding for the future of Singapore.

The PAP will also be less complacent if it meets with a stunning defeat. Its cold Point 8-type ministers will also learn that it is Singaporeans they are supposed to be serving, not themselves. They will learn to treasure their constituents, to sincerely listen their opinions and to truly help them - all these are SUPPOSED to be their job in the first place.

People will also start to dare to join the Opposition. The only reasonwhy I do not wish for the Opposition to take over the government is because it is incompetent, and it is incompetent because talented men and women who are concerned about the aforementioned issues, do not have the courage or faith in the system to step forward and join the Opposition (hell no, not with a law like the ISA in place). But if the PAP faces a defeat that is significant enough, trust in the democratic system of Singapore will finally be restored and the politics of Singapore can be revived to more than just dead rhetoric.

Of course we are grateful for the many, many good things the PAP has done for Singapore. It has been an excellent government in many ways (especially economically - I wonder why). However, it has also been found lacking in many aspects. Politics is not a charity, as they would themselves say with regard to the Opposition, and we cannot vote for agovernment simply because it used to serve the people well. If it has lost its focus, then support for the Opposition is the only way to make them regain this focus.

My vote counts. So will yours. Vote wisely.

[Original Author's Addendum: 15th Dec '09 - Government salaries quoted here were mostly sourced from various websites on the internet, some of which may look dubious, but they are the best I can find because the Government does not seem to display Ministerial Salaries anywhere to be easily found - I wonder why. I will happily correct the numbers, or any other mistakes in this post, if the right digits and facts are pointed out to me. Still, I have confidence that the real salaries cannot be that far off.

This note was written the day after I finished my exams, just to kill time, and was meant to be shared amongst my friends simply as a private opinion. I certainly did not expect the stir it has caused on the internet since (the flood of opinions it has released does give a glimpse of the sentiments of the people of this country, though). As such, the quality of this note may be found wanting in certain aspects, to certain people, for certain reasons. This is not a pamphlet, nor a call to a political war, much less a revolution (come on...). My intentions were not to defameany one or to attack anyone's character, but to bring to light what is dark, simply because people have the right to know what their employees are doing at work - the Government is employed by the people to work for the people not the other way around - and then decide if they will continue to use their service.

Like I have mentioned in a comment on this Facebook note, we OUGHT to be appreciative of whatever we have, and that includes the incumbent government and the good it has done. But being appreciative does not equate to complacence and dumb acceptance of everything. We speak out because we want the problems solved. And the solutions are simple and obvious: cut the ridiculous salaries of these people, pick genuinelycivic-minded citizens to run the country, LISTEN to what the peoplehave to say, give us a free press with unregulated content, become accountable, be transparent, stop lying to the country, teach a fair and accurate history in schools, ensure Singaporeans that the ISA will not be misused AGAIN, punish errant ministers/MPs, stop gerrymandering because that makes people lose faith in the electoral process, etc. That's what Singaporeans want from their government. We have spoken up and we have written in; there is only so much we can do. But how much has actually changed? How receptive is the government to its people? There is hardly anything else Singaporeans are able to do (we can't even demonstrate) to send the message across (like I said, through their very thick skulls) but to let their sentiments be heard through their vote.]

... responsibility or irresponsibility ...

2009-12-14T01:41:00.001+08:00

is it the youngsters or i'm getting easily annoyed by irresponsibility?certain people just feel that what they do is never in the wrong?

never bothered to inform HR about absence.. sometimes even the boss is not informed.. is my office having problems or is it happening everywhere??

one of my colleague supposed to attend a training but didn't turned up.. school called however i couldn't get hold of this colleague of mine..

only later in the afternoon found out she's hospitalized.. well, what can i say?? *sigh* haiz haiz haiz..

... 11dec ...

2009-12-11T23:12:00.000+08:00

wonder does anyone remember how you got your driving licence? how many times? haha.. i got mine when i'm 24 years old.. to some, maybe it's a bit late as they might get it at 18 already.. like my little brother..

i still remembered when i was learning driving the price is $22 for weekday per hour and $24 for weekend per hour.. wonder what is the current price for private learning.. haha.. must be $30 over??

after 4 tries, i finally got my driving licence.. man i told you; i will never forget how i 'argued' with the tester over my over-taking near teck whye.. thought i will failed again but he gave me a "P"!! so damn delighted! nearly kissed the tester.. haha..

anyway, that happened 11 years ago.. time passed so fast hor?

oh it's also my brother's birthday today! wish him a happy brithday!! :P

... early christmas party ...

2009-12-06T12:25:00.003+08:00

joined my sis's 'cell' (not sure if it's this cell) group church friends christmas party last evening..

i already knew 2 of my sis's group mates whom they are my roller blade masters.. one of them is of course owner of the house.. hee.. her house is huge! 3 floors + rooftop with 6 bedrooms and a small swimming pool..

anyway, the party was fun.. got to know some new friends.. we had a young guest whom only 21 years old (supplier of the host).. only one single many we had in the group..

we played games followed by dinner.. we had a mini buffet that comprise of pasta, shepard's pie ( i personally love this as i love potato!) apple crumble and beef.. the host made her well known tau suan and salad..

after the dinner, we sang carols and then the finale came.. gift exchange!! oh, they done it in a different manner.. we were asked to form a circle and were supposed to pass the presents by listening to a story that had 'lefts' and 'rights' in it.. after that all of us sat around for a while.. and then most of them adjourned home after that..

except me, my sis, her best friend and the young guy who stayed behind.. we chatted, joked and don't know why they felt hungry and so we went for supper at ECP's HK cafe.. the one and only young chap was being made fun by us the whole night.. poor thing.. haha..

2009-12-05T14:36:00.001+08:00

went to watch movie again with kat.. after the 'episode' in my office, i'm so glad we are watching a comedy.. or else, i think i gonna be letting my mind run wild again.. haha..

this movie is not a very fantastic one but personlly i do have to agree with the movie on certain things.. every marriage had their own problems and we must always solved problems together; 'we' and/or 'us' should be used instead of 'me', 'i' or 'you'.. it all boil down to how much effort you put it into this 'lifetime agreement'..

and i must say, the resort where they shoot the movie is lovely!! it's really a paradise.. as i wanted to know which resort was that so i waited for the ending.. and i was glad i did.. there is another 2minute prelogy.. next time, really must wait till the movie ends..

and the actual resort is: St. Regis Bora Bora Resort.. check out this wonderful place!! and the rate is not cheap.. a night is about S$1200 (cheapest) onwards.. wow!!

... my office got ghost!?!? ...

2009-12-04T01:50:00.000+08:00

hope it's just our imagination..

another normal friday to most of you.. not in my office.. i was staying late as i have some last minute flight booking to arrange for my boss..

our cleaning aunty had forgotten to change a waste paper basket so i accompanied her to my second floor as my caccounts had already left for the day..

when we unlocked the door, we noticed my IT manager room's light is litted up.. weird!! was the first word that came to my mind.. first, he's out this whole week for business trip; second his room is locked and none of us had to key to open the door..

aunty even told me few days ago when she was cleaning upstairs the room lights were not on.. after that she dashed down and left me there to lock up..

one of my manager heard that and asked me to go up again.. this time we verified with one of our account colleague as they happened to work overtime few days ago.. nope, no lights were on.. even if it's on, it will be obvious as the stairway is away from the window..

oh no!! my office got ghost!! haha.. let's see what happened on monday.. sure to have big commotion.. :D

... 上庭 ...

2009-12-02T22:42:00.001+08:00

第一次見識初級法庭的規模。去了第貳拾壹法庭；它是專門對付觸犯交通違例者的一個地方。當然，我不能進去因爲違法者不是我嘛。法官還是個女的；蠻年輕的。

個個從裏邊走出來有的顯得心情沉重、有的有一絲的解脫。也見證了心痠的一幕∶ 有兩位馬來婦女是哭著從法庭出來。好像是因為兒子/丈夫被判監禁四個月。在外頭等候的人也都不好受。

觸犯者不少咯；那些被罰款的都是一曡一曡的鈔票繳給那櫃檯。能想象政府一天收了多少錢。

結果等了大概兩個小時吧！你被罰了柒佰大元。（真的是感謝天、感謝地！）結果，去了四馬路拜拜感謝神明。

希望，你從這次以後會時來運轉。

... sitex 2009 ...

2009-11-28T00:19:00.001+08:00

it's a public holiday today.. happened to falls on a friday too, there it's a long weekend!! woohoo!!

anyway, made arrangement with kat to accompany her to get her laptop at sitex.. she's had been pretty excited over the last week as her old one died on her.. haha.. oppss.. i shouldn't be rejoicing hor.. sound so 幸灾乐祸..

now, i truly believe it's damn difficult to live without the virtual world for being a young 19 years old, kat was like suffering from "internet deficiency" syndrome..

anyway, she brought a classmate along too.. after a few rounds of scouting, she decided to get compaq.. and then we went home with her to help her set-up her new toy..

after which, both kat and me went to catch "Case 39" and got hot dog and popcorn as our dinner.. for your pleasure, here's the trailer of the show..

... driven to distraction? ...

2009-11-21T10:36:00.002+08:00

chanced upon this article from yahoo cars! it's quite a interesting one, i must say..

Experts reveal the dangers of listening to music whilst driving in your car, but there are benefits too.

Most of us enjoy listening to music whilst driving, but be careful what you listen to and how loud - making the wrong choices can have deadly consequences, according to experts.

It probably won't come as a surprise to hear that the tempo of music can affect the speed and reliability of your driving. Researchers at an Israeli university proved the link back in 2002.

They found that drivers listening to fast-paced tracks (120 beats per minute or more) had twice as many accidents as those listening to slower music. And those drivers are twice as likely to drive through a red light as drivers not listening to music at all.

'In general, if music is above 60 beats per minute, listeners experience a faster heart rate and increased blood pressure,' says consultant psychologist Conrad King. 'It doesn't matter if you listen to opera, classical or the latest rave music. It's the speed of the beat that counts.'

More recent research, carried out at Memorial University in Canada, has found that listening to music too loud can seriously hamper reaction times and cause accidents.

The study found that participants took an average of 20% longer than normal to perform physical and mental tasks when listening at 95 decibels. That's a potentially lethal delay for motorists, even at modest speeds. (As a guide, the typical car stereo has a maximum volume of about 110 decibels, but the loudest can reach 170 decibels or more.)

But it's not all bad news. Dr Nicola Dibben, a music psychologist from the University of Sheffield, UK, has carried out extensive research on the subject of in-car music on behalf on an insurance company.

She confirms that listening to music helps drivers relax, concentrate and keep alert, and is far more effective than silence, conversation or listening to talk radio. In fact, she advocates singing along too.

'Singing while driving stimulates not only the mind but also the body which, in turn, produces heightened alertness and reduced fatigue,' says Dibben. 'Singing may be less distracting than conversation because drivers recall words to songs they already know, or because it is fairly easy to learn the words to music where it uses repeated lyrics.

For safe listening in your car, follow these simple tips:

Stick to mid-paced music if you want to keep calm in stressful driving situations - there's a reason why many taxi drivers choose it!
To ensure a calm and positive frame of mind, choose music which evokes pleasant memories. You probably have favourite summer tunes, for example.
Avoid songs with overly aggressive lyrics. For many, tracks like Prodigy's 'Firestarter' are less than ideal.
Avoid music which is overly complex (eg songs with little repetition or, say, unusual remixes of well-known tracks) as they can be highly distracting.
If going on a long journey, select music which varies in volume, tempo and style - it will stop you getting bored and help increase awareness.
Listen at a comfortable volume level. Loud music will distract you - and, if really loud, annoy other drivers too.
Never wear earphones or headphones whilst driving. If you want to listen to your MP3 player, plug it into your car stereo if you can.
Do not attempt to change a CD whilst driving at speed. If you need to change volume or radio station, don't take your eyes off the road.
Sing along to the music you choose if you know it well enough, but don't pretend you're on stage.
Resist the urge to play air guitar - or, indeed, any other 'air' instrument - whilst driving. 'Playing' the car door, with your arm out of the window, isn't recommended either..

... miscommunication ...

2009-11-17T21:55:00.000+08:00

--- In New Delhi , Mr. Sharma comes homes one night, and his wife throws her arms around his neck: "I have great news: I'm a month overdue. I think we're going to have a baby! The doctor gave me a test today, but until we find out for sure, we can't tell anybody"

..The next day, Mrs. Sharma receives a telephone call from DEB (Delhi Electric Board) because the electricity bill has not been paid.

"Am I speaking to Mrs Sharma?"

"Yes......speaking"

DEB Guy, "You're a month overdue, you know!"

"How do YOU know?" stammers the young woman.

"Well, maam, it's in our files!" says the DEB guy.

"What are you saying? It's in your files.....HOW????"

"Yes..... we have a system of finding out who's overdue"

"Oh my Goodness!!!! ! This is too much....."

"Madam, I am sorry....... I am following orders. I have to inform you are overdue".

"I know that..... Let me talk to my husband about this tonight. He will speak to your company tomorrow"

That night, she tells her husband about the call, and he, mad as a bull, rushes to the DEB office the next morning.

"What's going on? You have it on your file that my wife is one month overdue? What business is that of yours?" the husband shouts.

"Just calm down," says the lady at the reception at DEB, "it's nothing serious. All you have to do is pay us."

"PAY you? And if I refuse?"

"Well, in that case, sir, we'd have no option but to cut yours off."

"And what would my wife do then?" the husband asks.

"I don't know. I guess she'd have to use a candle!"

... a new start ...

2009-11-16T22:31:00.001+08:00

finally finished my exams.. now it's short break for 4 days and then it's the start of another new semester..

*fast foward to 4 days later*

having corporate financing class today and i'm totally lost in wonderland!! the lecturer really rattled on and on and on..

thinking we are all the accountants-to-be.. don't even explained the basis of each ratios and formulas.. everyone in class was so so quiet.. wondered what is everyone thinking??

falling asleep a few times as it is so bored.. haha.. guess we got to depend on ourselves liao..

i'm pray hard that the upcoming international econs class won't be the same!!

... does your boss hate you? ...

2009-11-11T23:17:00.000+08:00

For those looking to move up the career ladder, it is important to gain the respect and the trust of their managers. But could you be secretly driving your manager up the wall without even knowing it?

Tim Hird, managing director of Robert Half Singapore shares with us eight negative actions that bosses generally dislike in employees.

1. Turning down new assignments If your supervisor comes to you one day with a new task, do not decline it. It would be unwise to build a reputation as someone your boss can’t count on. Furthermore, it is good practice to accommodate to your boss’ wishes as long as you can afford time for that extra work. Saying “no” can convince your manager to stop offering you opportunities, which may include the ones you might be interested in.

2. Being “high-maintenance” Do you constantly need attention from your boss to remain productive or to ensure that you’re on the right track? This behaviour may just prevent your manager from attending to important tasks or getting into a good workflow. And this is a sure-fire way to annoy anyone in the workplace.

3. Communicating poorly Your boss’ instructions can be vague but it is critical for you to understand his communication style and preferences and adjust accordingly. Also consider the amount of information he would like. Ensuring you remain on the same page with him is important to a good collaboration.

4. Asking too many questions Always pay attention to your boss when he is speaking and try to seek clarification on the get-go. Repeatedly asking him the same question can drive him insane. However if you must follow-up with your manager, be sure to approach him with a specific list of questions and take notes so you don’t need to bother him again.

5. Failing to follow through Pay attention to details – even the finest ones. Think ahead when you tackle about the types of concerns your boss might have when tackling a project. This would build your manager’s confidence in you.

6. Refusing to admit your mistakes Step up to the plate if you’ve made a mistake. Creating an excuse to justify poor work performance is not only dishonest but also unprofessional. Additionally, your ploy might not stand the test of time. So face your mistake and then go further by devising a plan to both correct and avoid similar incidents in future.

7. Waving the red flag after the ship has sunk If you find yourself in a situation where you are unable to meet a deadline, let your manager know about it at an earlier timing. Do not break the news to him at the last minute. This could infuriate him.

8. Fueling the rumour mill Most importantly, do not spread gossip or complaints around the workplace. Bosses seek employees with a positive outlook and want workers who are able to influence the attitudes of other beacuse enthusiasm is contagious!

Overall, Hird says that “cultivating good emotional intelligence and adopting a positive attitude are crucial to workplace survival”.

Credits:

extracted from Human Resource magazine Oct 09 pg. 4

website: http://theofficesnitch.wordpress.com/

... son's best friend ...

2009-11-05T01:47:00.000+08:00

Four friends, who hadn't seen each other in 30 years, reunited at a party

After several drinks, one of the men had to use the rest room.

Those who remained talked about their kids.

The first guy said, 'My son is my pride and joy.He started working at a successful company at the bottom of the barrel.He studied Economics and Business Administration and soon began to climb the corporate ladder and now he's the president of the company. He became so rich that he gave his best friend a top of the line Mercedes for his birthday.'

The second guy said, 'Darn, that's terrific! My son is also my pride and joy. He started working for a big airline, then went to flight school to become a pilot. Eventually he became a partner in the company, where he owns the majority of its assets He's so rich that he gave his best friend a brand new jet for his birthday.'

The third man said: 'Well, that's terrific! My son studied in the best universities and became an engineer. Then he started his own construction company and is now a multimillionaire.. He also gave away something very nice and expensive to his best friend for his birthday: A 30,000 square foot mansion.'

The three friends congratulated each other just as the fourth returned from the restroom and asked: 'What are all the congratulations for?'

One of the three said: 'We were talking about the pride we feel for the successes of our sons.... What about your son?'

The fourth man replied: 'My son is gay and makes a living dancing as a stripper at a nightclub.'

The three friends said: 'What a shame... what a disappointment.'

The fourth man replied: 'No, I'm not ashamed. He's my son and I love him. And he hasn't done too bad either. His birthday was two weeks ago, and he received a beautiful 30,000 square foot mansion, a brand new jet and a top of the line Mercedes from his three boyfriends.'

... 千萬不要随便把身上的东西給別人 ...

2009-11-03T21:40:00.000+08:00

今天聽到一件非常駭人聽聞的消息，是真實事件...

有一個高中女生晚上在回家的時候，在自家門前看到一位香港人，他說因為他參加某某節目，跟某某人打賭，希望那女生能把其中一只襪子給他。

因為那女生已经在家门前了，所以她想進去拿一隻新的和乾淨的给他。

那個香港人說，就要她腳上的那一隻，高中女生看她很誠懇的樣子，便把腳上的襪子脫下來給了他。

香港人很高興，又有點不好意思，要塞100元給那高中女生，由于她家非常富有，便堅持不收。

別以為事情就這樣結束了，那女生自從那一天后，精神就一直很不好。

她也不以此為意，結果，你們知道嗎？

那个拿她襪子的人，不知道是養小鬼還是與惡魔打交道的，要搶走這女生的生命。

幸好這個女生的爸爸，對易經術略有研究，知道這是有人在作怪，連夜帶這個女生去基隆找一位師傅帮忙。

這位師父劈頭就問，那女生有沒有收别人的錢？那女生說沒有，師父說：「如果有收錢，命就救不回來了！」然后师傅就帮她化解了这場危機。

那位師父說，因為現在的時機非常不好，很多大鬼小鬼都拿著令牌在尋人，因此凡事都要小心，而且，要特別注意的是：

女生絕對不要把这七樣東西交給別人：

1.頭髮

2.指甲

3.襪子

4.身上的東西

其他的我忘了，千万别把这些东西交給別人，因为「有心人」只要有其中一項，就可以要了你的命！

一切要小心，而且不要隨便拿陌生人的錢或東西，不要貪小便宜也不要濫用同情心。

... body worlds exhibition ...

2009-10-28T21:39:00.007+08:00

chanced upon the exhibition advertisement over yahoo web page.. i missed this the last time when they were show casing in singapore.. so hope to catch it this time..

anybody interested? :D

it is on till 6 Mar 2010, 10am to 6pm (Mon-Sun) and the addmission charges are as follows:

Science Centre + Body Worlds

Adult - $21.00

Child (3-16yrs) - $13.00

Body Worlds Only

Adult - $20.00

Child (3-16yrs) - $12.00

check out the website: http://www.bodyworlds.com.sg/

... remedy for electronic gadgets ...

2009-10-21T22:19:00.001+08:00

this is definately worth trying!!

... 記得 ...

2009-10-20T21:47:00.000+08:00

記得早上起床照鏡子時跟自己打聲招呼

記得每天保持高昂的心情

記得要時常鼓勵自己

記得遇到難過的事就不要壓抑自己

記得偶爾要讓自己大叫發洩

記得每天出門時要面帶笑容

記得留點時間給自己不要太匆忙

記得對有些事要學習一笑視之

記得對不確定的事物抱持疑問

記得對看不慣的事要有隱忍心態

記得對他人的窘態要有同理心

記得遇到高興的事就是要大笑

記得有時候要學會裝可愛

記得生氣時要會學會克制怒火

記得偶爾時要放縱自己的任性

記得最好是要有心靈寄託

記得有時無語是最好的回答

記得偶爾可以吃虧但不要受冤枉

記得對自己的家人也要說謝謝

最後~~~~還有一個最~~最~~ 最重要的就是……

記得時間到了就是要下班

... jokes ...

2009-10-14T02:23:00.002+08:00

Q: Why are condoms transparent?

A: So that sperms can at least enjoy the scene even if their entry is Restricted!

Signboard outside a prostitute's house:

Married MEN not allowed. We serve the needy, not the greedy...

New AIDS awareness slogan:

Try different positions with the same woman instead of same position with different women.

Why is $ex like shaving?

Well, because no matter how well you do it today... tomorrow you'll have to do it again...

Q: What will happen if earth rotates 30 times faster?

A: Men will get their salary everyday and women will bleed to death.

Q: Why do 90% gals have left boob bigger than right?

A: Bcoz 90% boys are right handed.

Q: What is the difference between an UNDERWEAR & a STAGE CURTAIN?

A: When you pull down the STAGE CURTAIN, the show is over, but when you pull down the UNDERWEAR..... it is SHOWTIME!

Q: What is the similarity between a wife and a chewing gum?

A: Both are sweet in the beginning but become tasteless and shapeless later

Advantages of having an affair with a married women.

They give like hell.

They do not yell.

They do not tell.

They do not swell and

there is no wedding bell!

My dad told me that if Adam and Eve were Chinese, we would be still in Paradise . Why?

Because they would have eaten the snake instead of the bloody apple!

... 6 things not to tell your boss ...

2009-10-10T11:44:00.002+08:00

Why one person gets a promotion
and another doesn't often comes
down to these well-intentioned
but ill-advised works

1. " I want your job." These words came out of Abby's mouth on the second day of her new job. In 5 years, Abby hasn't been promoted once. Certainly, a good boss appreciates ambition in her employees, but no one wants to swim in a tank of piranhas. So maybe you do want to be the boss someday. That's a great goal, but it's better left a private one.

Susan Kleinman, author of Real Life 101: The Graduate's Guide to Survival (MasterMedia Ltd.), says it's okay to let your boss know what you care abut creating better opportunities for yourself. "But make sure he knows that you want to help yourself and the company.""

2. "You're a jerk." Indeed, your boss may be, but if you value your job, you'll let someone else lecture him on his behaviour. If you must speak up, approach him in a positive manner with gentle suggestions.

Kleiman explains, "Don't criticize. Communicate! If there's a problem, let our goal be to find a solution, not vent your anger." Use tact: don't attack.

3. "I'm just here until something better comes along." Tell your boss hat or give that impression, and your days are numbered. In the first place, something better may not come along. You'll be stuck in a job where you're perceived as a disgruntled employee or troublemaker. On the other hand, you may decide you like your job after all. Now you'll never move up - only out!

"In our increasingly mobile society, everyone has his or her eyes open for better opportunities," says Kleinman. "However, your boss needs to feel that you're completely committed to your job."

4. "I'd never consider a move, work different hours, or take on new tasks." Are you uncomfortable with change? Remember, too much rigidity will keep you in an assistant's position till retirement. Even if you really don't relish working the lobster shift during a crunch or moving to the other side of the Continent, don't be too vocal about it. A change may never come to pass. And if it does, remember this: Those who are willing to move for a company move in a company.

5. "I'm scared to give it a try." You may very well b terrified of meeting with a client or heading a project for the fist time. Discuss strategies with your boss (who's eager to see you succeed), but vent fears with friends or family. Then do your "homework", and dive right in. Trying something new will jumpstart your confidence and give you a better chance at climbing the ladder!

6. "Or else..." Never give your boss an ultimatum, Kleinman warns.

"Those are 2 words you never want to use. If you threaten to quit because you're unhappy, our boss may very well call your bluff. That's no way to get what you want."

After the blunder - Taking your foot out of your mouth

What if you've already blurted out one of these career-killing cracks'? Pack up your desk? Throw out your business cards?

An obvious change of heart will usually find you back in the boss's good graces. Or you might consider scheduling a conference with your boss to discuss your feelings.

The One Thing your boss absolutely must know

... That you are committed to your job.

Susan Kleinman says that a boss loves to hear an employees say, "Please let me know how I can do an even better job."

"Those words are important for 2 reasons," says Kleinman. "First, if there is a problem, you're better off knowing about it as early as possible. Asking that question gives the boss an opening to dispense some constructive criticism.

"Second, approaching the boss this way communicates your willingness to give 110% to your job."

Then you might just get that corner office. You know, the one with the window.

(extracted from lifestyle sep 09 magazine pp. 110-111)

... no more assignments ~ for time being ...

2009-10-09T00:46:00.003+08:00

haiyo, thought i could do my editing in the office.. but didn't managed to do it until almost 4pm.. in the end, managed to finish the final work at about 6.15pm..

however after i submitted my assignment, (which i'm late for 15mins and by right they could refused to accept further submission.. but luckily they allowed!) i really don't know what the hell i wrote.. a 10pages report of promoting electric cars in singapore..

well, just prayed hard i won't go out of point ba.. though i start to realized marketing is an interesting topic!!

so, i'm not stressed out only until a month later which are my exams already.. every time when it's near exam period, i would need to self motivate about moving on.. haiz.. :(

got to pull my socks high high liao as to get 2nd upper honours i need at least 60marks and above.. 談何容易？？

... english ...

2009-10-08T21:09:00.000+08:00

British English vs. Singaporean English

Who says our English is teruk? Just read below - Ours is simple, short, concise, straight-to-the-point, effective etc.

WHEN GIVING A CUSTOMER BAD NEWS

Britons: I'm sorry, sir, but we don't seem to have the sweater you want in your size, but if you give me a moment, I can call the other outlets for you.

Singaporean: No stock!

RETURNING A CALL

Britons: Hello, this is John Smith. Did anyone call for me a few moments ago?

Singaporean: Hello, who call huh?

ASKING SOMEONE TO MAKE WAY

Britons: Excuse me, I would like to get by. Would you please make way?

Singaporean: S-kew me..

WHEN SOMEONE OFFERS TO PAY

Britons: Hey! Put your wallet away, this drink is on me.

Singaporean: No need lah.

WHEN ASKING FOR PERMISSION

Britons: Excuse me, but do you think it would be possible for me to enter through this door?

Singaporean: (pointing at the door) Can ah?

WHEN ENTERTAINING

Britons: Please make yourself right at home.

Singaporean: No need shy one lah!

WHEN DOUBTING SOMEONE

Britons: I don't recall you giving me the money.

Singaporean: Where got?

WHEN DECLINING AN OFFER

Britons: I would prefer not to do that, if you don't mind.

Singaporean: Don't want lah.

IN DISAGREEING ON A TOPIC OF DISCUSSION

Britons: Err... Tom, I have to stop you there. I understandwhere you're coming from, but I really have to disagree with what you said about the issue.

Singaporean: You mad ah?

WHEN ASKING SOMEONE TO LOWER THEIR VOICE

Britons: Excuse me, but could you please lower your voice? I'm trying to concentrate over here.

Singaporean: Shut up lah!

WHEN ASKING SOMEONE IF HE/SHE KNOWS YOU...

Britons: Excuse me, but I noticed you staring at me for sometime. Do I know you?

Singaporean: See what, see what?

WHEN ASSESSING A TIGHT SITUATION

Britons: We seem to be in a bit of a predicament at the moment..

Singaporean: Die lah!!

WHEN TRYING TO FIND OUT WHAT HAD HAPPENED

Britons: Will someone tell me what has just happened?

Singaporean: What happened ah? Why like that one lah?

WHEN SOMEONE DID SOMETHING WRONG

Bitons: This isn't the way to do it. Here, let me show you.

Singaporean: Like that also don't know how to do!

WHEN SOMEONE FARTED

Britons: Oh my, please pardon me.

Singaporean: Not me ah!

... managing to survive these tough economic times! ...

2009-10-07T23:18:00.001+08:00

A Punjabi lawyer working abroad wrote to his wife...

DEAR Sunita Darling,I can't send you my salary this month because the global market crises has affected my company's performance, so I am sending 100 kisses. You are my sweetheart, please adjust.

Your loving husband,

JITA SINGH

His wife replied...

TINKU KE PAPPA ,

Thanks for the 100 kisses,

Below is the list of expenses I paid with the Kisses...:

The Milk man agreed on 2 kisses for one month's milk.
The electricity man agreed not to disconnect only after 7 kisses.
Your landlord Balkar Singh comes every day to take 2 or 3 kisses instead of the monthly rent.
Supermarket owner Jaswant Singh did not accept kisses only, so I gave him other items, I hope you understand.
Miscellanoeous expenses 40 kisses.

Please don't worry about me, I still have a balance of 35 kisses and I hope I can survive the month using this balance...Shall I plan the same for the next month? Please Advise!

Your Sweet Heart,

Kichi

... good lines ...

2009-10-02T23:10:00.000+08:00

... it's children's day today! ...

2009-10-01T23:46:00.002+08:00

happy children's day to all!! be it you're kid or adult.. let's all be children for a day.. though right now, it's gonna be over soon when i penned this..

and if i didn't remember wrongly, one of my classmate's son is born today too..

a normal day and few of my 'young' colleague went to get kinder surprise.. best of all, a colleague, henry actually got a puzzle again while the rest got surprise toys.. he was so frustrated as the first time he got a puzzle too.. haha.. we were happily making fun of him..

also, my good daddy colleagues were on leave.. 4 of them! my office comprises of good daddy and good men.. unfortunately, they are not mine.. wahahaha :D

... kangkong ...

2009-09-29T02:21:00.000+08:00

Health Warning On KANGKUNG !

THIS COULD BE TRUE BUT FROM NOW ON, BE VERY CAREFUL AND ENSURE THE STEMS ARE CUT INTO 2 AND WASH THEM THOROUGHLY. THAT WILL ENSURE that ALL ARE CLEAN. Outside at the hawkers' eating stall we don't know but most dishes of fried Kangkung or Kangkung Belacan should be OK because they are thoroughly cooked in hot oil!Even in rojak containing Kangkung, I believe the vege is well cooked in very hot water and are not eaten in its raw state !

Dear All,

Attached is an article forewarded by a psychiatrist from Klang Hospital . I am sorry I do not have a copy of it in English.

It actually narrates how a young boy died after eating the kangkung vegetable. He had gastro-enteritis(diarrhoea/vomiting)and wasadmitted in hospital.

Post mortem revealed that there were leeches in his intestines which has multiplied many times. The leech found its way through the stem of the kangkong vegetable.The stem is hollow and is normally cooked together with the leaves.

One of the precautions we can take is to slice the stems into two and wash it well before cooking. (DAMN GOOD IDEA OR DON'T EAT THIS VEGE AT ALL !)

... my assignments ...

2009-09-27T22:45:00.009+08:00

last 2 days i was troubled about my HRM assignment as the due date to submit is on 30 Sep; which is few days away! panic button pressed! after send my cousins home from the F1, i was back to my assignment.. only slept at 4am this morning as i had 'wasted' about 2hours on journey..

lost about 2 night's sleep to rush it out (which is within my projected time frame..) and... it's COMPLETED!! phew :D

just hope the upcoming marketing one won't need to rush again.. haha! it's due on 9 Oct and it's 12 days away?!

and the next few module's courseworks.. really shouldn't be doing last minute work as second year is crucial for my honours justification..

haha.. ok, i must self motivate myself already.. where is my evelyn's 'motivation theory'??

... 朱德庸comics ...

2009-09-26T12:25:00.002+08:00

朱德庸漫画集，很有意思…用心体会… 是一篇非常有感受的文章，有很多的部份，都可以引起很多人心中的澎湃跟共鸣。

壹~~

貳~~ 叁~~ 肆~~ 伍~~ 陆~~ 柒~~

捌~~

... dating a second woman ...

2009-09-25T02:20:00.002+08:00

很感人的一篇文章 , 分享給你! 和另一女人約會？

結婚了廿一年後，我發現了一種別出心裁的方法,可以讓愛的火花永保新鮮。

After get marriaged for twenty-one years, i found an unique way to refresh my love life.

不久以前，我和另一位女士約會，其實那還是我妻子的主意，

Not long ago, I was date with a lady, and the idea was came from my wife.

有一天她說：「我知道妳很愛她。」我很驚訝，立刻爭辯說：「但我愛的是妳呀！」「我知道，但你也愛她呀！」

One day my wife said: I know u love her. I was shocked: The one I love is you! She said: I know, but u love her too.

我妻子要我去看的女士是我的母親。

The lady that my wife asked me to visit was my mother.

她已經寡居了十九年，然而我忙碌的工作和身為二個孩子父親的責任，令我分身乏術，以致很少有時間和她相聚。

She was alone for ninetwen years, however, I was busy with my job and my children, so I was less likely to visit her.

那晚，我打電話給她，邀約她第二天和我一起吃晚餐和看電影。

The night, i called her, invited her to have a dinner and movie with me at the second day.

「怎麼了，你還好嗎？」她問道。

' What happen? Are u alright?', she asked.

母親是那種會認為晚上那麼晚打電話，又突然邀約她，一定不會有什麼好事的人。「我想如果有機會和妳單獨約會，一定很有意思。」我回答。

I answered: I was just thinking that if I have chance to date with u alone, it sure be very interesting.

她想了一會兒，然後說：「我非常樂意。」

After a while, she said: I do.

那個星期五下班以後，我開車去接她時，心裡有一點緊張,

The Friday after i worked, I fetched her at her home, felt like a little bit nervous.

因為從未嚐試過這樣的約會。

Because I had never to date with my mom before.

當我到達她家時，我看她對這樣的約會，似乎也有一點緊張。

When I reached her house, I found that she seems a little bit nervous too.

她在門內等著，身上穿著大衣，裡面那件禮服還是最後一次慶祝結婚紀念日所穿的呢！

She was in her suite, which she wore during her last wedding anniversary with my dad, waiting me in her house.

她的頭髮還特意捲了一下，臉上的微笑像天使一般。

She made her hair specifically, smiling like an angel.

上了車後，她得意洋洋地說：「我告訴我的朋友，我要和我的兒子外出約會，他們都好羨慕，迫不及待要聽聽我們約會的情形。」

When she get into my car, she proundly said: all my friends were jeolous at me when they know that i'm gonna dating with my son.

我們去一家雖不豪華，但十分雅致，溫暖舒適的餐廳。

We went to a restaurent which was not expensive but with warmth and cozy environment.

我母親挽住我的臂彎，好像第一夫人一般。

My mom hold my hand as she was the wife of president.

入座以後，我必須幫她看菜單點菜，

After seat her, I help her to order her food,

因為她的眼睛現在只有大的字才看得見。

Because she only can read the big capital words.

用餐一半時，我抬起頭來，看到母親正在凝視我，

When we were eating, I found she was stare at me,

嘴角帶著懷舊的笑容說：「記得當你小時候，總是我為你看菜單的。」「那現在妳正好可以休息，輪到我來為妳服務了。」我回答。

She smile and said: I remembered that during ur childhood, I always make the order for u. I answered: then now is ur chance to take a rest and let me to serve u.

一面享用晚餐，我們一面聊天，聊得很愉快，

We keep talking during our dinner,

談了許多最近幾年來，各自生命中的一些事。

Sharing about our life and some special things heppening these few years.

我們聊得太久了，所以趕不上電影。當我送她回到家門口，

We talked for very long time until we missed the movie. When I fetched her back to her house,

她說「我要再和你一起外出，但下次讓我作東好嗎？」我答應了。

She asked: I'd like to date with u next time, but please let me pay the bill next time. I agreed.

回家後，妻子問我：「你的晚餐約會如何？」

When I back to my home, my wife asked: how's ur date with ur mom?

「非常有意思，比我想像的好多了！」 ~我回答。

' It was interesting and fun, over my expectation', I answered.

幾天以後，母親因心臟病猝發而去世。這事發生得太突然了，

Few days later, my mom was passed away due to heart failure. The thing happened in an unexpected manner,

讓我完全措手不及。

I wasn't prepared for it at all.

不久以後，我收到一封信，裡面是上次我和母親約會的那家餐館的一張收據，上面有一張字條寫著：「我已先付了賬，因為我確定自己不可能再有機會去了，但我還是付了兩人份的賬──你和你的妻子。你絕對想不到那一晚的約會對我有多大的意義，我愛你。」

Soon after this, I received a letter, there are a receipt of the restaurent that I dated with my mom, and a message: I already paid the bill for our next date, even though I know I'd probably won't have chance to date with u anymore, I still pay the bill for wo persons: u and ur wife. U will never know how meaningful the date to me, I love U.

從那一刻起，我深深體會，一定要及時說：「我愛你」，並且要常常撥出時間給我們所愛的人。

At the moment, I realised: we must always spare our precious time to our beloved, and told them u love them before it is too late.

世上沒有任何事比自然如來因緣和你的家庭更重要，多花時間和他們在一起，因為這事絕不能拖延到「以後有時間再說 ...」。

There is nothing more important than ur family, spend more time with them before it is too late.

「樹欲靜而風不止，子欲養而親不待」是人生一大憾事。

Don't make any regret in our life.

~{ 愛無分 ,愛有份}~ 不要等到爱得太迟，珍惜现在。祝您辛福！

... 男女問題 ...

2009-09-25T00:09:00.000+08:00

最近有位同事結婚了。該是件喜事的；但因為是個女大男（拾陸嵗）加離婚加兩個拖油瓶的案例而不被看好。聽説男方的父母沒參加婚宴。不曉得是因爲年齡問題還是別的因素。只能祝福他們和希望他們排除萬難而永結同心。

假設是男大女（拾嵗以上）加離婚加兩個拖油瓶會有如此下場嗎？應該不可能吧！可想而知，我們的社會還是報有點封建思想的。

曾接觸同事的老婆而覺得她有點霸道；管的太多、太多。我妹就說他會漸漸失去所有的朋友。

這就間接講到我妹的遭遇。她最近認識一位朋友david的結拜兄弟，阿林哥。兩個曾無所不談的朋友因為女朋友而終止往來。就因為那女朋友太霸道！

david是個導遊，也因為工作性質而抽煙（蠻兇的）。一次，在阿林哥的車上抽。結果，被阿林哥的女朋友講的狗血淋頭。當然david的臉比包公還黑；因為阿林哥絕對不會這樣說david！還有我妹和他朋友去那麽多次臺灣，阿林哥從來不跟她們斤斤計較任何費用。但最近一次，他卻要我妹貼些車馬費！擺明是有幕後黑手在唆使。

渐渐，david與他們的一群朋友也因為多次的不愉快經驗而渐渐少联络阿林哥了。免得又有垂簾聽政而起哄了。該怪男的‘妻管嚴’還是這個女的不該太多事？

所以，事事有兩面。你認爲是該黑面的；別人可能認爲是白面的！

... cameron highlands ...

2009-09-21T11:55:00.000+08:00

phew! my fever managed to subside after 2 days of rest.. else, i wouldn't be writing about this wonderful i had with 2 of my colleagues and sister..

4 of us went to cameron highlands by coach for a 3D2N short weekend.. i vividly remember my last trip up there was almost 20yrs ago.. the firewood in that house we stayed.. played some games too! my uncles were still not married at that time..

anyway, i really don't remember how it look like 20yrs ago and now.. the cameron that i went was a laid back small town on top of a mountain (or highland??).. the air was cool, not chilling compare to genting..

at cameron, you could get the freshest and juiciest vegetables at cheap prices!! imagine 7 packets of vegetables cost only RM10.. and you definately have to try the corn raw! yes, eat it raw and it's damn sweet.. my colleague said the hokkaido corn taste sweet when it's raw too but it's more yellowish..

visited a few farms, like roses (got some other flowers like daisy, hibicus, and other types), catus and of course the famous tea and straberry.. kind of disappointed with the strawberries as it wasn't as sweet as i had imagained.. and there wasn't much for us to pluck!

on the last day, we even went to the waterfall.. just normal waterfall.. and my beloved sister said other places were more magificant than cameron..

anyway, good things always end early.. the trip was soon over.. back to reality..

... guaranteed returns? think again …

2009-09-18T12:21:00.001+08:00

an email from my classmate..

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I believe everyone has read about the property market situation in Singapore.

Here's something to share from my property developer friend (from the North).

From the lessons learnt from the financial meltdown, we now know that the word "guarantee" is not what we understand legally...I am writing this from the perspective of a developer.....

A guaranteed is in law an assurance by a third party that if the principal party fails to fulfill its obligations made by the other.

The word guarantee is used by the developer to say that it will make arrangements for the property to be rented at a specified amount for a specified period.

In most situations, an agreement is not entered with the developer but with a management company that is linked to the developer.

In such situation, the following question arises. Is the agreement signed to let the premises to the entity? If so, this agreement would be a landlord-tenant relationship and if the entity is only an undertaking to secure tenants for the buyer, it is only his agent. Therefore the terms of such agreement govern the relationship. At this stage, it emerged that though a guaranteed was initially talked about, in reality it does not exist.

On the other hand, the buyer may be dealing with a party that is not adequately funded. Thus the buyer may successfully bring a claim and obtain judgment for any rent not paid but could be left holding a paper judgment.

A buyer also needs to be aware whether the “guaranteed returns” are on the basis of the unit purchased in its bare form or fully furnished as there can be hidden costs in the arrangement.

The buyer also needs to know in what condition the unit will be handed back at the end of the rental period.

It is always important for the buyer to be aware of the actual obligations as the words such as “guarantee” stated in the promotional material will not create any rights that can be enforced.

... what a day to start with ...

2009-09-15T01:20:00.001+08:00

it's monday morning.. as usual drove my brother and sister to work.. suddenly, received a sms.. at first thought it's mr. wong as i'm about to sms him.. but i'm wrong..

bad news.. my ex-classmate's (ITE COS 1992) father passed away early morning.. wasn't too sad as i spoke to her previously and she told me her dad is leaving any time, it's just a matter of when..

so, went to the wake tonight.. as tomorrow and wednesday i got class.. and the cremation is on wednesday.. quiet as she didn't inform much friends..

talked with her for a while before i headed home.. her dad left 4.20am and she was around when he left..

another sad news i got.. 1 month ago, it's another ITE COS classmate but she didn't inform us.. told this classmate that she didn't want to break down in front of us.. haiz, what can we say??

as we aged, there will be happy news then follow by sad news thereafter.. it's part and parcel of life isn't it??

... good news for NSmen ...

2009-09-11T19:07:00.001+08:00

after many years later.. good news for the reservist guys, now known as NSmen..

first, your allowance finally increased another 20%!! of course, it all depends on the demand of your vocation and rank..

http://www.straitstimes.com/Breaking%2BNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_428357.html

even better, you will soon be allowed to use PDAs, laptops blackberry during your non training days!! however, it is restricted to the 3 business centres that is being set up in the last quarter of 2009.. hopefully, more will be added in future after they review the system.

http://www.straitstimes.com/Breaking%2BNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_428364.html

it's good news for NSmen isn't it??

... ang pow calculation ...

2009-09-07T19:14:00.000+08:00

my girlfriend forward this to me.. it may be useful for you in future.. :D

... sulzer family day 2009 ...

2009-09-05T01:34:00.003+08:00

it's my company, sulzer pumps 175 anniversary today! wow that's a long history isn't it??

anyway, it's a happy celebration for all fo us.. this also gave us the opportunity to bring the 3 sulzer office in Singapore as one big family..

the event was held at the zoo.. about 300+ employees from 3 different division attended.. (i wish i could upload all the pictures that we took but that's too much to upload already.. no choice, got to be selective..)

before the start of the family day, me and some colleagues were there at 7am volunteer to put up a event.. it's one of the highlight (grand finale i would call it) for the whole family day.. that is ~ building the dominos!!!

we supposed to set up a mini dominos for the head to mark the opening of the family day.. initially, we were quite worried we couldn't finish on time as we were only given till 10am to do it.. however, as we progressed, we got the hang of it.. haha..

we made it in time to finish the desired design.. so, this is the final look before it's gone in minutes..

also, my colleague managed to video down the 'fallen of our hard work'.. forgive her for the shakiness as she's trying to chase after the domino.. impressive isn't it??

the day ended after the major lucky draw and the first prize goes to this colleague whom captured the domino! she's lucky man!

afterwhich, i got to rush for my class.. studied for 1.5hrs only though.. haha.. :D

... what a day! ...

2009-09-04T22:39:00.000+08:00

must marked today down in my blog.. it's the 16th day of the 7th month.. nothin special so far hor?

then how come almost everyone so BAD mood and/or moody har???

it all starts with myself.. haha.. was so moody with something in the office.. anyway, would not elborate much.. just feel that 好人難做啊！bottomline: don't paint the picture so nice and then you don't bother to take care of it.. not sure what happened to my FC (financial controller) too.. was damn moody during lunch.. he didn't wait for his lunch kakis and went lunch alone..

放工後，約好一起吃晚餐。結果，吵了一架就拉倒。只因為我沒通知你我會遲到；還說我沒時間觀念！講點道理好嗎？如果要埋怨的話，那就沒完沒了。幸好，一切很快就結束了；扯平了。

when i reached home and bought some food back for dinner, my brother also started his moodiness.. i merely make a casual remark that the re-heat meat would taste slightly better if it's hotter.. and he just showed his unhappy face n rebuked sayin he only had 3hrs of sleep last night till now! he's TIRED!!

follwed by my dad who shoot off and told my brother don't bring outside problem home and vent the anger on family..

aiyo, so drama right? haha! cool down everyone!!! :D

what a day! :P

... unbelieveable child ...

2009-09-03T22:41:00.004+08:00

hope you could watch this video..

she's so adorable and intelligent!

i wonder how the parents trained her??? or is she simply gifted??

... coolest clock ...

2009-09-02T23:09:00.002+08:00

This is a real cool clock!

I believe it comes from a Dutch web site.

Here is what you will see when you look at this clock. Don't do anything.

Just look at it and study it.

It gives you the EXACT TIME of the DAY in seconds, minutes, hours, the day, month and year.

Just read the green line. Everything's there. Study it for a few seconds and it will all come clear to you.

Remember these definitions:

1st Line is Seconds

2nd Line is Minutes

3rd line is Hours

4th Line is Days

5th Line is Months

6th Line is Years

This is the COOLEST clock I have seen yet!! A new one!! Look closely at it!! Amazing!!

http://home.tiscali.nl/annejan/swf/timeline.swf

... let's talk about sex ...

2009-09-01T00:51:00.000+08:00

i have 'resumed' (yes, i stopped for a while already) reading Y.E.S. 933 DJ, 丁志勇 aka cruz teng blog... decided to 'acknowledge' this entry as it seems funny to me too.. 哈哈！ (well, those friends who know me well enough would know why i want to post this.. ;D)

on second thought, maybe it's true to a certain extent lei??? enjoy folks!

A型男性的“性”情指数

A型男人做爱特别多。统计指出，A型男人平均做爱时间约为4分26秒，是四种血型中最短的。但优点是做爱次数多，平均每年196次，每隔1.86日就做一次。A型男性会不断努力，使伴侣得到高潮。如果在重要关键时刻，你能对他说：“好棒啊！”那么他一定爱死你，不用说，对A型男性的最大武器就是撒娇。A型男人平均一生中有4个性伴侣，同O型伴侣最为默契，在床上非常卖力，一定要令性伴侣有高潮，才会停止，相当为对方着想，是典型的好男人。

B型男性的“性”情指数

B型男性喜欢享受开放的性生活，不喜欢阴暗、拘谨，或者是有婚姻问题的性生活。简单地说，爱情和性是全然不同的两回事，可以享受没有爱情的性生活，也可以不透过性而确认爱情。女性如果能够率直地表现出自己的喜悦，或许就能够享受幸福的婚姻生活。B型男人持久力最强，平均做爱时间最长，约7分11秒。做爱重质不重量，平均每年做爱158次，每隔2.31日才做一次。平均一生中约有8个性伴侣，同A型伴侣最为默契。

AB型男性的“性”情指数

AB型男性属于较严肃的性主义者，要与他配合并不困难，他也很喜欢黄色笑话，但事实上，他们对性都有洁癖，因此，还是以自然的方式好。其中也有人认为，伴侣一定要是个处女，否则他便会显得不积极。这时候还是以自然的形式创造一个绝佳的气氛最好。AB型男人对性最保守，他们平均做爱时间约为6分10秒，持久力排第二。每年平均做爱约173次，每隔2.1日做一次。平均一生中约有3个性伴侣，数目最少，同A型女人最合拍。对性较为保守，不会轻易同女人上床，上床的话，一定要有感情。

O型男性的“性”情指数

O型男人喜欢有规律的性生活，认为做爱像吃饭一样，都是生活中不可缺少的事情。O型血的人虽然热烈地接受性爱，但也会表现出较淡然的态度。通常男女双方交往，会因感情热度升高而冲破理智防线。进而产生性爱的经验，显然地，这和男性的交易式爱情截然不同。一般而言O型血的人对爱情较主动，但趋向贪婪。他们做爱的过程虽然认真而细腻，但事后却无法抓住片刻的美好回忆。 O型男人平均做爱时间约为5分32秒，在四种血型中排第三。每年平均做爱约有180次，每隔1.91日就做一次。平均一生中约有6个性伴侣，同O型女人最为合拍。

... 等待/猶豫 ...

2009-08-31T23:32:00.002+08:00

聽到你和你老媽的那番話，讓我感動許久。

我終于聽到我曾經希望聼的話語。

你曾給的承諾在幾年后兌現了。

突然閒，我開始情願你別對我有所期待。

但，這天不是我在等待以久嗎？

爲何我又開始猶豫你的真誠了？

... mental block ...

2009-08-30T02:47:00.004+08:00

my assignment is due 30 Sep 09 next month.. i only left about 1 month to complete an 3000 words essay.. topic look easy but realized it's not that easy at all..

right this moment writing this, i'm with my friend here at tea garden.. yes, at this wee hours.. you'll be surprised how busy and lively macdonald is right now..

everyone is still wide awake.. *ya, else we would all call ghost* so are we.. soccer just ended a while ago with Man-U winning.. people coming for supper or here with their laptop doing their own stuffs.. :P

both of us are skiving than serious studying!! :D she's supposed to be study for next week exam (she got 4 papers mind you!!) on the opposite, she just finished watching south park, some online recipes.. me worse.. supposed to be writing my assignment, yet i'm trying so hard to update my blog instead.. hahaha!!

can someone give us a knock on our head?? we are slowly losing our concentration already.. oh god, please help!!

P/S: the stupid wireless @ SG keep disconnecting me... i got to re-login umpteen times tonight!!

.. cheer up!! ..

2009-08-26T12:38:00.002+08:00

大牛要娶中国女人，对方要他把自己的缺点写在纸上才考虑，他写《大牛比较懒》，却把她给吓跑了。

为什么？因为中国人习惯从右边读起。

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一对老夫妻在家中吃着饭时，老太婆一时兴起对老太公说：

“不如我们重温一下以前的日子。”

于是，两人就脱光衣服坐下吃饭。不久，老太婆害羞的说：

“想不到我八十多岁还有少女情怀，看到了你身体还觉得热热的。”

老太公看了她一眼对她说：

“你的一对奶奶都掉进汤里了，你当然觉得热啦！”

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两只青蛙相爱了，婚后却生了只蛤蟆！

青蛙爸一看就大怒：贱人，怎么回事？

青蛙妈哭着说：小青爸，认识你之前我整过容嘛。

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狗看上了熊；对熊说：嫁给我吧，你会幸福的。

熊回说：我才不呢，嫁给你只能生狗熊！我要嫁给猫，生了熊猫有了身份后，以后日子就好过了！

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蜜蜂狂追蝴蝶，蝴蝶却嫁给蜗牛。

蜜蜂不解：他那里比我强？

蝴蝶回：人家好歹有自己的房子，哪像你住集体宿舍啊！

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公司招聘员工，几百个大学生争相自报家门：

‘我南大’、‘我新大’、‘我北大’…

突然，一女响亮声起：“我胸大”！

董事长一拍桌说：“就是你了！”

... 求人不如求自 ...

2009-08-23T00:12:00.000+08:00

最近，爲了一些敏感事而需要勞駕幾位朋友的拔刀相助。結果，如我預料中的一樣，他們都拒絕了我的請求。我不怪他們因爲有幾位是泛泛知交。

在這節骨眼找人兩肋插刀確實有點彆扭。但令我覺得失望又有點憤怒的是，沒辦法就直接拒絕我；我不會怪你。拒絕我有多難？就說一個不而已嘛！

別給假希望然后又帶我環游世界。繞了一圈才說愛莫能助；浪費我一天的時間。假如我真的靠你的‘施捨’那我豈不是已經死失掉了？？

經過這次，覺得靠人不如靠自己。

... cycling trip ...

2009-08-22T22:31:00.000+08:00

my company's sports and social committee organized a cycling trip to johor state, pangareng. it's a day trip so all of us are back at about evening 6pm.

the day started as early as 7am.. however i woke up at about 0530hrs.. took a bus to changi village for gathering..

after everyone reaches, we were divided into 3 bump boats at changi ferry terminal.. off we go!! pangareng here we come!! it's about an hour boat ride.. *phew* i didn't puke at all!! i was so worried i would..

after we reached the pangareng jetty, we proceed to collect our bike over at this place call tristan park, took a group photo and started our cycling expedition.. the weather was fantastic..

after an hour or so cycling, all of us reached the jade restaurant for our seafood feast.. we had lobster, chili and black pepper crabs, prawns to name a few.. *mouth drooling* i didn't eat much as i'm not a seafood lover.. :D

after the feast, it was free and easy time.. however, sky was pouring heavily!! it lasted about 30mins before it was back to sunny afternoon.. some of my colleagues went for hair cut/wash.. some of them went pangareng 'road trip' while me and few of my colleagues visited the ostrich farm..

the trip was fruitful.. managed to grab some honey mangoes and preserved ones.. however, my butt is so painful after the ride.. worse compared to roller blading!

i will definitely visit this place some day again!!

... few incidents ...

2009-08-17T13:35:00.004+08:00

1. birthday wish

it's my best friend's mel 34th birthday!!

oppps.. shouldn't have disclosed his age.. anyway, wish him a great day ahead and all the best to his future..

2. appraisal review

i didn't realized there is a review session on our appraisal system.. when my superior said she wanted to talk to me i thought i did something wrong.. or someone complained about me again..

*heart beating ultra fast* when she asked me to sit down with the performance appraisal sheet in front of her, then i realized it was my review time! haha! *phew ~ a sigh of relief*

well, i shall not elborate my overall performance.. overall is good!! :P

... school re-opens ...

2009-08-15T21:47:00.004+08:00

after a long break.. yes, about 2 months long.. :D

we are finally back to class.. also marked entry into my second year.. this also means i got to study extra hard as 35% of our second year and 65% of our third year justify our honours standing..

and i got to score at least an average b grades in order to get a second upper honours!! wah, sound like a mission impossible to me.. anyway, i try ok?? :D

first day of class, received some bad news too.. or should i say disappointing news? 2 of my classmates has decided not to continue the course..

one of them is our class rep, who had applied for LOA (leave of absence).. another one is my dear carol who had decided to 'venture' elsewhere.. start later than us but yet graduating earlier!

haiz, we had completed 1 year liao.. might as well finished it right? anyway, hope both of them made the right decision and all the best!

2009-08-12T13:27:00.000+08:00

Please be careful when you received $50 notes from anyone. Please read on.... Please also let your friends know.

MAS: Notes with 'KF' marking have no value. The Money Authority of Singapore (MAS) says the $50 notes with the letters 'KF' marked on them are considered to be deliberately mutilated and they command no value. This reply came in response to a feedback from Lee, who said he withdrew several $50 notes from OCBC Compass Point, of which three had the letters 'KF' printed on them. When he consulted the bank about the notes, he was told that there was no problem with the notes.

However, MAS says the letters 'KF', which appear to be marking stamped onto the note, are not part of the design of the $50 note. It advises the public who receive the notes with the 'KF' marking to bring them back to the banks for one-for-one exchange.

This is the reply from the MAS in full: 'The letters 'KF', which appear to be marking stamped onto the note, are not part of the design of the $50 note. 'Notes with such marking are considered to be deliberate mutilation and they command no value. 'We advise members of public who receive notes with the 'KF' marking to bring them to the banks for one-for-one exchange.'

... happy birthday to me ...

2009-08-11T19:37:00.009+08:00

so fast the long weekend for august is going to be over soon.. anyway, realized from august onwards, every month there will be 1 long weekend till december.. *clap hands in the air*

shall plan something to do huh? september i'm going cameron highlands with my sis, so that is settled.. october which is deepavali what shall i do then?? *building castles in the air*

anyway, not to waste the last day of the long weekend yesterday; i went out movie with my gal friend, kat and her 2 nieces.. we watched the new movie UP by pixar Studio.. nice show i must say..

however, she cannot make it lor.. was crying over an animation.. haiyo!! even her nieces also make fun of her.. haha..

after we send her nieces home, *fast forward* (return to her house to fix her TV, while waiting for xiaodi to get ready, surf net/facebook, watch south park to kill time) we meet up with my xiaodi aka pat for cheap chicken rice buffet at NUSS.. however we were told that the place is not open to public and it's only restricted to NUSS members only.. however, the manager still let us have our dinner there.. maybe he seen us go all the way there and didn't want to reject us ba..

after dinner, we proceed to west coast mac for a drink.. (free parking mah.. hee..) while i offered to buy drink, both kat n pat threw me a little surprise..

a mini black forest cake with candle was waiting for me! i was kind of touched when i saw the cake.. 有心了！even though i never celebrated my birthday with friends for so many years already.. thanks for being with me at that time..

and to all my wonderful friends and colleagues who smsed me your well wishes!! thanks a million!! :D

... aston's ...

2009-08-09T00:19:00.001+08:00

supposed to meet up with carol yesterday but she was in a foul mood so we met up today after her hair cut instead..

as usual, she will always update me about her whereabouts and recent happenings.. she's really like my lesbian partner already.. haha.. don't get me wrong! me neither bi-sexual nor lesbian hor.. it's just a casual remark.. :) not at this juncture i need to turn myself into such confusion phrase..

anyway, her sis was telling her about this cheap and good restaurant called aston's specialities at the cathay.. so we decided to try..

queue is damn long.. accordingly to her, there's always queue any day any time (except maybe 3-4pm) we waited almost an hour before we got our seats..

wow! the food is good and service is great.. realized that they have more than 1 outlet actually.. shall check it out their other outlets next time!

... be careful when overseas ...

2009-08-07T19:18:00.004+08:00

1. Duped by credit card scam upon check in at Hotel

You arrive at your hotel and check in at the front desk. When checking in, you give the front desk your credit card (for all the charges for your room). You get to your room and settle in. Someone calls the front desk and asked for (example) Room 620 (which happens to be your room).

Your phone rings in your room. You answer and the person on the other end says the following, 'This is the front desk. When checking in, we came across a problem with your charge card information. Please re-read me your credit card number and verify the last 3 digits numbers at the reverse side of your charge card.'

Not thinking anything you might give this person your information, since the call seems to come from the front desk. But actually, it is a scam of someone calling from outside the hotel/front desk. They ask for a random room number. Then, ask you for credit card information and address information. Sounding so professional that you do think you are talking to the front desk.

If you ever encounter this problem on your vacation, tell the caller that you will be down at the front desk to clear up any problems. Then, go to the front desk and ask if there was a problem. If there was none, inform the manager of the hotel that someone called to scam you of your credit card information acting like a front desk employee.

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2. Bangkok International Airport

Folks, be warned and be really careful, check the items you bought and give back what does not belong to you even when the shop assistants claimed it's 'free'. I believe the duty free shop assistants would also get a share.......so, be very, very careful. Read below:

My Dept. secretary informed on this. Her cousin was detained in Bangkok for stealing a box of cigarettes in a duty-free shop in Bangkok International Airport.

He had paid for chocolates and a carton of cigarettes. The cashier put a packet of smokes into his bag and he thought it was a free pack.

He was arrested for shop-lifting and the Thai Police extortion price was RM30,000 for his release. He spent two nights in jail and paid RM50 for an air-con cell, 200-300 baht for each visitor, and RM11,000 for his final release.

The Police shared the money in front of his eyes. On top of that, he was charged in court and fined RM2,000 by the magistrate and handcuffed and escorted to his plane.

His passport was stamped "Thief". While there, his relatives requested help from the Malaysian Embassy and was told that they are helpless, as Malaysians are victimised similarly daily and letters and phone-calls to the Thai Authorities are ignored.

He shared a cell with a Singaporean the 1st night who paid RM60,000 for his release. The 2nd night was an Indian national who paid USD70,000.

Mind you this is not in a shag downtown Bangkok but in a duty free shop in Bangkok's Int'l Airport.

3. Driving to JB

If you get RM10.00 in your car door handle, use tissue paper or cloth to remove it without opening it and if possible bag it. Drive away immediately.

Don't check the note until you are in the company of your friends or relatives. The note could either contain powdered drugs to knock you out or make you wonder if some guilty motorist compensating you for a knock or scratch on your car, while you are still wondering, the robber(s) will attack you as you check the car.

This had happened in Johor. Please circulate to your friends and warn them!

... public enemies ...

2009-08-06T02:01:00.002+08:00

after the last movie, harry potter, i didn't watched any show till tonight.. kat called me and wanted to watch her idol, johhny depp before the show is going to end.. understand from her it's a true story about the 1930's FBI, so thought no harm and watched it together with her..

overall i would say it's much better than harry.. haha.. though they could make it better as i felt some parts were skipped/censored?? and johnny depp look so different in this show compared to pirates! i couldn't recognize him at all!

wish i could have a man like john dillinger.. haha.. he sure is one great gangster yet devoted to his woman.. kind of sad that he died that manner; unexpectedly.. anyway yeah, i do love gangsters! :D

... event at hyatt hotel ...

2009-08-03T23:35:00.001+08:00

another company event.. this time it's a farewell dinner for my current VP who's been promoted and leaving asia.. the event was at hyatt hotel, straits kitchen tonight..

oh boy! the spread was fantastic and full of varieties.. something you must definitely try!! the chicken rice, mini 佛跳墙 etc.. everything is good there!!

a bit expensive for some maybe.. per person is S$42++ and they serve local delight and plus additional S$12++ you get free flow of coffee, tea (even tek tarih) and soft drinks..

it's definitely worth it!

... ERP rates increase again ...

2009-07-27T23:40:00.002+08:00

news report from LTA http://app.lta.gov.sg/corp_press_content.asp?start=2162

LTA revealed that they have completed their current review and will revise the current rates of ERP at ECP fort road gantry..

gantry which i need to use it everyday to work.. from 3 aug onwards, rates from 0730 to 0800 will increase by 50 cents!! which from then onwards, i got to contribute $2 to ERP.. plus evening another $2, it will be $4 per day!!!! isn't it frustrating??!!???!!!

time for me to self review too.. if waking up an hour earlier to save $2 is worth it anot.. *ponders*

... don't sleep too late! ...

2009-07-25T22:50:00.001+08:00

A reminder to all. Take note...don't always sleep late!!

Good rest and sound sleep is very

Important... if u don't sleep well,

The toxic in your body will accumulate..

Affecting your health and your mood...

The main causes of liver damage are:

1. Sleeping too late and waking up too late are the main cause.

2. Not urinating in the morning.

3. Too much eating.

4. Skipping breakfast.

5. Consuming too much medication.

6. Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring, and artificial sweetener.

7. Consuming unhealthy cooking oil. As much as possible reduce cooking oil use when frying, which includes even the best cooking oils like olive oil. Do not consume fried foods when you are tired, except if the body is very fit.

8. Consuming overly done foods also add to the burden of liver. Veggies should be eaten raw or cooked 3-5 parts. Fried veggies should be finished in one sitting, do not store.

We just have to adopt a good daily lifestyle and eating habits. Maintaining good eating habits and time condition are very important for our body to absorb and get rid of unnecessary chemicals according to 'schedule.'

Because:

Evening at 9 - 11pm: is the time for eliminating unnecessary/toxic chemicals (de-toxification) from the antibody system (lymph nodes). This time duration should be spent by relaxing or listening to music. If during this time a housewife is still in an unrelaxed state such as washing the dishes or monitoring children doing their homework, this will have a negative impact on her health.

Evening at 11pm - 1am : The de-toxification process in the liver, and ideally should be done in a deep sleep state.

Early morning 1 - 3am : de-toxification process in the gall, also ideally done in a deep sleep state.

Early morning 3 - 5am : de-toxification in the lungs. Therefore there will sometimes be a severe cough for cough sufferers during this time. Since the de-toxification process had reached the respiratory tract, there is no need to take cough medicine so as not to interfere with toxin removal process.

Morning 5 - 7am : de-toxification in the colon, you should empty your bowel.

Morning 7 - 9am : Absorption of nutrients in the small intestine, you should be having breakfast at this time. Breakfast should be earlier, before 6:30am, for those who are sick. Breakfast before 7:30am is very beneficial to those wanting to stay fit. Those who always skip breakfast, they should change their habits, and it is still better to eat breakfast late until 9 -10am rather than no meal at all. Sleeping so late and waking up too late will disrupt the process of removing unnecessary chemicals. Aside from that, midnight to 4am is the time when the bone marrow produces blood.

Therefore, have a good sleep and don't sleep late.

... 21 facts to know ...

2009-07-20T20:20:00.014+08:00

1. Chewing on gum while cutting onions can help a person from stop producing tears. Try it next time you chop onions.

2. Until babies are six months old, they can breathe and swallow at the same time.

Indeed convenient!

3. Offered a new pen to write with, 97% of all people will write their own name.

4. Male mosquitoes are vegetarians. Only females bite.

5. The average person's field of vision encompasses a 200-degree wide angle.

6. To find out if a watermelon is ripe, knock it, and if it sounds hollow then it is ripe.

7. Canadians can send letters with personalized postage stamps showing their own photos on each stamp.

8. Babies' eyes do not produce tears until the baby is approximately six to eight weeks old.

9. It snowed in the Sahara Desert in February of 1979.

10. Plants watered with warm water grow larger and more quickly than plants watered with cold water.

11. Wearing headphones for just an hour will increase the bacteria in your ear by 700 times.

12. Grapes explode when you put them in the microwave.

13. Those stars and colours you see when you rub your eyes are called phosphenes.

14. Our eyes are always the same size from birth, but our nose and ears never stop growing.

15. Everyone's tongue print is different, like fingerprints.

16. Contrary to popular belief, a swallowed chewing gum doesn't stay in the gut. It will pass through the system and be excreted.

17. At 40 Centigrade a person loses about 14.4 calories per hour by breathing.

18. There is a hotel in Sweden built entirely out of ice; it is rebuilt every year.

19. Cats, camels and giraffes are the only animals in the world that walk right foot, right foot, left foot, left foot, rather than right foot, left foot.

20. Onions help reduce cholesterol if eaten after a fatty meal.

21. The sound you hear when you crack your knuckles is actually the sound of nitrogen gas bubbles bursting.

... harry potter ...

2009-07-16T23:21:00.001+08:00

had i knew this gonna happened i wouldn't have agreed to watch the popular show with carol... it's the sixth episode of harry potter series and being selective in movies i never once watched any..

carol wanted company and persuaded me to watch with her.. seeing her so poor thing plus my soft heartedness i gave in..

starting of the show was fine.. came to the middle of it.. i dozed off.. haha.. and not only once, it's twice!! haha..

really won't watched these type of moive anymore.. imagine years ago i fell asleep watching star strek!! yes, that is really sleeping...

so, conclusion: harry potter is better.. at least it only made me dozed off.. haha..

... stupid me ...

2009-07-15T23:58:00.001+08:00

how can a person be so stupid?!?!?!

i was in the office today and there is this heavy duty door which separate my office and my workshop..

everyday we were slamming the door which it had been repaired twice already.. don't what came over me today.. so i thought today i shall not do it.. thus, i used my right hand to hold on to the door..

*door closed slowly ~ bang!*

damn it!! *holding on to my thumb and cursing at it* %*$#!#$#^

i GOT hit by the door!! it was definitely painful lah!!! you can't imagine how terrible the pain was.. and for the rest of my afternoon till now i couldn't exert any force with it..

see the picture which i took before i sleep..

my right thumb was swollen and there were blood clots in the nails.. it was also bruised..

good lor.. wanted to go bowling, now i can't already.. :(

i'm stupid right?? haha..

... bored sunday ...

2009-07-13T12:51:00.001+08:00

since i lost my sleep on saturday, i though i could 'nua' at home the whole day on sunday.. no show to watch online, no place to go as nobody date me.. :D

received a call from my two young friends.. they were bored too.. want me to meet them at tea garden instead..

ya, we were back to what we were doing the night before.. playing 'chor dai di' at mac.. haha.. anyway, lady luck wasn't with me tonight.. had an equal share of shuffling cards.. that's why i never gambled lor.. i'm a goody good gal ok?? *big grin*

anyway, what we had experienced then was kind of weird cum funny..

as my friends wanted to smoke, we decided to change to the outdoor tables.. there was this indian guy who was studying alone there.. sitting a table away from us.. the moment we sat down beside him, he started giving us this what-are-you-doing-here look..

initially, my two friends were 'illegally' smoking at the non smoking zone.. (ok ok, this is not the 重点) then, we saw him got up from his seat and walked toward the counter.. oh shit!! we thought he gonna report us for the illegal act so they quickly 'put' away their cigarettes.. yes, put the cigarettes into the box again for later puff!! haha.. cumbersome smokers right?? haha..

we waited and waited, continued our game while monitoring if any mac staffs approached us.. nothing happened!! this indian fella didn't come back after a loong lonng time!! we were laughing away at our stupid act.. being afraid for nothing.. then he came back ~ to his seat and he started looking at us again..

i was jokingly telling my friend, he maybe want to 'tackle' her lah.. or else he won't be looking and looking at us right?? or maybe he wanted to join us in the game?! LOL..

subsequently, we started to get used to that weird indian guy..

what weird experience, really!

... lose my sleep ~ again ...

2009-07-11T22:33:00.007+08:00

went to catch a show last night.. Ice Age 3 and the 3D version lor.. well, the feeling is great.. however the specs wasn't really comfortable as i'm wearing my own specs.. so it keep dropping.. would be better if you're on contact lens..

show is funny.. truly enjoyed it..

as it was a bit to go home early on a Friday night, so decided to meet my 2 friends instead.. couldn't decide where to go and ended up at west coast mac.. had supper and then it's playing cards time!! played 'chor dai di' the whole night there.. pretty contended as i only shuffled cards 3 times throughout the whole night.. LOL..

after the 'fast and furious' episode, i came to know my vios could do 160km/h in singapore lor.. of course i'm not the driver lah.. i tried running at 140km/h but failed last time..

it was impressive however but i don't quite really enjoyed the thrill at all.. maybe i'm getting old ba.. compare to youngsters (aka that 2 friends of mine) they are enjoying it instead.. even tell me next time ask that fella bring them go car ride!! i'm speechless...

after all these saga, i reached home at 9am this morning.. however, i woke up at noon (which i didn't wanted!), clocking only 3hrs of sleep (to be exact, 1150hrs).. had short naps in between until my sis woke me up at 3pm to send her to class.. yeh, i lose my previous sleep again :-(

so, it's time for me to catch up on my sleep liao! night!!

... i've got H1N1 flu like symptoms! ...

2009-07-07T10:15:00.004+08:00

stay away from me!! haha.. though my flu is mild and i seemed to recover today already.. (now it's my back which caused me pain instead *sad*)

yesterday morning i was having slight cough and running nose.. so went to see a doctor and i was given 2 days MC..

my brother whom just returned from indonesia for vacation was worse.. he has 5 days straight in a row!! haha.. just because he has running nose and need to declare his travel history.. poor him!

now, he's worried about jeopardising his own work.. since the project his handling won't be able to run without him (that's what he says).. but we told him to rest and monitor his temperature for these few days... just in case people start pointing fingers that he's the start of the cluster..

so, both of us didn't went to work then..

.. stupid handbrake break down again ...

2009-07-04T01:00:00.006+08:00

my family's vios has to be send to see doctor again.. same problem again.. this time it's my sister who couldn't release the handbrake.. so, she called me for help.. gave her the Marsiling service centre..

i must really put this down man! this is from my sister's narration..

as our car is still under warranty so we could send to any service centre for diagnosis.. as my sister's work place is in marsiling so naturally the nearest workshop would definitely be woodlands.. so she called the centre and after 2 tries a guy picks up the call..

him: "what problem does your car has?"

sis: "i cannot release the handbrake"

him: "oh, like that ah.. so you want me to do what huh?"

sis: "could you send a mechanic down to check the car, if the hand brake can release then i can drive already"

him: "oh, we don't provide this type of service.. and i'm having my lunch now.. so you want me to send the tow truck then? the tow truck no. is xxxxxxxx"

my sis is already boiling at this time already..

sis (still politely)"yes, i guess that is the only way out right?"

him: "oh, why don't you send to other workshop to check instead? coz' if you send here and we can't do then it's a waste of time right? and we might not have the parts here also.. so it's better to send to other workshop right?"

hello, you didn't even check the car how you know it couldn't be repair at your side?!?!

he just refused to take the car and keep pestering my sis to send to other place.. she is so pissed off with him.. in the end, we get it towed to Leng Kee instead.. and the service is so much better!!

when the tow truck driver arrives he also asked my sis why not tow to woodlands as he just come from there and there was no car at all! my sis said it's not she don't want but it's the service guy that doesn't want to accept... subsequently, 2 or 3 people asked her the same thing!! including the Leng Kee service lady that called and verify details with her..

when i heard it just now, i'm so unhappy!! being a service guy yet this is the type of service we get.. no wonder she was so impatient when she called me..

this guy better wake up his idea.. he's lucky my sis didn't got his name.. else i'm sure to lodge a report about it..

... transformer ...

2009-07-03T23:46:00.004+08:00

megatrons, decepticons, autobots... anything you could name it in transformer movie..

went to catch it tonight with one of my new found friend, diane and her gal friend, eunice.. we had dinner at kenny rogers and then catch the show..

after 2 hours of restless posture switching, the movie ended.. it wasn't so bad at all mah.. kind of enjoyed it.. just that the part where the robots transform were a bit noisy and draggy..

i even had a friend who left half way as she was having headaches due to the show.. even diane said her head was spinning too after she reached home.. yes, she watched it already and this is the second time.. accompany her friend mah..

overall it's still not too bad lah.. catch it if you love transformers!! but i'm sure there will be a 3rd sequel..

... we got certified!! ...

2009-06-30T23:09:00.002+08:00

after a year and months of consolidating documents, writing them and putting them into policies, forms and lists...

the day has come..

my company is finally certified with ISO 9001, 14001 and 18001 today!! after 2 days of auditing yesterday and today..

oh in case, you're ignorant, i shall enlighten you a bit.. ISO 9001 is quality management, in short it's what we call customer satisfaction, ISO 14001 is the environment aspects and ISO 18001 is safety and health..

yeah! yeah! yeah!

finally we could all rest in peace..opps, i mean work in peace.. haha..

... 1D durian trip ...

2009-06-27T23:31:00.000+08:00

joined a few of my colleagues and we went malaysia johor state pekananas (not sure if it's spell this way) city for durians!!

of course we went other place lah.. like the chocolate factory, local specialities shop, organic farm, and a sumptuous seafood dinner..

it's very very enjoyable especially when i had durians to my heart content.. haha.. think i have about 20 seeds at one go?? hmm.. didn't knew i could eat that much.. haha..

my lovable colleague couldn't eat durian as she's on chinese medicine.. so... that explains why she is eating the curry bee hoon..

coincidentally another friend of mine also joined a similar trip.. wonder if she enjoyed herself??

both ways immigration were packed like sardine.. as usual, malaysia mah.. need i explained more??

got home about 10pm after a hard day's 'work' and of course i got back some souvenirs.. without failed after some 'weightlifting' and hassle..

with me are: 8 durians, 3kg rambutans, 1 pineapple and half kg mangosteens with me.. yes, had to carry them with me to clear the singapore customs.. really no joke right?? i'm super woman aren't i?? :P

... a very touching moment ...

2009-06-26T23:07:00.000+08:00

(Dedicated to a wonderful feeling called - FRIENDSHIP)

Year : 1975

Situation : Last day of school

Arjun Singh and Pargat Singh are very close friends. The whole school talked about their friendship. They had been friends right from their kindergarten days. They have studied together, roamed around together, sat together in school, ate together. They both wanted to become Police officials and serve the country.But today was a day they always dreaded. It was their last day together.

On their way back from School Arjun started talking

Arjun : Bro! I am moving to a different city to study. I will miss you man

Pargat : I will miss you too mate. But nothing can break our friendship. We will at least meet once every year.

Arjun : Yes that is a deal and they parted with tears in their eyes...

As time went by, both got busy with their work life. They kept their promise for two years and after that they moved on with their own lives and in the process Arjun lost his contact with Pargat. Time went by and both became Police Officers.

Year: 2009

Venue: The Police station where Arjun works

Tring... Tring... Arjun picks up the call and he gets a pleasant surprise...

"Is this Arjun?"

"Yes. Who is on the line?"

"Bro. Its Pargat! I just found out that you are posted in this station"

Tear drops welled up Arjun's eyes

Arjun : Where are you?

Pargat : I am standing outside the Police station. Come Out

Arjun : Is it? I am coming right away.

Arjun rushed out of the Police station and saw Pargat standing outside. They were seeing each other for the first time after thirty years. He wanted to go and hug his friend. But he could not hug his friend.

It was a very touching moment for both of them :

SCROLL…….

Have you ever seen a touching moment like this?

... bad morning ...

2009-06-24T22:29:00.001+08:00

how bad can your morning be??

if you think yours is the worst, think again...

is it worse than than the guy in the video or it's just peanuts compare to his??

sometime aren't you glad that you are not the worse??

... no bowling tonight ...

2009-06-23T23:54:00.001+08:00

supposed to bowl tonight.. but i give it a miss.. as my hand and leg were too achy after my roller blading on sunday.. therefore, i didn't go mt faber tonight..

a bit disappointed and so was my kaki.. however, hope to do it soon!

else my ball going to be rusty already.. which is so for my basic too.. then i got to start all over again.. :(

... why men cheat ...

2009-06-22T23:39:00.002+08:00

Want to affair-proof your marriage? Then first, you've got to understand what makes men cheat. Hear it from the relationship experts as they dish out on the number one reason for infidelity and ways to protect your relationship.

Why men cheat

The XY species: They're notorious for their roving eyes and their obsession with bikini-clad models, so connect the dots, and the automatic assumption is that men cheat for the sex.

But here's the surprising truth: According to marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman, author of The Truth About Cheating who surveyed 200 cheating and non-cheating husbands, the number one reason for straying is emotional dissatisfaction, which an astounding 48 percent of cheating men listed as the main trigger. Only 8 percent of men listed sexual dissatisfaction as the primary factor in their infidelity. In fact, just 12 percent of cheating husbands said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.

Many of these "emotionally dissatisfied" men claim they don't feel appreciated or wanted. And Neuman believes it is this feeling of underappreciation and lack of thoughtfulness that far outweigh any other reason for infidelity.

Men need emotional intimacy, too

The truth is, acts of kindness and gestures of appreciation mean a lot to men, too, even though they are less likely to express these feelings than women. Patricia Covalt, author of What Smart Couples Know agrees that emotional connection is key to a happy relationship. "Most long-term relationships/marriages eventually evolve to a point when friendship and/or companionship is the glue that holds them together," adds Covalt.

Which is why it's critical for couples to include intimate conversation, emotional connecting, and making "us" time for each other. Check out these ways to keep your relationship strong.

Strengthening your relationship

Make your partner feel appreciated. It's easy for long-term couples to start taking each other for granted, and the things you loved about your partner when you first met may have faded over time. However, it's important to keep expressing that feeling of admiration for each other: Thank him when he does something nice for you, and aim to give him at least one sincere compliment everyday -- be it a physical asset ("You look delicious in this shirt!") or a personality trait. ("Thank you for being so supportive.") When you express appreciation for your partner, it reassures him your love and helps boosts his self-esteem.

Make for more quality couple time. You need time as a couple to make sure your marriage stays strong, so set aside at least ten minutes everyday just for each other. Any activity that reconnects you and nurtures your bond counts as quality couple time -- whether it's a lazy weekend lounging around, cooking something together, a pillow talk before you go to sleep, a quiet evening at home alone with the kids at the parents' place, or even a mid-week lunch date. All these special moments together add up to reinforce your intimacy as a couple.

Extracted from: http://www.shoppinglifestyle.com/love/article.asp?id=831

P/S: i promised i will put up one for ourselves, why women cheat.. :D

... updates ~ my interests ...

2009-06-19T01:56:00.001+08:00

meet up with jo~N aka my sista and 2 of her church mates to get roller blades.. yes, this is my latest interest right now other than bowling.. haha..

talking about bowling.. the world is so small.. i got to know a new bowling kaki through work! she's from TNT Freight and is trying to get my business.. haha..

while chatting with her.. (opps! it's during working hours.. yes, i admit) found out hell lots of information about her.. then we just stepped on the bowling topic and wow!! we're so enthusiastic and delighted about it.. so, arranged to play bowling next tuesday at safra mt faber..

ok, back to my roller blading thing.. oh, 4 of us went to this shop, Skateline to look at some roller blades as they are having discount.. it's the GSS right now.. so i guess everyone is giving discount everywhere..

it turned out roller blades could cost almost the same price as a bowling ball.. of course, amateur like me would not need to get high end ones.. those $100-200 would do just fine.. this sport is cheaper than bowling isn't it??

anyway, my guru and another gal (half teacher i would say) need to get new ones as their old one are spoiled.. in the end, both my guru and my sis bought their new toy..

well, i'm luckier.. i'm getting mine for free!! yippee!! :P as it turns out someone is giving away a old pair and it happens to be my size.. i will be getting them on sunday and we're all going roller blading after that.. (god is looking after me.. *a-men* ) hee :-)

crossed my fingers i could wear that free pair, else i would need to get myself a new pair..

... breast cancer ...

2009-06-17T01:34:00.001+08:00

this is a forwarded mail... take your time to read it... better safe than sorry!

~~~~~~~~~~

1. 為何乳癌最常發生在靠近腋窩的地方？

不久以前，我參加了一個由 Terry Birk 贊助的「乳癌防制研討會」，在最後的問答時間裏，我提出了一個問題：「為什麼乳癌常見的區域在靠近腋窩的地方呢？」

當時沒有人可以回答我的問題，可是最近我收到這封信，我發現它解決了我當時提出的問題。一位朋友將這封信轉寄給我，我把它給一位正在接受化療的朋友看，她說在她最近參加的互助團體中，她也正好學到這件事情。那就是「導致毒素累積成惡性腫瘤的原因是 --- 剃或拔除腋毛。」

最主要的理由是：人體有幾個主要排除毒素的區域，包括了膝蓋後方關節，耳後，鼠蹊及腋窩。它們排除毒素的方法就是「流汗」。

腋毛會幫助汗水順著腋毛流出體外，若剃或拔掉腋毛，因而阻止了我們身體的毒素從腋窩排出。但是這些毒素並不會因此而消失，反而會因為無法排汗而儲存我們腋下的淋巴結，幾乎所有的乳癌都是發生在乳房外側上方的區域，那正是淋巴結所在的地方。它剛開始生腫瘤的地方就剛剛好離腋窩不遠，不久就會蔓延到整個乳房。

男人之所以比較不會得到9癌的原因是因為他們從未剃掉腋毛，這些毒素就被阻絕在他們的腋毛之外而不會直接接觸到皮膚。可能你會問男人每天剃鬍子為何不會得乳癌，因下巴並不靠近乳房，也沒有淋巴組織。

不但如此，在剃毛時剃刀可能會割傷皮膚，女人如果在剃毛之後馬上使用防汗/止汗用品，更會提高罹患乳癌的機率，因為這樣皮膚上那些細微的傷痕使得止汗用品的化學物質可以直接進入到腋窩。

就算你不搽防汗用品，在剃毛或拔毛時，會暫時使腋下毛孔擴張，使細菌更容易進入，有腋毛也會幫助阻隔細菌直接接觸到腋窩。

西方洋人婦女比我們華人女性更注重儀錶，但是現在她們也開始不剃腋毛了，因為她們現在也意識到不美觀總好過患上乳癌。

請你將這個訊息轉寄給你認識的女孩子，你的姐妹, 尤其是你媽嗎, 40歲以上的婦女更加不可以剃，因為這個年齡層患癌風險更加高，因為乳癌的罹患率已經高的驚人，這樣的認識或許可以挽救許多的生命。

請將此信轉寄給你生命中所有的女人：母親、女兒、姊妹、伯母阿姨以及朋友。

2. 一種罕見的新種乳癌於十一月被發現。

一名女士的乳房如同哺乳中的婦人般起了濕疹。

她的乳房X光攝影片並沒有顯示出任何代表硬塊的陰影，因此醫師只開了一般的抗生素以避免進一步的細菌感染。上了兩次醫院後病情卻持續惡化，醫師於是再度請她去照乳房X光攝影。

這回陰影出現了。切片檢查後，發現了急速複製中的惡性腫瘤細胞。為了減緩細胞複製，先是化療，接下來乳房切除，然後又是一整個療程的化療以及放射線治療。九個月的密集治療之後，醫師們保她恢復健康了﹗

之後整整一年的時間，她過著最充實的生活，然而這批頑強的癌細胞竟轉移到肝臟！四個療程之後她決定捨棄有著許多副作用的化療，找回生活品質。她詳細的計畫最後五個月所有的生活細節，最後的幾天在嗎啡的麻醉效果下，安祥的走了。

她在臨死前留下了這封訊息，希望轉達給所有的女性朋友們！女士們！請隨時注意身體細微的變化，並且，有任何不正常的情形時，請儘早尋求醫療協助！

乳房外柏哲氏病：這是一種罕見的癌前病變，以濕疹型態發生於乳頭及乳暈上。濕疹後來會形成一片邊緣有硬皮的傷口。我不曾懷疑這可能是癌症，但癌症找到了我。

我的乳房並沒有任何異。我看醫師唯一的理由是因為這偶爾會發癢、疼痛，十分惱人又醜陋的濕疹。家庭醫師開給我的任何乳膏都無法除去它；皮膚科醫師先前給我的眼周皮膚病藥物也無法治好它。

讓似乎讓人感到不安，但無法使我聯想到癌症的到來。我懷疑許多的女性朋友們都不知道乳暈及乳頭上的濕疹可能象徵乳癌。（我一開始的症狀僅是乳頭上冒出一個小痘子）。

柏哲氏病之所以可怕的理由之一，就是因為：乳頭上那似乎無害的細菌感染或是發炎，卻在延誤就醫後一發不可收拾。

有哪些症狀呢?

i. 乳頭有持續的紅腫、不明分泌物以及導致搔癢及灼熱感的硬皮剝落。（我一開始的時候除了一邊乳房有硬皮剝落外，沒有其他症狀）。

ii. 乳頭上有無法癒合的傷口。（我當初的傷口分佈在乳暈，乳頭中彊並且有白色濃稠分泌物）

iii. 通常只有一邊乳房被感染。這怎麼判斷呢？您的醫師會在觸壓檢查以後，建議您立刻做兩個乳房的X光攝影。因為正常皮膚炎的症狀為紅腫、硬皮剝落以及不明分泌物，所以醫師只有在症狀轉僅產生于單一乳房時，才會懷疑癌症的可能性。屆時進行發炎部位的病理切片，就能找出病因。請嚴肅的看待這封信，並且盡你所能的轉寄給親朋好友；它可能拯救許多人的生命。

我的乳癌在無數化療、28個療程的放射線物理治療以及持續服用抗雌激素後，依舊轉移到骨隨。如果能早點診斷出乳癌，說不定就不會發生這種事了。

致所有的讀者：女性同胞不知道柏哲氏病是非常讓人難過的消息。為了幫助四周所有的女人，請將此訊息轉發給周圍的人，你可能會因此挽救一個生命....

3. 另外還有一條重要資訊請注意：面紙〔Facial Tissue〕含有滑石粉塵會致卵巢癌.... 你不可不知面紙含有滑石粉塵會致卵巢癌。這不是~~衛生紙〔Toilet Paper〕與面紙〔Tissue〕擦在哪里（屁股上）的問題喔！

以面紙取名為面紙，因為只能擦臉。衛生紙取名為衛生紙，就是要擦了會衛生的。

以下資料來源：永豐餘造紙股份有限公司∶

董事長秘書楊秘書以前曾看過有關衛生紙與面紙的討論。一直覺得有些疑問，所以我終於請教本公司研發部陳經理得知衛生紙與面紙的製作差異：兩者均是原生紙漿製作，均有經過消毒程式，衛生紙未再加工添加任何添加物。而面紙加工添加入濕強劑，在水中不易斷裂，所以不適沖入馬桶；又添加了柔軟劑及活性劑，紙粉（粉塵）多。你若不信可將面紙在空抖幾下，你會看到很多紙粉掉出來。

一般人都認為面紙紙質較好，就是因為添加了這些東西加工，也使得成本居高，當然售價也較高。

因此陳經理解釋說，面紙不能當作衛生紙使用，尤其女孩子使用面紙當替衛生紙來擦拭下體。所以就算廁所裏沒有放衛生紙，也千萬別用面紙來檫陰部。

要千萬注意，陰部皮膚敏感的人會有不適反應，也會導致卵巢癌。

陳經理還說，他們本身懂得這些原理的人，自己家裏都少用面紙，儘量全面使用衛生紙。

... 放下 ...

2009-06-15T00:39:00.000+08:00

每次看完一部偶像劇就會有很深的感觸。

昨晚我把《敗犬女王》‘趕’完了。當然，也哭紅了雙眼。發覺我開始很容易受感動。動不動就能哭得稀里嘩啦。眼淚好像水龍頭喔！

當中，有一幕女主角去訪問神經科醫生。問了一個問題。（忘記是什麽了)... 只記得那醫生説道∶ 放下其實只需要一分鐘，不是嗎？

讓我不禁領悟這道理。

何必一直在意莫件人事物而對此耿耿於懷呢？很多時候，我們都不懂得取捨；不曉得放下的樂趣。不管是愛情或事業，我們都對它們那麽的執著。因此，背負這沉重的枷鎖使到自己痛苦不堪。

何不學著放下讓自己好過一點？

... outing with classmates ~ finally! ...

2009-06-13T03:57:00.001+08:00

it's been a long time since i went KTV.. my wish is fulfilled tonight..

went to kallang k-box with a few of my classmates.. don't know what is really wrong.. everytime me and my class rep arranged something, definately will be cancelled and postpone to another day..

managed to get it going this time.. however, supposed to be about 9 of us, in the end? 5 of them couldn't make it last minute and left only 4 of us..

well, we still enjoyed ourselves and our class rep, bruce is the only thorn among the roses!!! carol joined us after the singing.. as it's still early, we adjourn to dempsy road, red dot for a drink.. as bruce's friend owned it and can get discount mah.. :P

nice ambience i must say.. we shared a lot of things and i must say our dear class rep is really one comical guy.. made us laughed the whole night..

it's been a while since i last drank (2 years or maybe longer??).. so couldn't really hold my drink even though we only ordered a tower of beer and shared.. concluded beer is still yucky to me..

furthermore, i was more concerned about road block that night so didn't really dare to drink mnore.. luckily i escaped.. haha..

anyway, i don't mind to go back to red dot again in future.. however, i shall have coffee or tea already.. the feeling of being caught is too scary..

... microwaving water - dangerous! ...

2009-06-10T21:40:00.005+08:00

A 26-year old man decided to have a cup of coffee. He took a cup of water and put it in the microwave to heat it up (something that he had done numerous times before). I am not sure how long he set the timer for, but he wanted to bring the water to a boil.. When the timer shut the oven off, he removed the cup from the oven. As he looked into the cup, he noted that the water was not boiling, but suddenly the water in the cup 'blew up' into his face.

The cup remained intact until he threw it out of his hand, but all the water had flown out into his face due to the build up of energy. His whole face is blistered and he has 1st and 2nd degree burns to his face which may leave scarring. He also may have lost partial sight in his left eye.

While at the hospital, the doctor who was attending to him stated that this is a fairly common occurrence and water (alone) should never be heated in a microwave oven. If water is heated in this manner, something should be placed in the cup to diffuse the energy such as a wooden stir stick, tea bag, etc.., (nothing metal).

General Electric's Response:

Thanks for contacting us, I will be happy to assist you. The e-mail that you received is correct. Microwaved water and other liquids do not always bubble when they reach the boiling point. They can actually get superheated and not bubble at all. The superheated liquid will bubble up out of the cup when it is moved or when something like a spoon or tea bag is put into it.

To prevent this from happening and causing injury, do not heat any liquid for more than two minutes per cup. After heating, let the cup stand in the microwave for thirty seconds! before moving it or adding anything into it.

Here is what our local science teacher had to say on the matter: 'Thanks for the microwave warning. I have seen this happen before. It is caused by a phenomenon known as super heating. It can occur anytime water is heated and will particularly occur if the vessel that the water is heated in is new, or when heating a small amount of water (less than half a cup).

What happens is that the water heats faster than the vapor bubbles can form. If the cup is very new then it is unlikely to have small surface scratches inside it that provide a place for the bubbles to form. As the bubbles cannot form and release some of the heat has built up, the liquid does not boil, and the liquid continues to heat up well past its boiling point.

What then usually happens is that the liquid is bumped or jarred, which is just enough of a shock to cause the bubbles to rapidly form and expel the hot liquid. The rapid formation of bubbles is also why a carbonated beverage spews when opened after having been shaken.

... good one!! ...

2009-06-05T23:08:00.000+08:00

A little rabbit happily running through the forest stumbles upon a giraffe rolling a Marijuana cigarette.

The rabbit looks at her and says, "Giraffe my friend, why do you do this? Think about your health. Come with me running through the forest, you'll see, you'll feel so much better!"

The giraffe looks at him, looks at the joint, tosses it and goes off running with the rabbit.

Then they come across an elephant doing Opium, so the rabbit again says, "Elephant my friend, why do you do this? Think about your health. Come running with us through the pretty forest, you'll see, you'll feel so good!"

The elephant looks at them, looks at his razor, mirror and all, and then tosses them and starts running with the rabbit and giraffe.

The three animals then come across a lion about to take a Heroin shot...

The rabbit says "Lion my friend, why do you do this? Think about your health! Come running with us through the sunny forest, you will feel so good!"

The lion looks at him, puts down his needle, and starts to beat the hell out of the little rabbit.

As the giraffe and elephant watch in horror, they look at him and ask, "Lion, why did you do this? He was merely trying to help us all!"

The lion answers...

"That little devil makes me run around the forest like an idiot for hours every time he's high on Cocaine!"

... don't judge too quickly ...

2009-06-04T23:27:00.001+08:00

in life, all of us always judge things too quickly..

are you one of them??

here's some example.. enjoy!

Romantic Dinner that becomes .... murder??? eating brownie or .... pooh??? electrocute the fly or .... patient???

... yoga ...

2009-06-01T22:54:00.003+08:00

finished my yoga class in school just now.. wow! i must say it's something that is so interesting!!what we learnt is call hatha yoga..

they are the volunteers from the Nikam Guruji Yoga Kutir school (www.yoganikam.com) which the teacher founded this teaching about 50years ago.. in singapore, the first batch of students 'graduated' about 12 years already.. they have so far about 60-80 thousands of students and it's still growing..

well, we have about 35 participants (out of total 49 participants) tonight and should really give a round of applause to 2 guys who joined us!!

learnt 3 different postures and must tell you, it's not that easy as it seems!!

anyway, this will be a 9 weeks class.. so good luck to me!

... singapore open 2009 ...

2009-05-30T04:02:00.000+08:00

went down about 11pm tonight to watch singapore open.. ya it's quite late but had the impression that 8.30pm MQ (qualifying squad) will be delayed about 3 hours mah..

in the end i realized i missed that squad.. luckily didn't missed the 10pm one.. by the time it started it's almost 12midnight already..

come to think of it, it's been a while since i went down to 'take part' in competition.. a year plus already??? anyway that's not the point..

don't quite like the atmosphere during major competition.. the intense pressure within the environment is unbearable at times.. everyone looked so stern.. one tiny mistake made (eg. not a strike) is like one's gettin cancer but yet can't die.. ok ok maybe this way of descrption a bit 'sala'.. however, i truly think at times competitve bowling really could kill someone.. :P

anyway, it's my holiday now so i'm quite free from now on till august.. so i'll be back to bowling soon!! :D

... maths is really not my cup of tea ...

2009-05-29T23:12:00.001+08:00

i thought i prepared well.. still i'm wrong.. slept about 2am this morning.. woke up about 8am to go school to do last minute revision..

when i got the question paper, i was so confident that i could do it as they look similar compared to last year paper..

then, the amazing thing happen.. i only managed to finish 2 questions out of 7 of it.. the rest?? either i forgot the formula or i totally forgot how to do it!! i couldn't even finished my section b at all when i only need to attempt 2 questions which consists of 50%!!

i was already cursing and swearing myself.. if i could do it aloud, everyone will be staring at me then.. haha.. anyway, it's a failure.. colleagues said i'm too tired, not enough of rest that's why..

anyway, i'm still glad i didn't kill myself in the exam hall and pulled it through.. best of all (hooray! 3 cheers for myself) i don't have to face maths and statistics again.. EVER!!

... 早睡早起? ...

2009-05-23T10:26:00.006+08:00

是我老了嗎？還是早睡早起是件好事？或者因爲日有所思；夜有所夢？但我沒做夢嘛。

昨晚十一點多就寢了，今早七點多就醒來。已經有幾次這樣的情況了。每次早睡就會早起。但沒像今天這麽誇張！死了咯！這樣下去我不是得晚睡才能晚起？

結果，又不能逼自己睡回籠只好起身。整個早上無所事事，真浪費！